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Why Do Some Women Like a Big Penis?

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Loving CoupleIf you ask most women whether penis size is important to them, they will probably say it doesn’t matter and mean it. Of course, a man’s looks, personality, intelligence, and character are more important than the size of his penis, and his sexual skills have more to do with bringing a woman to orgasm than his penis size. After all, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion in the ocean, right?  However, what women say isn’t always how they instinctively feel. Why do some women like a big penis?

A big penis has always been seen as a symbol of manliness.  (A common way to disparage a man is to insinuate that he is under-endowed.) When a man with a bigger penis is erect, he is seen as a more powerful and stronger man in the eyes of women and is, therefore, perceived in our minds as potentially a better lover. Women also tend to think that a larger penis is more attractive than a smaller one due to its being more visible in comparison to rest of the body.

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The truth of the matter is that some women don’t so much like a big penis as they dislike a small one. A small penis isn’t visually stimulating and doesn’t get you excited about the lovemaking to come. Also, many women complain that a small, slender penis doesn’t “fill them up,” or, even worse, that they can’t feel anything when the man is inside them.

On the other hand, a big penis does give that “full” feeling that women desire. During foreplay, there is something exciting and fascinating about being able to wrap both hands around a throbbing, pulsating, and continually expanding piece of male flesh. Large men also have the advantage when doing it doggy style or in a scissors fashion. Length is necessary in several sexual positions where the distance between them and the depths of a woman’s vagina is expansive.

Actually, most women who desire a well-endowed lover are not looking for length as much as girth. Women tend to want a penis that is very thick (at least six inches around), heavy, and rock hard more than they are concerned with length. The ideal penis is one which is thick enough to stretch a woman’s vaginal opening and which can be felt inside her body each time she has sex. An extremely thick penis creates more friction against the vaginal walls and also can stimulate a woman’s clitoris better, which helps her to achieve orgasm.

A big penis, however, is not a panacea for sexual dissatisfaction. In fact, an ignorant, selfish man with a big penis is liable to cause a woman a lot more pain than pleasure during intercourse. On the other hand, a big penis wielded by a skillful lover can take a woman to undreamed of heights of sexual pleasure and fulfillment. That’s why some women like a big penis.

66 Responses to Why Do Some Women Like a Big Penis?

  • Shane says:

    I know what works and doesn’t work I don’t have a big cock it average and with that I need to be resourceful during sex with my wife. The fact if on average the female vagina is bigger on average than the average male penis. During sex for the first 5-10 minutes my wife’s pussy feels nice and snug once she get exited I feel less friction. I brought it up , at first she was defensive about it. I abandoned the subject waiting for another time to bring it up with a different approach. I waited till after a great night out dinner drinks and dancing at the casino with my wife. Again I brought up the subject to her but telling her I wanted to make our sex life better for both of us. I talked about things about me not her and went from there and opened conversation it was fun to talk. She started opening up more and more and she said his once we start having sex and gets excited and enjoying it the friction starts to fade away and it’s frustrating for her. That opened the door for me to learn more and talk more about her needs that I wasn’t or could fill while making love to her. I can only describe it as awkward for both if us mostly my wife who would constantly hide back in a shell after awhile. It took several more times talking to each other about this till we actually got to the point it wasn’t awkward anymore. It’s hard and take allot of time serious talking and learning. The biggest thing is you can’t compare your wife to mine nor can I compare my wife to any other female what they need. I do know now having a thick enough cock and going deep enough to touch all the right spots makes it easier. We got into the subject of sex toys and eventually getting back out of a shell being nervous about toys got on a web site. She wouldn’t pick on but enjoyed reading the comments of people who had used them. I surprised her getting several different sizes all bigger than me one over 10″ long and a bit above average thickness. The other a little thicker than the 10″ER but only about 8″ insertable the other was huge both length and girth. I actually didn’t give that one to her right away just the first two. I also bought two huge bottles of high quality lube like one site had said it was better to introduce a big toy with lots of lube and don’t run out lol. It went great and while my wife was at first skiddish about doing this. Once she got going she couldn’t hide the truth in the pleasure she felt enjoying the bigger difference. She enjoyed both and took both like a both and orgasmed hard for the first time during vaginal penetration. She was skiddish to talk about it after and didn’t want to feel like a slut I could tell and it took awhile for her to open up. What she said first was how the thickness really helped her feeling sensations that we didn’t have together with my penis. It didn’t bother me I knew I even didn’t feel sensation either and she helped make up for that. When she gave me head she squeezes my cock like a vice using lube stroking it with a vice grip like feeling that drives me wild. I ended up pulling out the John Holmes dildo and used that on her and drive her wild she was shaking and quivering like a leaf in a hurricane when I used it on her. Let’s just say if my wife is having trouble sleeping I use that on her and she sleeps thru the night lol.

  • JasB says:

    If size matters that much, and women prefer 7-8 inches, then why evolutionary aveage size is only 5.5 inches?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    The purpose of sex is procreation, not pleasure., so any size penis can ejaculate semen. Nevertheless, I read in article that said that scientists believed that human penises are so much larger than other primates due to selection by women, favoring larger penises. Maybe this can only work to a point, however. Women prefer tall men, too,, but not all men are 6’2″+.

  • JasB says:

    ”A favorite explanation for the big phallus is female mate choice, that females selectively make babies with males who have larger and, presumably, more pleasurable semen delivery devices.”

    I think the average will stay the same as it is. Big penis maybe can get more women, but i doubt that it will produce more baybes. (21s century)

  • JasB says:

    ”female sexual desires have to be more differentiated than those of men. Nature regulates this by not allowing them full sexual satisfaction with the lesser male who may be their permanent partner. They may bond ok with a lesser male, and develop the emotions summarized as “love”, but there is an element that becomes obvious to them only over time, and usually only after having given birth to an offspring fathered by a lesser male (thus already making sure of her genes’ survival in principle). This element is her desire for sexual satisfaction with a male who is better equipped to bring her to the level of sexual pleasure that results in a vaginal orgasm. Thus, female sexual, more than male sexual desire, is dualistic: have a love relationship with a permanent partner, and seek sexual satisfaction with an alpha male.’

    Is there some tuth to it?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It’s well-known that females of every species prefer to breed with an alpha male if possible. Also, women who know what full sexual satisfaction is like will often seek it outside their relationship if they are not getting it there.

  • Ashley says:

    Personally I feel this thickness makes a cock actually ranked in the huge or big category. You can have a 7 1/2″ penis but if it’s average girth I’m not feeling like I have a big one inside me. That’s just my own experience with sex maybe it’s different for others. Give me a 8 1\2″ long 6 3/4″ around cock and I’m a very happy girl.

  • Billy says:

    Mine is only 4.5″ long and 4.5″ girth. My wife has been with ~20 men before me. She says I’m her second largest. It kinda bothers me because I know she is lying. She never wants sex probably because She almost never has an orgasm unless I do oral or she is on top. If she gets real turned on and lubed, I don’t think she can even feel me. She has given birth to 3 children now too. I have fallen out before and she kept going like I was still in. I just wish she would be honest with me. I am open to using toys or even letting her try larger men.
    4.5″x4.5″ is really quite small right?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Yes, it is.

  • Billy says:

    That’s what I thought. She did confess her very first boyfriend was very well endowed. Evidently he was about 8″-9″ with a 6″ girth when he was 17 (she was 14). I would love to see her have fun with a really hung stud. I have caught her gazing at men’s crotches that have a noticeably large bulge but I know she is too conservative to try one out. Maybe one day she will explore a little with me.

  • JasB says:

    So 7-8 inches is perfect size?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    For many women, it is.

  • Tatyana says:

    Yes, I just LUV my hubby’s Long silky smooth manhood! We both go & get waxed together (Hollywood Style) on a reg. basis & we prefer the smooth look & feel of it on one another. It even makes his beautiful manhood look even more endowed, not that he needs it by any means at 23 cm’s (9 + in.). Rather have a little more than a lot less when it comes length of a man’s erect penis,it’s an Eastern European girl thing & he makes me very happy & complete! Besides who needs the hair it just get’s in the way of things really & who likes to rub their Brillo pads (Pubic hairs) together? No hair, don’t care! Were just a couple of smoothies & I’m Luving it! ;-)

  • Tanya says:

    I think most women would agree to some degree that size doe’s matter. Rather have too much than not enough to feel happy & fulfilled. I don’t have to worry about that though, & I have to say I think I’m a very lucky girl with my hubby. Were both a couple of smoothies we go & get waxed together on a reg. basis, we prefer & enjoy sporting the full Brazilian (Hollywood Style) look for one another. Not too mention it makes his beautiful manhood standout looking even longer & gorgeous for me who’s just a little over 23 cm’s or 9 in.. It just feels so much more sensual when your both smooth & needless to say he makes me very happy with his clean, silky smooth manhood. We both enjoy the look & feel of being smooth for each other it’s just so much better overall besides who enjoys hair, it just get’s in the way! No hair don’t care. Who wants hair getting in the way?Just a matched pair of happy smoothies & I’m just luving every inch of him! ;-)

  • Dorian says:

    Unfortunately I am quite small and I know that my wife likes them really big. Would you recommend to try hotwifing? What would be the turn on for my wife to have me watch her being taken by a well hung bull? Isn´t it some kind of sadismus of the wife to let the man see that he is not able to satisfy her enough? What other turn on is it for a woman to let her man watch?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Typically, the watching part is more of a turn-on for the man, who gets to see his wife experience sexual ecstasy, possibly for the first time.

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