When Is Sex Bad for You?
Reckless sex may signal the need for deep self-examination, says Stanley Siegel.
When is sex bad for you?
Sex can turn bad for us when we repeatedly pursue encounters with the hope that each new experience will relieve our tension, anxiety or boredom or help us escape from pain or conflict. Because our body produces a surge of powerful chemicals during the excitement of sex, binging acts as a momentary antidepressant blotting out pain and flooding us with feelings of well-being. But when the effect begins to wear off, we are left with even greater anxiety, feelings of emptiness or shame from which we also crave to escape. The thought and pursuit of sex progressively dominate our lives until we are caught up in a cycle of endless lust or romantic obsession. Read more
In other words, it’s really not how you have sex or how much you have that matters, but when, where, and why.