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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.
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35 Responses to What Does Sex Feel Like for a Woman?

  • Treacle says:

    That’s perfect!

    I’ll send my boyfriend here next time he asks me how sex feels. :-)

  • Deborah Lazaroff says:

    Depends upon the type of sex, but it’s always deeply emotionally and psychologically gratifying. Sucking cock is an amazing experience: it’s both a very powerful and very submissive thing to do, and there’s no other experience quite like it. That first moement of being penetrated by a man is deeply, deeply satisfying. Feeling the man inside me. smelling and tasting his skin. Listening to the sounds he makes. Meeting his thrusts and matching his rythmn. It’s like all’s right in the world. The secret to having great sex with s man or a woman is to understand that in reality, the pleasure points aren’t that different. The clit is just a tiny, ultrasensitive uncircumscised penis. It should be sucked and stroked like a penis, in proportion to its size. The G spot is located in almost the same spot where the prostate is located in a man, between one – two inches in and along the front wall of the vagina.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    That first penetration is my favorite moment of intercourse.

  • Amature Girl says:

    It is the HOTTEST…most intensely sexy feeling ever!!! :p

  • Jeff says:


    What’s the difference between the first penetration and intercourse that makes it your favorite?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    The first penetration is my favorite part because when I become highly aroused, I feel an intense desire to be filled up. This feeling is sometimes called the “vaginal ache.” The penis filling my vagina relieves that “ache.” However, this doesn’t happen if the man puts it in too soon before I’m ready for it and wanting it.

  • A Stranger says:

    Just reading of your feelings is quite a turn on – there’s a sense of honesty and lust. Men must get very attached to you ;-).

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Please do try to describe male sexual sensations. My female readers are I are curious.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I’ve never read such a detailed description of sexual intercourse from the male point of view. No wonder men are so eager to do it :)!

  • This is definitely the best description of the male sexual experience that I’ve come across. I’m surprised that you say you don’t feel your orgasm in your penis. What about the jerking and feeling the semen spurt?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I would think feeling the penis jerk and semen spurt would be part of the orgasm, too, Jen, but maybe that doesn’t actually feel pleasurable.

  • Jeff says:

    what are some last second teases that can be done with the penis before the first penetration that heightens in the anticipation

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    You could try rubbing the head of your penis between the vaginal lips and/or against the clitoris. Another thing you might try is to just put the head at the opening and leave it there for a few moments, and once you push in, stop with no more than the head inside. If she’s ready to have you inside her, these moves will drive her crazy!

  • First off I want to say terrific blog! I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your mind before writing. I’ve had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out there. I do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints? Thank you!

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I think about what I’m going to write when I’m not writing. Then, when I sit down to write, I just have to get it down.

  • Karl says:

    I read the descriptions of both parties for Female and Male. What sex feels like for both. I must say that I think the Man was quite right. I have only had sex with one woman (Some may not believe me but its true). What he discribed was spot on.

    That said how ever. Regardless of how much more plesurable masterbation may be to normal sex. I would take regular sex any day of the week. I find it far more fulfilling and rewarding.

    Self serve to me is borring. Thats my 2 cents.

  • Mike says:

    I did not realize it until my wife mention it to me but for her sex with me was a far more than a roll in the sack. Since she was 12-13 she had a serious crush on me. During her preteen and early teen years I was the picture in her mind when she masturbated. I was so much older than she (7 years) and never noticed her until she was 17. Her deep feeling for me and growing maturity made her finally approach and ask me out.

    She knew all about me. She dated and lost her virginity to a guy her own age because she never thought I would look he way because of the age difference. Even while she was dating and getting an occasional screw from her boy friend she would stare at me in church, making her pussy wet while thinking about me making love to her. When we began dating my love for her was equal to hers. She was a really keeper

    Sex was wonderful. She never hid how much she loved me during sex and every time I slid inside her warmth and wetness there were feeling of more than just lust. She wanted my baby growing inside her. In her mind she was ready for love and marriage and began craving baby making sex. I never had a problem making her cum and for a year never knew what our sex meant to her. It was only after a nice drive on Thanksgiving that I told her I wanted children with her that she mention she felt the same feeling since we began dating.

    Her climax during sex was not just a physical act but a deep emotional one. She never felt that way for her old boy friend and often faked an orgasm with him. I guess women have levels of intimacy which men aren’t always aware of. She wanted my baby but not the other guys. There were times were we had pregnancy scares and she was hoping it would turn out positive. With the other guy she stayed on the pill and even counted days on a calendar because she dreaded being pregnant by him.

  • Ashley says:

    I agree with the first moment of penitration the stretching sensation OMG I love it. I know allot of women don’t like pain. I find pleasure from a stretch that challenges me, I think women who get umcfortable are to tense or something I don’t quite understand. To be honest I never found it actually painfull as in I’m going to cry just a challenge for the moment. My first time didn’t hurt but I was with an average size 6 1/2″ penis so maybe that’s why my first and only challenger lol was my Jerry my husbands best friend.who we have brought into our lives.

  • DJ says:

    Thank you for this wonderful, detailed description. I often wonder what sex feels like for a woman. I will give you my best description of what it feels like for this man, and try to address some of the ladies’ comments and questions.

    The first moment of penetration is also a magical moment for me. Once I am in, it’s like confirmation that sex is really going to happen. I can feel the warm, moist inner walls of her vagina close in around my penis as if to welcome it in.

    Similar to what you said, there’s is an instinctual, animal feeling about penetrating. I just want to be inside her, as deep as possible, as high up as possible. As I move back and forth, in and out, it feels like a nice massage. It is made even more intense when she moves her hips and butt against me like she’s trying to take me all the way inside her.

    When I orgasm, it’s like a build up of tension and then a big release. The the penis jerk and semen spurt would is part of my orgasm. Afterward, my penis is very sensitive and ticklish.

    Wow, I’m feeling so horny now! Hopefully my wife and I will experience these sensations tonight.

  • Anna Roid says:

    Is it my mistake or are there comments missing from this response column? I’m pretty sure there was previously a comment from a man describing intercourse from the male point of view. I wanted to show it to my boyfriend for his reaction but it seems to be gone.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Nothing has been deleted. I think there are a couple of comments along those lines. It could be that you saw a comment on a different post.

  • Jeff says:

    The sexual orgasm should be listed as one of the wonders of the world. A man will truly never know what a woman’s orgasm feels like. A woman will truly never know what a man’s orgasm feels like.

    Can you describe what an orgasm feels like to women? Where is greatest sensation and pleasure of a woman’s orgasm mostly felt?

    Would it be ok if I shared my experience of the male orgasm?

    To me there is no better feeling and moment in the world. It truly is breathtaking, even more so if I’m sharing that moment with a woman. I always try to satisfy her before I’m satisfied.

    For me, all the pleasure is felt within my penis. As I start to approach ejaculation, I begin to feel this amazing sensation building up in my penis, starting from the base, up through the shaft towards the head. The closer I get, the more intense the sensation becomes. Then I begin to cross the point of no return. I start breathing heavier and groaning more. My butt and legs tighten as I push my hips a little forward and at the same time I feel my penis becoming stiffer, harder and slightly bigger as the sensation in my penis is now overpoweringly intense. Ejaculation is inevitable. Mentally, I’m focused on nothing but that incredible sensation in my penis. The sensation feels so amazing, it’s empowering, it engulfs my entire penis from the base up the shaft to the head. It’s so empowering that nothing will take my mind off of it. Then, the moment of truth. The incredible sensation in my penis begins pulsating through the entire length, making the feeling the most intense as I feel my semen spurting out the head of my penis as a result of the contractions from deep within. My mind focuses on nothing but the incredible sensation that continuously pulsates up my penis as I tend to subconsciously grunt every time it’s felt. Then the sensation begins to diminish. The pulsations become less and less as well as my grunting. At the final moment my penis softens and the head becomes extremely sensitive. My mind is now in a fog as my entire body becomes numb. If the moment is shared with a woman, however it was shared, the perfect conclusion is her deeply cuddled into my arms.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I’ll think about doing an article on that topic.

  • fred hopper says:

    i am a 42 year old male i never had amy sex,i am tired ijustnever found a a girlfrind in just a lone time i do not think that lady wants a virgin man any more what do you think . i can not find any one around where i live at i live i in town litchfield and hillsboro illinois and i can not find any one here they are are already married and boyfriends and such,i want a girl friend and married and find love to got any ideas i hope so thanks fred

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Since you live in an area which has a small population, I guess, online dating is probably the way to go.You might be surprised that women who don’t live far from you are looking also. I wouldn’t advise advertising that you’re a virgin, but like a lot of thing, if a woman likes you, it probably isn’t a dealbreaker.

  • Lovett Youkai says:

    I’m a male. And for as long as I can remember I’ve had dreams about being female…
    My body reacts funny to my vivid dreams, in a dream where I get hurt (typically waking me from the dream instantly) on waking I find residual sensation in the area affected in the dream. Example: got stabbed and woke up, can still feel the knife sliding into my flesh and the area in question feels strange, kinda of painful but mostly uncomfortable.
    So..And now this is very interesting.. when.I have an opposite gender dream, those sensations are their too! If Its a sex dream and I get penetration I feel it like it’s described here. And when I wake, the area where my vagina would be feels strange, tingly, Damp.

    How can this be happening, and being correct?
    I’m bi, but feel trapped in a man’s body. My cousin says it’s possible my body/soul is remembering a time it had such parts and the dreams are memories.

  • Jessica C says:

    Youkai, it is called being transsexual. Try transitioning like I did. It works and will make you a happier person if you really feel that way…and btw the op’s description of sex with female parts is quite accurate, just had the surgery a couple months ago ;).

  • Sunny says:

    I always imagine myself being desired by boys I have seen in the past that I have thought were sexy. I think of their cocks getting hard and that make sme enjoy my bf.

  • Astra Kiro says:

    fun as this all would be how does one know whether the person being co-active in all of this is the right person to be doing it and after 1 day of this activity is it likely that the emotion of endless love will remain in the minds of both woman and man?

  • Premananda Grace says:

    No age limit on this activity happening? Is the impact of using online chat forums to write love-filled and sexual actions descriptive messages likely to mean that the feelings of intensive love when in actual physical engagement can be felt the same way between the 2 lovers despite having the 800 kilometre geographic separation be overcome via emotions arousing dialogues in online forums?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It depends on the couple. No guarantee.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    Nothing completely replaces physical closeness, but online relationships can be surprisingly intimate and satisfying.

  • Astra Kiro says:

    This feel good sensation applies to all women with men,even in first date circumstances?

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It should if the woman already has experience with big penises, and the man knows what he’s doing.

  • Ryan says:

    Youkai, how could you have been remembering when you had such parts if you were born male? Or were you born female? And is it really that real of a feeling? I’m not sure if the fact of you remembering when u had such parts if j never did. But I’ve seen shows about kids that say they remember dying. And like being in the world trade towers and they fell to their death and having dreams about this. So maybe you could be having a similar issue/experience.

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