What Does Sex Feel Like for a Woman?
What does sex feel like for a woman? When men ask that question, what they usually want to know is what a penis feels like in your vagina. Saying it feels wonderful is enough to put a self-satisfied smirk on most men’s faces and end the discussion, but others aren’t so easily brushed off. They want to know exactly what it feels like when a penis enters you and moves around inside.
For me, the most exquisite sensation of sexual intercourse is when the head first pushes past the lips into my vagina. At the very point of entrance, there is a resistance at first, and then a sensuous, stretched-out feeling as it slides in, though sometimes there’s some pain, depending on the lubrication factor or the size of the penis. When the penis first slides in all the way, it often sends involuntary shivers up my spine. While it’s going in, you can feel the head, but usually (in my case anyway) you can mostly only feel the shaft. If you’ve been waiting a long time for it (or have been teased for a long time), the first slide in feels like such a relief. It’s like an increase of tension and then a release.
There’s an instinctual, animal feeling about being penetrated. You just want him inside you, as deep as possible, as high up as possible. Every time his penis goes in, out, and back in again you can feel shudders all over your body, and it melds into one luscious, rhythmic feeling that you mostly feel at the very base of your stomach, right above the pubic bone. You feel this intense need to gyrate and push and feel his penis in every dimension and angle within you.
When he’s giving it to you hard and fast, sometimes you can’t think about anything but what’s going in and out of you. That’s when you might throw your hips back against him to unconsciously say you want more. When his testicles hit against you or when you feel him bumping your cervix, you know that you’re taking all of him in. and that makes you feel like a real woman.
When you orgasm, you can feel yourself contract around him. As he gets close, you feel his his penis swelling and hardening, and then twitching and pulsating as he ejaculates. I usually don’t feel the semen shooting into me – just an increase in warmth and wetness. When I do feel it, the semen isn’t hitting the vaginal walls, but the cervix.
What I’ve described is the best case scenario. Sex isn’t always that good. In fact, with some men, it’s never that good. Your feelings can vary depending on the situation, the mood, and, most of all, the man you’re with. When you’re with someone you care about and who cares about you, the pleasurable sensations of sex seem to be heightened and intensified. Spreading your legs to take him inside you becomes an act of acceptance and surrender that joins the two of you together into one.
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Tags: female sexuality, penis-in-vagina sex, sexual intercourse, vaginal sex, what does intercourse feel like, what does sex feel like
I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. My sexual history and preferences are detailed in my post 
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That’s perfect!
I’ll send my boyfriend here next time he asks me how sex feels. :-)
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December 30th, 2009 at 7:35 am
Depends upon the type of sex, but it’s always deeply emotionally and psychologically gratifying. Sucking cock is an amazing experience: it’s both a very powerful and very submissive thing to do, and there’s no other experience quite like it. That first moement of being penetrated by a man is deeply, deeply satisfying. Feeling the man inside me. smelling and tasting his skin. Listening to the sounds he makes. Meeting his thrusts and matching his rythmn. It’s like all’s right in the world. The secret to having great sex with s man or a woman is to understand that in reality, the pleasure points aren’t that different. The clit is just a tiny, ultrasensitive uncircumscised penis. It should be sucked and stroked like a penis, in proportion to its size. The G spot is located in almost the same spot where the prostate is located in a man, between one – two inches in and along the front wall of the vagina.
January 1st, 2010 at 1:56 pm
That first penetration is my favorite moment of intercourse.
July 6th, 2010 at 5:20 pm
It is the HOTTEST…most intensely sexy feeling ever!!! :p
July 16th, 2010 at 11:55 pm
Svetlana
What’s the difference between the first penetration and intercourse that makes it your favorite?
July 17th, 2010 at 8:35 am
Jeff,
The first penetration is my favorite part because when I become highly aroused, I feel an intense desire to be filled up. This feeling is sometimes called the “vaginal ache.” The penis filling my vagina relieves that “ache.” However, this doesn’t happen if the man puts it in too soon before I’m ready for it and wanting it.
October 2nd, 2010 at 1:47 am
Just reading of your feelings is quite a turn on – there’s a sense of honesty and lust. Men must get very attached to you ;-).
October 20th, 2010 at 6:57 am
As one of those men who are intensely curious about female sexual sensations, I applaud your honesty in this article.
If you so desire I can try to describe male sexual sensations in my own words for this column.
And, like you, the initial penetration IS my favourite moment in sex.
October 20th, 2010 at 8:38 am
Please do try to describe male sexual sensations. My female readers are I are curious.
October 23rd, 2010 at 12:36 pm
Thank you for this opportunity to try and put the sensation into words. I would appreciate comments.
This is going to be a long response…
Before I begin, I should ask you to bear in mind a few things:
First, I’m circumcised, and while I was circumcised as an adult, I lost my virginity only after the procedure. I’m told that the experience of sex is somewhat different for uncircumcised men, but I can only speak for myself.
Secondly, I am one of those men who cannot wear condoms. I don’t mean this in a male-chauvinist way. I simply can’t physically maintain an erection with one on, because I can feel no stimulation whatsoever. I’m sure there are many more like me, and I’ve heard of a few. It’s a problem that limits our sexual choices because the number of women who are willing to have sex without condoms is somewhat limited. It also means that I can’t tell you of what sex wearing a condom feels like.
Third, my sexual experience is somewhat limited. I’ve had penetrative penis-in-vagina sex with only four different women. Therefore, I can only describe what I felt with these women, in the positions I had intercourse with them. Other women possibly would give me a different experience.
Fourthly, I’m not interested in anal sex. The idea turns me off completely. So what I’ll describe will be limited to penis-inside-vagina intercourse.
Fifthly, all my experience has been with sexually-experienced women. I’ve never successfully had sex with a virgin, and the one attempt at it was a disaster for both of us.
Right.
For me, the experience of sex begins in the mind, even before the first kiss that you know in advance will lead to intercourse. Your heart rate begins to speed up, you begin to feel the excitement in your veins, and your perineal muscles begin to tighten pleasantly. As you kiss and fondle, your penis erects, pushing hard against your clothing (and, for reasons I’ll explain in a moment, this is a sensuous and erotic thing in itself, for this man at least) and you want to take your clothes off. As far as I’m concerned, it’s more fun for me when my partner undresses me than when I do it for myself, though that has nothing directly to do with the sex.
When you’re both naked, then, your kissing and fondling intensifies, and so does the pressure building in your groin. The tightness spreads into the entire pelvic area but most of all is concentrated in the perineum and the sides of the testicles, along the lines of the seminal vesicles. You have an intense desire to thrust your penis into something soft (and this is a masturbation technique that many men use, instead of the penis-in-hand version). This stage requires a degree of self-control, since your partner’s pleasure depends on you postponing the penetration until she’s properly stimulated through foreplay. As far as possible I try and ensure my woman orgasms a couple of times during foreplay, so that she’s ready for what comes next.
Finally, the time comes when you put your penis to her vulval cleft and prepare to penetrate her. By this stage you are not just erect but the glans of your penis is so engorged with blood that it’s highly sensitive and the sensation of pressure in your perineum is intense. I try and rub the head of my penis up and down the cleft a few times, to lubricate my penis in her fluids (a far more exciting way to lubricate than using some kind of sex-shop product). Then comes the penetration.
As I said earlier, I’ve had penetrative sex with only four different women, but it’s been my good fortune that these four have been entirely different sexual types. At one extreme is one whom I’ll call Z, whose vagina is usually wet from the first moments of kissing, and with her my penis slides in without any resistance whatsoever. On the other hand there’s S, whose vagina, no matter how much the foreplay or how many orgasms she’s had, tends to be rather dry at the moment of penetration, but magically lubricates around my penis, so after the initial penetration she’s sweetly slippery and wet.
In either case, once the head of my penis is at the entrance of my partner’s vagina I try to delay full penetration as long as possible, just to heighten the pleasure and anticipation. I move the head of my penis just inside the entrance of the vagina and out again, until neither of us can wait any longer for full penetration. This comes when the urge (in me) to push in becomes overwhelming, and my partner begins thrusting up against me, to take me in as well.
Then, the sensation of penetration is somewhat indescribable, but the best way I can put it into words would be by way of comparison. I’d suggest you try an experiment: lick your finger until it’s wet, and thrust it slowly inside your vagina, feeling the texture of the wet warm tissues on the finger. Now, touch your clitoris, and imagine that the nerve endings in the clit were in your finger, so that the finger was feeling those sensations. That’s something like it, in those first moments, but even more intense because of the incredible feeling it brings, not just in the genitals but all over – in the sigh of release and pleasure your partner emits, in the sensation of her naked body pressed against yours, her aroused nipples against your chest, her breath on your skin – and the pleasure radiates from your pelvis to all parts of your body, not like an orgasm, but like a fulfilment. I’m sorry, but I can’t put it in any better terms.
There’s a difference in the way the penis feels the vagina. Z, whom I’ve mentioned before, has a vagina which grips my penis in a way that is like a ring round the entire base of the penis, so that I can feel in a very real way that I am inside her. The other women I’ve slept with haven’t had vaginas like that; with them, it’s a sensation of enveloping warmth and wetness, which can’t readily be distinguishable for position. In fact, in order to be perfectly sure that the penis is actually inside, one would have to reach down and feel it disappearing inside the vagina, or, if the position allows, to look down and see it.
Either way, the initial sensation of penetration is one of the most intense and erotic of all of intercourse. After one’s penile shaft is inside, in fact, sensation markedly decreases to one of warmth and wetness, which is fortunate in a way because too much stimulation is a guaranteed way to early ejaculation. In some positions, such as with the woman lying on her back with her hips raised and the man standing between her legs, it’s possible to pull almost all the way out between strokes so that each thrust somewhat mimics the sensations of penetration, but it’s almost impossible to last for long in this condition without orgasming.
When your partner orgasms, if she’s being genuine about it, you can usually make it out. Her breath quickens, her limbs tighten around you, and if you slow down you can usually feel the outer portion of her vagina pulsate rhythmically around your penis as her perineal muscles contract. You’ll be feeling your own tension rising in the pit of your stomach, and in your perineum, which is where we males actually feel orgasms, not in our penises. At a certain point you know the orgasm is coming and nothing you do can hold it back any further; and then it hits, and you feel your penis jerking inside her as the semen spurts out in its own rhythm. Your strength seems to give out suddenly and you collapse on top of her, your penis still inside her vagina, your sweaty limbs tangled, as your racing heart begins to slow down.
Of course, this is a composite experience I described, but most features are common to a good sexual encounter. However, the orgasm during intercourse isn’t usually very strong. I must say masturbation orgasms are usually much better.
But masturbation doesn’t have penetration, does it?
October 23rd, 2010 at 2:05 pm
I’ve never read such a detailed description of sexual intercourse from the male point of view. No wonder men are so eager to do it :)!
October 24th, 2010 at 6:56 am
This is definitely the best description of the male sexual experience that I’ve come across. I’m surprised that you say you don’t feel your orgasm in your penis. What about the jerking and feeling the semen spurt?
October 24th, 2010 at 6:59 am
I would think feeling the penis jerk and semen spurt would be part of the orgasm, too, Jen, but maybe that doesn’t actually feel pleasurable.
October 24th, 2010 at 12:31 pm
The jerking and spurt are felt as a sensation, but distinct from the pleasurable contractions of the orgasm itself, which are concentrated in the perineum. Of course, the fact remains that mostly we aren’t detached enough at the moment of orgasm to think, “Well, this section of the orgasm is being felt here, and that bit over there, etc etc.”
At least we shouldn’t be.
Actually, with the more intense masturbation orgasms, it’s difficult to analyse the sensations. It’s easier with an orgasm inside her vagina, where the actual ejaculation is more distinctly felt because the orgasm itself isn’t anywhere as strong.
October 24th, 2010 at 1:40 pm
So, masturbation orgasms are more intense than orgasms from intercourse? That’s disappointing to hear. It’s true for a lot of women, too, but I thought it was different for men. I wonder if it’s true for all men.
March 8th, 2011 at 2:47 am
what are some last second teases that can be done with the penis before the first penetration that heightens in the anticipation
March 8th, 2011 at 6:30 am
You could try rubbing the head of your penis between the vaginal lips and/or against the clitoris. Another thing you might try is to just put the head at the opening and leave it there for a few moments, and once you push in, stop with no more than the head inside. If she’s ready to have you inside her, these moves will drive her crazy!
August 11th, 2011 at 4:24 am
First off I want to say terrific blog! I had a quick question that I’d like to ask if you don’t mind. I was interested to know how you center yourself and clear your mind before writing. I’ve had a tough time clearing my thoughts in getting my thoughts out there. I do take pleasure in writing however it just seems like the first 10 to 15 minutes are usually wasted just trying to figure out how to begin. Any recommendations or hints? Thank you!
August 11th, 2011 at 5:29 am
I think about what I’m going to write when I’m not writing. Then, when I sit down to write, I just have to get it down.
April 30th, 2012 at 7:12 pm
I read the descriptions of both parties for Female and Male. What sex feels like for both. I must say that I think the Man was quite right. I have only had sex with one woman (Some may not believe me but its true). What he discribed was spot on.
That said how ever. Regardless of how much more plesurable masterbation may be to normal sex. I would take regular sex any day of the week. I find it far more fulfilling and rewarding.
Self serve to me is borring. Thats my 2 cents.
May 10th, 2012 at 12:23 pm
I did not realize it until my wife mention it to me but for her sex with me was a far more than a roll in the sack. Since she was 12-13 she had a serious crush on me. During her preteen and early teen years I was the picture in her mind when she masturbated. I was so much older than she (7 years) and never noticed her until she was 17. Her deep feeling for me and growing maturity made her finally approach and ask me out.
She knew all about me. She dated and lost her virginity to a guy her own age because she never thought I would look he way because of the age difference. Even while she was dating and getting an occasional screw from her boy friend she would stare at me in church, making her pussy wet while thinking about me making love to her. When we began dating my love for her was equal to hers. She was a really keeper
Sex was wonderful. She never hid how much she loved me during sex and every time I slid inside her warmth and wetness there were feeling of more than just lust. She wanted my baby growing inside her. In her mind she was ready for love and marriage and began craving baby making sex. I never had a problem making her cum and for a year never knew what our sex meant to her. It was only after a nice drive on Thanksgiving that I told her I wanted children with her that she mention she felt the same feeling since we began dating.
Her climax during sex was not just a physical act but a deep emotional one. She never felt that way for her old boy friend and often faked an orgasm with him. I guess women have levels of intimacy which men aren’t always aware of. She wanted my baby but not the other guys. There were times were we had pregnancy scares and she was hoping it would turn out positive. With the other guy she stayed on the pill and even counted days on a calendar because she dreaded being pregnant by him.
May 6th, 2013 at 6:23 pm
I agree with the first moment of penitration the stretching sensation OMG I love it. I know allot of women don’t like pain. I find pleasure from a stretch that challenges me, I think women who get umcfortable are to tense or something I don’t quite understand. To be honest I never found it actually painfull as in I’m going to cry just a challenge for the moment. My first time didn’t hurt but I was with an average size 6 1/2″ penis so maybe that’s why my first and only challenger lol was my Jerry my husbands best friend.who we have brought into our lives.