What Does Sex Feel Like for a Man?
One of my most popular posts, coming in at number ten, is What Does Sex Feel Like for a Woman? In that post, I try to describe what it feels like for a penis to enter you and move around inside. In a comment to that post, a male reader tries to do the same thing from the male perspective.
… For me, the experience of sex begins in the mind, even before the first kiss that you know in advance will lead to intercourse. Your heart rate begins to speed up, you begin to feel the excitement in your veins, and your perineal muscles begin to tighten pleasantly. As you kiss and fondle, your penis erects, pushing hard against your clothing (and, for reasons I’ll explain in a moment, this is a sensuous and erotic thing in itself, for this man at least) and you want to take your clothes off. As far as I’m concerned, it’s more fun for me when my partner undresses me than when I do it for myself, though that has nothing directly to do with the sex.
When you’re both naked, then, your kissing and fondling intensifies, and so does the pressure building in your groin. The tightness spreads into the entire pelvic area but most of all is concentrated in the perineum and the sides of the testicles, along the lines of the seminal vesicles. You have an intense desire to thrust your penis into something soft (and this is a masturbation technique that many men use, instead of the penis-in-hand version). This stage requires a degree of self-control, since your partner’s pleasure depends on you postponing the penetration until she’s properly stimulated through foreplay. As far as possible I try and ensure my woman orgasms a couple of times during foreplay, so that she’s ready for what comes next. Read more