About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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10 Tips for Being on Top

Woman-on-top is the most potentially orgasmic positions for women, but some women are self0conscious about being on top. Here on ten tips to getting the most out of this sex positions.

Dear Slut,

I think I suck at being on top. I have been sleeping with a guy who really likes it and every time I do it I feel like he is disappointed. Maybe I am making it up in my head but I feel really self-conscious when I do it; like I am missing something. Am I a dud on top? I feel like an idiot up there. Teach my the ways, slut!

Topsy Turvy

Dear Topsy Turvy,

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if a guy doesn’t look like he’s having a great time when you are on top of him, you probably suck. BUT it’s ok, there is hope; I used to suck at it too (and I don’t think we are the only ones). I think why it’s a bit of a learning curve for woman is because in all the other positions we are on the receiving end, we aren’t in control, but when you are on top you are running the show and it’s awesome, but physically and mentally a little intimating. Read more

3 Titillating Sex Positions for Women

Have better sex tonight with these three titillating sex positions that are especially good for female pleasure.

Guy on top, doggy style. Guy on top. The same sex position over and over can really bring your sex life down and many positions that men use aren’t all that great for women. But here’s the good news – men generally like any sex position as long as his penis is . . . well, you get the idea. So ladies, here are four awesome sex positions you need to try tonight! Read more

How to Give Your Woman an Orgasm During Intercourse

cowgirlIf your woman isn’t as eager for sex as you’d like her to be (or not interested at all), it’s probably because she isn’t getting much enjoyment from it. It’s human nature to want more of what we like and less of what we don’t. If your partner isn’t sick, injured, or cheating on you, the reason she doesn’t want to have sex more often is because she doesn’t enjoy it. Period.

Surveys reveal that only about 30 percent of women have orgasms with intercourse. Female sexual pleasure mostly associates with her clitoris and G spot. Women often don’t have orgasm with intercourse because some sex positions don’t provide enough stimulation of these pleasure spots. Here are some positions and techniques that do provide the stimulation your woman needs to have an orgasm with intercourse. Continue reading

Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation

Couple in BedMany women have a difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse (if they are able to orgasm at all) because they don’t get sufficient clitoral stimulation. One thing that has helped a lot of women learn to be orgasmic during intercourse is experimenting with sex positions. Many women agree there’s no better sexual position for reaching climax than woman-on-top. The Pelvic Slide is a variation of the woman-on-top position that adds a sexual movement technique that facilitates clitoral orgasm. Continue reading

Instant Upgrade: Get New Thrills out of Old Sex Positions

Women’ Health asked sex experts and real women to share their proven strategies for getting new thrills out of five of the sex positions you know and love – missionary, woman on top, hands and knees, side by side, and standing up.

It’s so easy to get lazy in bed. When the mood strikes, why contort like a Cirque du Soleil acrobat when 1) the fact that you’re already having satisfying sex is more than most people accomplish and 2) a simple you’re-on-top-tonight position can get the job done fine? But like anything easy — an energy bar for lunch, the treadmill at the gym, shopping on Bluefly.com — before long, you feel like you’re missing out on the really fun stuff. So every once in a while (seriously, even just once a month) live it up a little. For the best way to do that naked, we asked experts and real women to share their proven strategies for getting new thrills out of those same old positions you know and love. Read more

The Best Sex Position for a Woman's Orgasm

Many women agree there’s no better sexual position for reaching orgasm than woman-on-top. Savvy Miss has put together the ultimate guide to this sex position – from how to position yourself, ways to move, and tips on reaching climax.

Experts and many women agree there’s no better sexual position for orgasming than cowgirl or woman-on-top. It’s got all the right ingredients: you’re in control of everything, there’s external and internal stimulation and he can usually last longer when he’s lying on his back. But quality ingredients alone do not make a gourmet (or orgasmic) meal, you’ve got to know what to do with them.

That’s why we put together the ultimate guide to this sexual position. Here you’ll find out how to position yourself, ways to move and guidance on reaching that ever-elusive climax. Saddle up and read on! Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.