About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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You Know About the G-Spot, but What About the A-Spot?

We know all about the G-spot, but here’s why you need to find your A-spot tonight.

You probably know about or at least have heard of the female G-spot, a zone responsible for mind-blowing orgasms when hit. But if you’ve never heard of the A-spot — a lesser known (and therefore highly underrated) area that’s just as pleasure-inducing — you’re in for quite the treat tonight. To get the lowdown on this foreign territory, I spoke with clinical sexologist and founder of b-Vibe anal sex products Alicia Sinclair, who provided us with everything you need to know, from where to find it to how it can change the way you orgasm. By the time you finish reading, you’ll want to rush straight to the bedroom yourself. Read more

How to Have a Vaginal Orgasm

Ever had a vaginal orgasm? Certain feminist sexperts claim that vaginal orgasms don’t exist, while admitting that masturbation is most satisfactory with penetration  with no apparent cognitive dissonance. If you would like to try to have one of these “nonexistent” vaginal orgasms, Anna Davies reveals five moves that can make it happen. (Also see my post How Women Can Learn to Have an Orgasm with Intercourse.)

Routines are easy to come by in relationships—and that’s especially true in the bedroom, where it’s all too easy to bypass adventure in favor of the tried and true moves. But it may be worth trying a few pleasure-boosting changes to your regularly scheduled romp: A recent study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that deep vaginal stimulation may lead to more frequent vaginal orgasms. Read more

Women Who Have Vaginal Orgasms Prefer Bigger Penises

A new study found that women who have frequent vaginal orgasms tend to prefer bigger penises.  Is that because bigger penises lead to more frequent vaginal orgasms? The study doesn’t say, but the correlation seems obvious.

Contrary to the reassuring catchphrase “size doesn’t matter,” penis size may matter in bed — but only for some women, and for certain types of orgasms.

A new study finds that women who have frequent vaginal orgasms are more likely than other women to say they climax more easily with men with larger penises. Women who tend to prefer penile-vaginal intercourse over other types of sex also say the same, researchers reported online Sept. 24 in The Journal of Sexual Medicine. Read more

Women CAN Climax through Intercourse Alone

Research shows that not only can women climax through sexual intercourse alone, but the resulting orgasm is wildly different to those reached by clitoral stimulation. What a news flash this is, right? However, there are still prominent sexperts who mislead women by denying that this is true.

For decades it has been thought that the clitoris was the only key to a woman’s sexual satisfaction.

That meant men who wanted to satisfy their partners believed they must spend hours getting to know the little button-like organ, its location – and the kind of treatment which excited it.

But now research shows that not only can women climax through sexual intercourse alone, but the resulting orgasm is wildly different to those reached by clitoral stimulation. Read more

The Irony of Intercourse

For a lot of women in long-term relationships, intercourse is known as the “waiting it out and hoping it’s over soon” portion of lovemaking, according to sexologist Dr. Trina Read, but it doesn’t have to be.

Not much has changed since our grandmothers told our mothers on their wedding night to “Stare at the ceiling and think of England dear. It will be over soon enough.”

Today’s woman, though, can’t admit that the intercourse part of the sexual experience probably isn’t doing it for her. Read more

The Orgasm Almanac

Belisa Vranich at Men’s Fitness says that if your woman goes to bed without experiencing each of the orgasms below, you haven’t done your job.

Women will put up with one, maybe two, nights without an orgasm from you. But you’d better know how to hit her G-spot before too long or you’ll be getting cozy with her answering machine. Here’s why: For 70% of women, penetration alone is not enough to bring them to climax. That’s a hell of a lot of women walking the earth with no satisfaction. See a way to get laid more? Understand her orgasm(s), as well as when and how to give them, and you’ll be a more confident man with a lot more sex in your life. Consider this your contribution to womankind. Read more

Sexologists Can Infer a Woman's Orgasm History by the Way She Walks.

Some sexologists claim they can infer a woman’s orgasm history from the way we walk.

A new study found that trained sexologists could infer a woman’s history of vaginal orgasm by observing the way she walks. The study is published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine.

Led by Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland in collaboration with colleagues in Belgium, the study involved 16 female Belgian university students. Subjects completed a questionnaire on their sexual behavior and were then videotaped from a distance while walking in a public place. The videotapes were rated by two professors of sexology and two research assistants trained in the functional-sexological approach to sexology, who were not aware of the women’s orgasmic history.

The results showed that the appropriately trained sexologists were able to correctly infer vaginal orgasm through watching the way the women walked over 80 percent of the time. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.