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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Tantra

How to Give Your Man a Tantric Testicle Massage

The testicles are often neglected as an erogenous zone. Jennifer Lawless reveals how to correct that omission..

Testicles are one of the most sensitive parts of a man’s body. Knowing this, many women are afraid to massage their men’s testicle for ear hurting them. The irony is it’s this sensitivity that makes men feel pleasure when their testicles are stroked or massaged. The testicles on a man are one of the most erogenous spots if touched and stimulated correctly. The truth is that testicle massage can be a sensual experience for a man if a lover is doing it. It can be done by itself, or as part of an erotic massage, a lingam massage, or a male G-spot massage. Read more

Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices

TantraTantra developed in India in the seventh century as a way to weave (which is what the word Tantra means) every aspect of daily life, including intimate relationships and erotic experience, into the spiritual path. Intense erotic experiences are one of our greatest sources of pleasure. If you have an open mind and are willing to learn more ways to enrich your love life or create a new one, then  Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices by Jennifer Lawless is a book that you and your lover should read together.

The practice of Tantra shows us how to reclaim the sexual intimacy and erotic pleasure that is our birthright. Through this most ancient of arts, we may expand mere moments of sexual ecstasy into a lifetime of sexual bliss. The age-old practice of Tantra shows us how to open our emotions and our sexuality. Continue reading

Do Yoga, Improve Your Sex Life

A consistent yoga practice will cultivate greater awareness of your body and any other body you choose to get close to because yoga focuses people on how they feel, which is something they don’t do enough during sex. YourTango explains how to do yoga to improve your sex life.

You spend an hour testing your strength and flexibility in pretzel-like positions. Your skin is slicked with sweat and your heart is pumping. Resting afterward, you feel elated, inspired, and energized. Is it yoga or sex? How about both?

While it’s easy to associate yoga with striking contortions—think scorpion and wheel—the practice can also enhance your intimate encounters (and we’re not just talking flexibility here). That’s because sex and yoga are a divine pairing. Read more

How to Give a Tantric Breast Massage

Though most men, and even many women, are fascinated by breasts, they actually can be an incredibly neglected and forgotten area in the realm of Tantric pleasure and touch. Breast massage is a fantastic way to nurture and pleasure your lover.  Jennifer Lawless of Tantra: Gateway to Ecstasy explains how to give a Tantric breast massage to the woman in your life.

A Tantric breast massage is a ritual that allows a woman to receive sensual energy and unconditional love from her partner. The breast massage is a special type of Tantric massage that focuses on the woman’s breasts. Not only does massaging the breasts make them firmer, it also makes them healthier and aids in maintaining the balance of hormones in a woman�’s body. Breast massage is also a great way for a man to give pleasure, healing, and intimacy to his partner. The breasts are the seat of a woman’s sexuality and need to be loved and honored before any other part of her body will open up to you.

Breast massage can be tricky because breast tissues are quite delicate. However, if done properly and with exerting only moderate pressure, massaging the breasts is perfectly safe. The procedure is also quite simple. Read more

Touch Me There:The Rules of Sensate Focus Sex

FOXSexpert Yvonne K. Fulbright describes the latest itrend n sex therapy: sensate focus sex. Why not just try Tantra?

You can see it, you can feel it — nice, slow lovemaking where all you do is focus on your sensations.

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So what does this approach involve? And what makes it so incredibly effective?

Originally developed by sex researchers Drs. William Masters and Virginia Johnson, sensate focus exercises involve each partner paying increased attention to their own sensations when stimulated. Developed for couples in sex therapy, these exercises have helped lovers to overcome issues like performance anxiety, rapid ejaculation, lack of orgasm and erectile dysfunction.

Whether you are in therapy or simply want something different in your sex life, any couple stands to gain from focusing on no more than their sensations.

The benefits of sensate focus include: Read more

How to Have a Hands-Free Orgasm

Em & Lo contributor Antonio Reis describes the workshop he attended where he learned how to have an orgasm without sex or masturbation.

It’s a Wednesday evening on the Wesleyan campus, and I’m cutting art history class to attend a workshop lead by Barbara Carellas, author of Urban Tantra, called “How to Have a Genderless Orgasm.” There’s another way to climax? Van Dyck can wait!

When I and about 40 other students enter the open space, we’re instructed to “leave our genitals at the door,” since they won’t be needed in the following exercises. I’m a little disappointed.

We all lie down on our backs with our knees bent as if we’re fully dilated and about to give birth. Then we begin the exercise (and it IS exercise): Breathe in. Tighten abs. Suck some red energy thing into our chakra. Breathe out. Repeat. Again. And again. And again. It’s intense. “Remember those squeezes!” shouts Carellas over the Enya-esque music as I tighten my abs and squeeze my pelvic muscles as if I were suddenly stopping a flow if urine. Read more

Last Longer with Tantra

You don’t need to change to a new lifestyle to enjoy the benefits of Tantra. David Strovney at AskMen.com describes Tantric techniques will extend your pleasure and hers.

This isn’t Philosophy 101. There won’t be any debates or unearthing and dissecting of the secrets of tantric sex. You’re not interested in converting to a tantric lifestyle, but you would like to try some techniques that will enable you to last longer, orgasm harder and leap tall buildings. OK, so you won’t be able to leap tall buildings, but you will be able to keep your pleasure at its precipice while you take her over the edge again and again. If you’re interested in giving her a good time that she won’t soon forget, read on. With these tips, you won’t succumb to sexual pleasures until you’re both gasping and you decide to take that plunge. It’s all in your control. Read more

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