About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Sexual Relationships

Women Share the Lies They’ve Told in Bed

Fifteen women reveal the outrageous lies they’ve told during sex.

For most guys, sex is a pretty tricky subject. We’re taught from a young age that it’s weird, or bad, or dirty, or sinful. Then puberty hits and, holy cow, we can’t think about anything else. We aren’t given any real instructions except for “don’t get an infection” and “don’t get anyone pregnant,” unless we get the explicit instructions “don’t have any sex with anyone until you’re married.”

Our first times are awkward, bad, sometimes painful and sometimes emotionally scarring. Ultimately we kind of cobble together a toolkit of “things to do during sex” through trial and error. But even by their mid- to late-20s, many guys really aren’t any good in bed.  Read more

Tips for Making Love to Older Women

Porn star Nina Hartley offers men tips on making love with older women.

5 Steamy Reasons to Shower Together EVERY Morning

If saving water isn’t a good enough reason to shower with your partner every morning, here are five more good reasons.

The movies out there have taught us over the years that every shower scene turns into steamy SEX shower within seconds. Of course, movies forget to mention some important things that can either make it into a fantastic experience or wonder why on Earth would someone portray it like that in a movie when the reality is so different.

Apart from the sexual portion, showering as a couple has other immense benefits — and no, we’re not just talking about saving on water.

Here’re 5 reasons you should get sudsy together instead of solo: Read more

5 Reasons Men Want to Try Anal Sex

If you’re a woman who doesn’t understand why your boyfriend or husband wants to put his penis into your butt instead of your vagina,  Frank Kobola reveals five reasons that men want to try anal sex.

If I had a nickel for the number of times someone has approached me on the street, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shouted, “FRANK! WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO FIXATED ON ANAL SEX!?!” I wouldn’t have any nickels. Primarily because people don’t ever recognize me on the street, and also because that’s a strange question to lead with. But the point still stands that there’s a male obsession with the butt hole that women, especially women who aren’t into anal stimulation, don’t understand. Here’s why guys are so into it. Read more

 

3 Types of Sex All Couples Should Have

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus author John Gray says every couple should include these three types of sex in their relationship.

Having sex. Being intimate. Making love. Doing the deed. There are countless ways to refer to the act of coitus, but no matter what you call it, bestselling author John Gray, of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus fame, says that there are three different types of sex that all couples should be having.

As Gray explains above to “Oprah: Where Are They Now — Extra,” each sex category has its own distinct characteristics, and when layered throughout a relationship, this approach can heighten a couple’s intimacy to the umpteenth power. Here’s what he suggests every couple include in their sex life. Read more

The 8 Stages of a Typical Sex Life

Tracey Cox reveals the eight stages of a typical sex life. What’s coming next for you?

A sex therapist once told me if someone tells him they know a couple married 20 years whose sex life is as good as it was at the start, there are only three possibilities.

The first, they’re lying.

The second, they’re telling the truth because they didn’t have good sex to begin with.

Or sex is all they’ve ever had because they haven’t connected emotionally. Read more

The Secret Every Man Should Know to Make a Woman Orgasm

The female orgasm can be a puzzle for men.  Jordan, writer for Comedy Centrals The Nightly Show, tells how he cracked the code.

Much like with stand-up, in the bedroom, I had beginner’s luck that gave me a false impression of my abilities. In college, I hooked up with a woman who lost her shit at my slightest touch. How could I not think I was truly the gangster of love? Alas, other women didn’t experience complete particle reversal by simply having me blow in their ear. It got worse. Much worse.

“Just finish. I wasn’t going to come anyway…” has to be the most soul-crushing thing I’ve ever had a woman tell me. Not only did I feel horribly inadequate, but I also felt like a knuckle-dragging cretin. I was inside her, for Pete’s sake! Why weren’t the women I bedded immediately spasming in ecstasy? I mean, didn’t I put my sex part in her sex part? Wasn’t I pumping away like I had seen in all those Skinemax movies? Obviously, I had more work to do. Read more

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