About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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10 Compliments That Will Get You Laid

Have you been striking out with, “Hey, baby, you so hot?” Then try one of these ten compliments instead. Even if they don’t get you laid, they will improve the relationship because they are the type of compliments that people really appreciate.

It’s been a really interesting week. I’ve spent time with some of the most amazing men and women,  and I’ve also had some of the most bizarre encounters with men and women. In both the best and worst social situations, I have started to realize the power of a fucking awesome compliment. The one thing I’ve learned is that when people are willing to open themselves up and give honest compliments with absolutely no expectation of getting anything in return, they often get exactly what they wanted.

What a concept, I know.

So as fall settles in and we start the hunt for someone to keep us warm on those long wintery Maine nights, consider using a great compliment at the end of an interesting conversation instead of a pick-up line. Or, if you are in a relationship that needs a little reboot, slide one of these compliments into conversation and reignite some Hugh-Grant-style passion. Even better, use this with a friend or a friend-of-a-friend and see how a great friendship can morph into something more. Read more

How to Get a Prudish Partner to Be More Adventurous in Bed

Can you get a prudish partner to be more adventurous in bed? It’s possible, says Korin Miller,  if you approach it the right way.

We’ve all been there: You see something spicy on Game of Thrones and want to give it a go in real life.

But it can create a tricky situation if your partner’s idea of a wild time in bed is leaving the lights on. Read more

10 Signs That a Man Wants You Just For Sex

Sometimes a man simply wants to have sex with a woman. That’s fine with some women – at least sometimes – but for women seeking a relationship, these men are a waste of time. So, how’s a woman supposed to know when a man just wants her for sex? BaggageReclaim lists ten signs – some of them so obvious that it’s amazing that women miss them:

1. He tells you. I know – Talk about stating the obvious but, have you any idea how many women are actually told by a guy that they just want to have ‘fun’ and aren’t looking for a relationship? When a man says this, instead of rationalising and hoping that he will change his mind after the event, don’t and move on. Read more

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