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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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8 Kama Sutra Thrusting Techniques

In-out-in-out the same way makes sex boring. Jennifer Lawless describes eight different thrusting techniques from the Kama Sutra.

In a typical sex session, nine out of ten men thrust in the conventional way: in-out-in-out-in-out at the same speed, same depth, same hip motion until ejaculation. That isn’t the only way to do it. however. The Kama Sutra is best known for its exotic sex positions, but it also describes eight different thrusting techniques that a couple can choose from. Although the man is the one performing all of the techniques, a couple of them require the woman to position herself in a certain way. Read more

Here’s How Long Sex Should Last for Maximum Female Pleasure

Nothing should be written in stone when it comes to how long sex should last, but these are some guidelines.

Let’s talk about sex, baby! (Because, really, what else did you come to Cosmopolitan.com to talk about? Besides physics and the answer to world peace.)

Over at GQ, they’re trying to answer the question: How long should sex last? Especially for a woman’s enjoyment? (They’re doing the Lord’s work.) Read more

Thrusting Techniques: How to Vary Your Speed, Depth, and Rhythm

Some men think that being great at sex is all about pounding away like a jackhammer? This video explains how to vary the speed, depth, and rhythm of thrusting to increase female pleasure during sex.

3 Techniques for More Clitoral Stimulation During Intercourse

Jennifer Lawless, author of Tantric Sex: A Guide to Tantra Lovemaking Secrets and Practices, shares three techniques to increase clitoral stimulation during sexual inteecourse.

Most women enjoy vaginal penetration, but only around 30% of women climax through vaginal penetration alone. Although most of the rest can have orgasms from manual or oral sex, many would still like to have an orgasm with their man inside them. More women could have orgasms during intercourse if their men provided more clitoral stimulation. The basic in and out thrusting practiced by most men doesn’t provide enough clitoral stimulation for most women. In order for women to have orgasms during intercourse, men need to make a few, simple adjustments to their technique. Here are three techniques to provide more clitoral stimulation during intercourse: Read more

6 Tips for Men to Perform Better in Bed

Couple Making LoveEven men who enjoy foreplay with their partner, usually still consider intercourse to be the “main event” of a sexual encounter. That’s why it’s called FORE-play, right? Men also tend to believe that their performance as a lover is judged by their performance between their woman’s thighs. These six easy tips can boost her sexual pleasure right away. You don’t have to learn anything or practice. You can use any or all of them tonight. Continue reading

4 Tips for More Pleasurable Penetration

sex_3For most men, penetration is the goal of sexual activity. Penetration is often associated with forceful entry and thrusting that seems to come from a very primal place. This male instinct is a force worth reckoning with and should be acknowledged, but it needs to be channeled in order to maximize pleasure for the woman. It can take some time for men to learn how to handle and direct this force, but the reward is a more intense experience, not only for her, but also for you. Here are four tips for penetration that will make sexual intercourse more pleasurable for both of you. Continue reading

Sex with Circumcised and UnCircumcised Penis: Which Is Better?

Amanda Chatel gives her perspective about the difference between sex with a circumcised and an uncircumcised penis.

The first time I came into real-life contact with an uncircumcised penis was several years ago. Up until then it was something I’d only seen online as some bizarre curiosity to me, an American woman.

A friend would ask, “Have you seen an uncircumcised penis?” Then, we’d gather around a computer as the images were brought up, and we expressed our disgust.

It’s not like penises are in the running for any sort of beauty award but the way an uncircumcised penis looked to us — early 20-something American women who very rarely come across them in our sex lives (although more parents are opting against circumcision these days) — was a horrifying specimen. Read more

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