About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Scientists Think They’ve Figured Out What Makes a Penis Attractive

Scientists think that they have finally figured out what makes a penis attractive to women.

A paper released yesterday in the Journal of Sexual Medicine reveals the results of an experiment designed to figure out what kinds of dicks women (though not men for some reason) like to look at. The experiment, which was intended to shed some light on the aesthetic effects of one type of corrective penile surgery seems to have stumbled upon part of the secret aesthetic language of the penis. Read more


What Men and Women Want in Bed

Check out the differences between what men and women really want in this infographic.

Have you ever wondered what the opposite sex has in mind when it comes to sex? Of course you have! Lifestyles Condoms conducted a survey about men’s and women’s biggest turn-ons, desires and sexual fantasies. While men tend to fantasize about sex with other partners, 44 percent of women said they dreamed of having it in the great outdoors. But both sexes were in nearly equal agreement on one thing: Role-playing rocks – and so do sex toys! We couldn’t agree more. Check out the differences between what men and women really want in this infographic. Read more

New Survey Ranks Cities by Penis Size

A new survey, based on condom size, shows which American cities have the largest (and smallest) penises. I guess I’ve just been lucky because my own city only ranks twelfth. I would never have guessed the number one city, and I was also  a little surprised at which city has the smallest penises since they claim everything is bigger there.

Quirky safe sex retailer Condomania has just released a ranking of penis sizes from the country’s 20 most highly populated cities. Condomania gathered the info from 27,000 men who placed orders for custom-fit condoms after measuring their penises with a “Fit Kit” downloaded on the company’s website. So which zip codes have a reason to be, ahem, cocky? Check it out:

Cities by Penis Size (biggest to smallest): Read more

Faking Orgasms: There’s Nothing Wrong with It

A new study indicates that many more women fake orgasms than their male partners realize. Erin Bradley explains why putting on a little show for the sake of good sex benefits all parties involved.

“Faking It?” crows the headline of a popular news site, followed by “New Sex Study May Rat You Out.” Oh my. Guess it’s time to purchase some sensible charcoal separates, get Gloria Allred on the horn, and prepare for my day in court.

The charge? Being a bad feminist, a bad lay, and a bad person. An Indiana University survey published this week in the Journal of Sexual Medicine points to a discrepancy in the number of men who believe their partner orgasmed during their last sexual encounter and the number of women confirming that they did, in fact, climax. In other words, a glaring, prison-yard spotlight has been shone down on the large number of women who fake it.

I am one of those women the study implicates: a woman who has, yes, faked an orgasm, and I’m here today to defend myself and anyone else who’s ever pulled a fast one on a partner. While pop surveys come and go, a disdain for my fellow co-conspirators that cannot be ignored hums in the background. Read more

The Ass Man Cometh: Experimentation, Orgasms, and the Rise of Anal Sex

Anal sex is the big story of the new U.S. National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.

A new national sex survey is out. Published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it reveals who’s doing what, with whom, and how. It clarifies the prevalence of gay sex, teenage intercourse, and oral gratification. But the big story is the increase in anal sex reported by women—and its possible connection to female orgasms.

Let’s start with the foreplay: a few other trends worth noting. Read more

Vaginal Intercourse Still Most Popular Sex Act

With all the news about the popularity of oral and anal sex, you might think that vaginal intercourse has gone out of  style. No so, says he National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. Vaginal intercourse is still the most popular sex act.

U.S. men and women say they rarely engage in just one sex act when they have sex, but a survey indicates vaginal intercourse is still the most common one.

However, the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, conducted by the Center for Sexual Health Promotion in Indiana University’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation, also found that many sexual encounters do not involve intercourse, instead culminating in mutual masturbation or oral sex. Read more

Coitus Interruptus: Texting during Sex

Call it the ultimate case of coitus interruptus: 1 in 10 young people say they would not mind being “interrupted by an electronic message” during sex, a new survey of 20-somethings reveals.

It may sound ridiculous, but a few blogs today are considering this question:

Is it appropriate to send or receive text messages during sex?

The chatter is a spin-off from a 1,000-person survey, published in March, which found about one in 10 people younger than 25 say that they would not mind being “interrupted by an electronic message” during sex.

Among people older than 25, 6 percent said they would be fine with that inconvenience, according to the online survey by Retrevo, a website that reviews consumer electronics. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.