About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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5 Sex Myths You Should Stop Believing

Do you believe any of these five sex myths?

If sex were a board game, the how-to handbook would be some five billion pages long — with different rules dictated by and for each individual player, and a new set of rules each round. Good luck.

Despite the bevy of “do this, not that” sex-advice pieces out there, it’s safe to say that some things society has taught us are just plain wrong. Ahead, Emily Nagoski, author of the book Come As You Are, squashes some age-old myths about getting it on. Read more

6 Movie Myths About Sex That Are Totally Wrong

People form a lot of their ideas about sex and relationships from movies, but some of what we see is just wrong.

We all know the movies don’t necessarily contain the most accurate depictions of actual life. Or do we?

Whether we realize it or not, we all pick up subtle things from movies that we expect to find in our actual lives. And while I’m willing to overlook some of the media’s follies (like the fact that people in any foreign country all speak English), some of their depictions of sex are just. so. wrong. Read more

9 Sex Myths That Could Seriously Hurt Your Relationship

“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you into trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.” – Mark Twain

How many of these nine sex myths do you believe?

No one wants to admit that they’re doing it wrong. You know what I’m talking about: sex. By the time we reach our teens, we want to think we know everything about it. But well into adulthood a lot of us are still clueless, running around with all kinds of silly ideas in our heads about how sex works. Then we carry that misinformation into a marriage, and no wonder there are so many sexless or sexually-blah relationships out there.

Two doctors are out to dispel as many myths as they possibly can through a new book: Don’t Put That in There! And 69 Other Sex Myths Debunked by Dr. Aaron E. Carroll and Dr. Rachel C. Vreeman. Even if you’re sure you know everything about sex you may be surprised… or at least curious. Come on, admit it. Here are 11 myths about sex that could be ruining your marriage — or at least dampening things in the bedroom. See how many of these you already knew. Read more

Top 5 Sex Myths You Shouldn’t Believe

Tracey Cox unveils the top five sex myths you shouldn’t believe.

5 Myths about Sex That You May Believe Are True

Katherine Butler exposes five ridiculous myths about sex. Do you believe any of them?

Sex is natural, sex is good. Not everybody does it. But everybody should. Or so goes the 80s god of sass, George Michael. Now that I’ve implanted that song in your head for the rest of the day, let us continue. If you were born before the age of the Internet, you might get to thank George Michael for introducing you to sex. Because thanks to the Victorians and/or repressed American culture, a person’s best sex education seems to come from TV, film, and other confused teenagers.

The upside of sex and its shroud of mystery? Here’s a look at some really awesomely bad myths roaming around our minds and the internet. Read more

8 Sex Myths about Women

FOXSexpert Yvonne K. Fulbright debunks eight sex myths about women, from whether every woman has a G-spot to whether women are  less likely to cheat.

“A woman would never do that.”

“She’s not like that.”

“That’s simply not true of females.”

These are the common reactions people have when hearing about supposed exceptions to the rule when it comes to myths about women and sex. Despite the sexual revolution, women’s movement, and mass me dia sex infotainment efforts, people are still vastly in the dark when it comes to a woman’s sexual longings and response.

Here are just some of the notions that still need debunking:

1. She always needs to have an emotional connection for sex. Read more

6 Ridiculous Sex Myths (That Are Actually True)

Cracked.com reveals which six “ridiculous” sex myths are actually true.

The only thing more awesome than an urban legend turning out to be true is if that same legend involves some sort of nefarious sex or groin related hilarity.

Luckily, all of these qualify.

#6. Digit Ratio Theory

The Legend:

“Dude, I can totally tell he’s gay! Look at his fingers!”

This sounds like one of those playground urban myths that adolescent males use as an excuse to punch each other. Supposedly, comparing the size of your index and ring fingers can tell whether a guy is destined to one day make out with Sulu and Andy Dick in a poorly lit alley in Hollywood.

Yeah, right. Enough of your ignorant homophobia!

The Truth: Read more

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