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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Can Women Learn to Climax from Penetration Alone?

A Kinkly reader asks sexpert Ducky Doplittle a question:

I’d really like to orgasm with my partner, but I can only come when he gives me oral sex or uses his hands. Is there any way to orgasm during sex?

Ducky Doolittle replies:

Most women don’t orgasm from penetration alone. You may be able to learn to orgasm purely from penetration. If not, you will at the very least learn how to have bigger orgasms in general. But let me be very clear about this: Your body is perfect. There is no wrong way to orgasm. The way you orgasm right now is awesome. Just because you don’t orgasm from penetration does not mean penetration does not feel good. It is physical, bonding, playful and hopefully makes you breathe heavy and gets your heart pumping. So it doesn’t take you over the edge. It’s OK to let your lover know this.

And now I’ll give you some very solid advice on how to achieve bigger, more badass orgasms, with or without penetration. Read more


3 Ways to Make Your Man Ejaculate Faster

lingerieWhile most men ejaculate during sex in less than ten minutes, there are others who take more than thirty minutes to have an orgasm. Even if that’s not an issue, sometimes you want your man to ejaculate faster for rother reasons, such asyou’re tired, you need to get up early or because you’re not really up for sex but you didn’t wan to tell him no. Whatever your reasons, It’s great to know how to make a man orgasm almost at will because it gives you total power over how long sex lasts. Here are three ways to make your man ejaculate faster. Continue reading

5 Great Positions for Deep Penetration

Standing DoggyWhen vaginal penetration is deep, both men and women tend to enjoy sex more. The feeling of longer, deeper strokes can be really exciting and pleasurable. There are many sex positions that you can try to get deeper penetration. These five great positions for deep penetration may be positions you are already using, just not to the extent needed to reach full penetration. Continue reading

How to Have a Vaginal Orgasm

The Sexademic gives advice to a woman who wants an orgasm from penetrative sex, and suggests that pressure may be better than friction.

… If you want to experiment with vaginal stimulation, keep in mind that the vagina responds more to pressure than to friction. That whole in-n-out, pumpy pumpy penetrative sex usually provides more friction than pressure. Try having a partner take his fingers and make slow wiping and pressing motions inside of your vagina. (Remember: the outer 1/3 of the vagina tends to be the most sensitive). During penetrative sex, instead of thrusting, your partner can try moving his hips in a vertical circular motion…like he’s painting circles with his hips. Read more

I mention the above technique in my post How to Properly Screw a Woman. Another technique to try is the Friction Zone Technique, which is more of an up-and-down motion. If you’re a woman who doesn’t have orgasms from penetrative sex, have your partner try the techniques in these two posts instead of the old “in-n-out.”  You may be in for an amazing surprise!

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.