About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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6 Kinky FFM Threesome Positions

FFM ThreesomeIf you are a beginner to FFM threesomes, the sex positions in my post The 6 Best FFM Threesome Positions are probably where you should start. After awhile, though, you may want to spice things up a bit. One way to do that is by introducing a strap-on dildo to the proceedings. This sex toy can enable the women to experience double penetration, or the man to enjoy the pleasures of pegging. (For more about pegging, see my post Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend?)  The first three of these six sex positions have one of the women being double penetrated. The last three incorporate pegging. Continue reading

How Does a Woman Reach Orgasm Pegging?

A man on Tribe.net asked Vickie P., “How does a woman reach orgasm pegging?” Three main ways, she says.

A man on Tribe.net asked me, “How does a woman reach orgasm pegging?” (This is my kind of man. He wants to get pegged, yet he wants to be sure the woman has an orgasm, too.) I replied:

I suggest you post this question on one of the Tribe groups devoted to pegging, but here’s my answer: Read more

What’s pegging, you ask? See my post How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It.

How One Man Learned to Get Pegged and Like It

Max Levant tells how he learned to get pegged and like it, and in doing so, learned to understand women better.  (See my post How to Bend Over Your Boyfriend and Make Him Like It for pegging tips.)

Three months ago, I thought I completely understood women. And why wouldn’t I? Twenty-five years is enough time to understand three billion people. I grew up in the snug cove of the Bay Area, went to a college named after a woman, and got real good at turning my feelings into words. Eventually I got so good at talking about feelings that I started doing plays, so I could talk about feelings I didn’t even have.

So why is it that, after decades of sympathizing with women, I feel like I’m just starting to empathize? It’s pretty simple. I got fucked. In a good way. Read more

Is Pegging the New Blow Job?

Is pegging the new blow job? Sex experts think that more straight men are exploring a formerly taboo hot spot. I discussed this topic in my post Why Do Some Couples Enjoy Bend Over Boyfriend?

I was sitting around the fire pit in my backyard with a handful of straight male friends when drunken conversation inevitably turned to sex. The perverted powwow officially began when one friend, let’s call him Freddy, announced something to the effect of, “Having your prostate milked is awesome.”

I nearly choked on my beer. Someone else chimed in: “It’s the male g-spot.” Another head nodded. A female friend walked into our circle at that moment and nonchalantly volunteered: “Yeah, my ex-boyfriend liked me to stick a finger in his butt.”

Well, then. It wasn’t the first time I’d heard young heterosexual men talking about being on the receiving end of a wandering finger, or female friends dishing on their male partners’ self-directed anal fixation, but the consensus in the room was startling nonetheless. For perhaps the first time in my life, I felt like a sexual square. Read more

Can a Woman Pegging a Man Not Be Dominant?

Pegging is a sexual practice in which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. Can a woman pegging a man not be dominant?  Vickie P. thinks so and describes the kind of pegging she prefers:

I wrote recently on the Tribe.net group Pegging is for Everyone that I prefer “loving, egalitarian pegging without the femdom stuff.” How, some of my friends on the group asked, could a woman pegging a man not be dominant? Allow me to explain.

First, let me tell you about the kind of pegging I like. I like the unusual — and powerful — feeling of having a penis between my legs. It may be artificial, but it’s always big and hard — unlike real ones. I like to be the one doing the penetrating instead of always being the one penetrated, the role reversal. Sarah at MyVag.net said it nicely: Read more

Husband Tells How His Wife Took His Anal Virginity

At The Virginity Project, a husband tell how his wife took his anal virginity. What did it feel like the first time?

I put my arms back and got lost in the music, which was pounding and loud.  The pushing returned but this time I did not resist.  Slowly, slowly, the dildo pressed in and then all of a sudden it just slid forward.

I moaned and gasped, ‘Ohmygod.’

‘Mmmm,’ she said, ‘Here’s some more.’

With that, she pushed in even further.  Another ‘Ohmygod’ from me.  Then the thrusting began.  ‘Keep with me,’ she said.  I did, mimicking what she’d done for me hundreds of times before – bucking my hips in rhythm to meet her thrusts.  I couldn’t believe it. Read more

Bend Over Boyfriend: How to Make HIM Want Anal Sex

woman-on-topMore and more men are becoming interested in anal pleasure and comfortable with the idea of letting their female partners take control in bed. Bend Over Boyfriend (BOB) or pegging means that a woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. Anal penetration stimulates the prostate gland, which is sometimes called the male “G-spot.” An orgasm from prostate stimulation can be the most intense a man can have. Continue reading

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