About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How To Turn a One-Night Stand Into a Regular Booty Call

Danielle Page reveals how to turn a one-night stand into a regular booty call.

Booty calls are the lazy man’s one-night stand. And that goes doubly if you’re able to find a girl who’s willing to be your regular go-to. For starters, booty calls are more reliable — and definitely involve less work. They’re also easier on your wallet — assuming you’re being a gentleman and buying your target a drink. Not to mention how time efficient the whole booty call process can be, when done right. Instead of chatting up a girl for hours at the bar only to have her turn down your offer to come back to your place, your booty call is, ideally, ready and able. Read more

6 Tips for Having Casual Sex

Casual sex isn’t just for sluts anymore. Maura Kelly gives six tips for how to have casual sex.

Lovelies:

Over the weekend, I spent some time with my dear friend Jack, a frequent contributor to Nerve.com, where he writes the column “I Did It for Science.” Jack is absolutely frighteningly brilliant–or at least, I’m always half-terrified, when I’m with him, that I won’t be able to keep up: He has a B.A. from Brown and a Ph.D. in Medieval Literature from Duke. And yet, he’s no geek: When he talks, you’re mesmerized by the stories he tells, amazed by the books he waxes so eloquent about it, and laughing at the jokes he’s always making. Plus, he’s so rakishly handsome–with a thick swirl of ginger hair, a toothy smile, and high cheekbones–that I always have a moment of elevated heart-beating when I first see him again. As if all that weren’t fantastic enough, he is a huge sweetheart: in addition to being attentive and sweet when we’re hanging out, he also goes out of his way to help me in any way he can. Read more

Casual Sex: 10 Steps to Getting It Right

Casual sex can range from great to disappointing to awful (just like sex in a relationship), but you have a better chance of getting it right if you follow these ten steps suggested by Em & Lo.

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!)

In fact, this is one of the reasons why the two of us often refer to casual sex as recreational sex instead — or rec sex for short. It’s a kinder, gentler term, making us think of sex on a picnic blanket — as opposed to the term casual, which makes us think of people being sloppy-drunk and mean.

Here are ten steps to getting recreational sex right: Read more

10 Tips for the Best Casual Sex Ever

Em & Lo offer ten tips for the best casual sex ever.

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!)

In fact, this is one of the reasons why the two of us often refer to casual sex as recreational sex instead — or rec sex for short. It’s a kinder, gentler term, making us think of sex on a picnic blanket — as opposed to the term casual, which makes us think of people being sloppy-drunk and mean.

Here are ten steps to getting recreational sex right: Read more

Study: Booty Calls Hotter Than One-Night Stands

According to science, booty calls are hotter than one-night stands.

Going through a dry spell? According to a this sex study, people seeking better sex lives might consider becoming someone’s booty call. That’s right — science has found casual sex is, generally, good sex, but more so in a friends-with-benefits arrangement rather than in the context of a one night stand. Read more

Looking for Casual Sex

Heaven gives some ideas on where to look for casual sex.

The Pros and Cons of the Drunk Hook-up

Lauren runs down the pros and cons of the drunk hook-up.

Alcohol is my oyster. It is my aphrodisiac. It turns me on. It makes me want to hump anything on two legs (and the occasional wall). Give me a few Vodka/Soda’s and I am like a frat boy in heat.

Grrr.

That means that, against my better judgment, I often let my loins do the talkin’ and follow them wherever (and with whomever) they decide. And usually they decide to head home for a little intoxicated fun. Unless they are over-ruled by my belly, in which case we make a pit-stop for breadsticks en route to the fun. Read more

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