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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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7 Sex Positions That Involve Minimal Eye Contact

Whether it’s a one-night stands or hooking up with an ex, here are seven sex positions that involved minimal eye contact.

There are about as many different sex positions as there are flavors of ice cream. Sometimes you’re all about the ones that make you feel closer together as a couple. Other times—like when you’ve brought home the bartender you keep flirting with, or you ran into your emotionally stunted ex who has a magical vagina—they feel too intimate. There’s nothing wrong with doing lovey-dovey sex positions, but depending on the situation, that might be the last thing you want. In those moments, try these. Read more

4 Steps to a Hotter Hook-Up

Pull off the perfect hook-up with these smart strategies from Debby Herbenick, Ph,D.

Casual sex may seem simple on the surface, but a truly great hookup requires some serious thought. Watch this video from Men’s Health Sex Professor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., and discover the strategies you need to pull off your hottest hookup ever.  Watch video

The Science of Hook-ups: 5 Shocking Facts About One-Night Stands

Discover the surprising ways your brain (and a woman’s hips) play a role in casual sex encounters.

It’s a familiar scene: a thriving nightlife, a club or maybe a wine bar where glasses are clinking and singles are mingling before drifting off into the shadows — two by two. It’s not the perfect picture of romance, but when you’re caught up in the moment, a warm body feels like a fair substitute for love, right?

Hooking up is just a reality of the dating scene. But since when did the hookup scene become the place to find love? While you may think you’re just living the carefree single life, your brain is influencing your decisions more than you might want to admit. Read more

Are You Trapped in the One-Night Stand Cycle?

Rick Clemons asks if one-night stands keeping you from a real connection?

We’ve all had the regrettable one night stand. But can you picture being stuck in a never-ending one? That’s just hell.

Imagine: You. A drunken night. Not being able to find your purse or wallet, not being able to get rid of whoever it is that’s laying half naked, sound asleep in bed next to you. That spiraling madness is a reality for the characters in Stuck, a quirky, weird, yet surprisingly realistic one-night-stand-gone-wrong new romantic comedy by Stuart Acher. It made me pause and wonder, “What the hell would I do if this were my reality?Read more

6 Things Men Do to Get Laid That Science Says Turn Women Off

If you’re trying to pick up a woman, men should try to avoid these six things that science says turn women off. Actually, it’s not the six things themselves that are the problem, but the way men do them that turns women off.

As we mentioned in this article, attracting a woman can be so easy you don’t even realize you’re doing it. Of course, most of the methods are totally outside of your control and can only be done on accident.

Unfortunately, it turns out there are just as many things you’re doing to repel women, again without even knowing it. Don’t blame us; it’s science.

Common turn-offs include: Read more

How to Get Laid without Being a Jerk

Emily Heist Moss gives her college freshman brother advice about how to get laid without being a jerk. The only downside to her advice is that she reveals some dick moves that work with some women sometimes.

College is awesome, right? No parents, no curfew, no rules, and there are girls everywhere. It is an alcohol-fueled, school-spirit-enhanced buffet of ladies, and it’s hard not to want to sample everything on the menu. So you should! Seriously, I’m not going to rain on what could potentially be a literal parade, so just be safe and have fun.

You’re waiting for the “but,” because I’m your nagging big sister and that’s what I do. Here it is: Be safe, have fun, but don’t be a manipulative, coercive asshole about it. There’s story after story about on-campus sexual assaults, astoundingly high rates of date-rape, and even more terrifying estimates of unreported incidents. I’m not worried you’ll be that guy, but there are still dozens of tempting and legal ways to be a douche when you’re trying to get some action. Forgoing these “techniques” requires recalibrating your hook-up goals to emphasize consent, respect, and yes, pleasure, instead of “scoring.”

There are strategies to get laid that are violent and criminal, and there are methodologies that are just mean-spirited and misogynistic. You can find the drunkest girl in the bar and hand her another shot. You can physically back a girl into a corner at a party until the only way out is through you. You can cut a girl down to size with backhanded “compliments,” belittle her until she thinks the only way to feel good again is to win your attention. You can taunt her with insults about prudishness, until she thinks she needs to prove something. You can taunt her with insults about sluttiness, until she thinks she might as well confirm what you already think of her. You already know that these dick moves are beneath you. Read more

Sex with Strangers

It’s no surprise that most men like one-night stands, but do women feel the same way?

It doesn’t take much to convince a man to have sex. As a matter of fact, it doesn’t take any convincing at all — just a hot woman, and even the hot part is optional.

Scientists ran a study to prove that men will have sex with anything or anyone anywhere, and the results aren’t exactly groundbreaking.

When a gorgeous female approached a random male on the street, a whopping 97% of men agreed to go back to her place right away for a drink, and 83% said yes to immediate sex.

Apparently the thought of her being the Jigsaw Killer doesn’t seem to cross their minds. Read more

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