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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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MFM Threesomes: What to Do with the Other Man

ThreesomeSo you’re a woman who has decided to take part in an MFM threesome. You’re far from alone in your desire to have sex with two men. No matter how much you have fantasized about it, though, the prospect of actually doing may have you feeling a bit nervous. The key is coming up with a list of dos and don’ts to make sure you will satisfy your fantasies while maintaining your boundaries.

It’s important to clarify your desires as well as your boundaries with your threesome partners before the clothes are off, and you’re all in bed together.. For example, if you don’t do anal, now is the time to sy so. Talk to them about what you’re comfortable with and what you’re not, but remember that once you get started, you can totally change your mind. It’s possible that you may be up for more than you thought you would. Continue reading

How Do You Maintain Desire in a Long-Term Relationship? Try a Threesome

How do you maintain desire in a long-term relationship? Keith and his wife tried an MFM threesome.

My wife and I have been together for more than 12 years, 8+ married.  I am in my mid-fifties, she is in her mid-forties. We have very different needs, I am fine with 2 or 3 times a week, she would like it at least once a day.

Periodically, we would have fights related to how often we were having sex. About 2 years ago I started suggesting that maybe we should try a threesome and add another gentleman to spice up the relationship. It took almost a year and some serious discussion between the two of us before she would agree. We met and “interviewed” a gentleman and started having threesomes about once a month.  Read more

Threesomes: 3 Rules for Success

You might think that, if you’re lucky enough to arrange a threesome, you’ve got it made. What could go wrong? Not so fast, says Sarah Gibson. She gives three rules to follow to make sure that you don’t just have a threesome, but that you have a successful threesome.

For the majority of us, sex is a double act. But for the adventurous some, inviting another into the bedroom is both intriguing and plausible.  If you’re considering adding a third party into the mix, it’s important to first remember that threesomes are not like regular sex – they require both resourcefulness and sensitivity. There are certain rules that need to be adhered to for a functional threesome, so read them below and ensure that you’re prepared to follow them first. Read more

A Woman’s Guide to Threesomes

It’s hard enough getting one person into bed and figuring out their turn ons and turn offs, says Katy Stryker, so adding another person may seem like madness

Threesomes are one of those intriguing things that seem to be at the forefront of sexual bucket lists for people, whether it be in the fantasies of lad mag-lovin’ men, the bitter reality of couples seeking that unicorn third (the unicorn being a hot bi babe that puts out), or of course girls like me who think if one cock is good, two is even better. There’s that memorable threesome with the guys in Shortbus, and the L Word has more than one in the series- everyone’s getting in on the action, and have been for a while!

But honestly, it’s hard enough getting ONE person into bed and figuring out their turn ons and turn offs, what positions work for your bodies, and how to be truly present. Adding another person may seem like madness- and frankly, it can be complicated. You need to be really in touch with yourself and what you hope to get out of the experience, and be able to tactfully make sure everyone else is on board. Threesomes are pretty easy to fuck up, and if you don’t do some soul searching and communicating ahead of time, you’ll have two people angry, not one! So listen up. And remember- these are just tips from my experience, they may serve you, they may not. It’s a place to start. Read more

 

The 3 Best Positions for MFM Threesomes

MFM ThreesomeBeing with two men at once is many women’s biggest fantasy, but, once you’ve found two men, what’s the best way to have sex so that everyone ends up happy and satisfied? My recommendations are based on two assumptions: 1) you want to experience double penetration, and 2) one or both of the men are so insecure that even accidentally touching another man’s penis would completely ruin their evening. The following three positions allow you to be penetrated in two orifices at once while keeping physical contact between the two men at a minimum. Continue reading

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