About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Manual Sex

The Art of the Hand Job

Tantric sex practitioner Shakti Amarantha describes how to give a hand job the Tantric way.

I’m continuing to collect things I wrote in other places that are relevant here. In this case, I was asked to explain what I mean by “giving a great handjob.” (I’m going to describe giving one to a man, but the setup is similar and there’s a link at the end to more detailed instructions for women.)

For starters, I strongly recommend three things: Read more

How to Use Your Fingers to Blow Her Mind in Bed

Danielle Page reveals how to use your fingers to blow your woman’s mind in bed.

What’s the problem with those “try these 10 moves tonight, guaranteed to get her off every time” lists? For starters, their success rate is nil. Since every vagina is shaped slightly differently, the moves that get women off vary from lady to lady. Meaning, every woman needs something a little bit different in order to reach the big O. Also, that “something” might not expressly involve your dick — since only 12.9% of women consistently reach orgasm through penetration alone. Read more

How to Give a Man the BEST Hand Job of All Time

The Booty Doctors reveal how to give a man a better hand job than he could ever give himself.

.I love a good hand job, if done right it’s the best kind of foreplay around.

Yeah, yeah, oral sex is where it’s at, I know, dudes love a blowjob. But let’s be real, blowjobs aren’t everything when it comes to bangarang foreplay.

The hand job doesn’t have a great reputation, and that’s probably because guys can do it themselves, and DIY isn’t something we tend to associate with foreplay. I believe that half the allure of the blowjob is the fact that (unless he plans on getting a rib removed) no dude can do it to himself. Read more

8 Fingering Problems and How to Solve Them

Hayley MacMillen examines eight common fingering problems and dhow to solve them.

Fingering, IMO, is severely underrated, often seen as nothing more than a short stop on you and your partner’s way around the bases when — if done right — it can be a main attraction. Zoë Ligon, sex educator and founder of inclusive sex toy store Spectrum Boutique, is with me on this. “Hands are the most versatile sex toy there is!” she exclaims. “They’re often overlooked and just seen as tools for foreplay, but manual sex is sex.” In the interest of elevating the art of the fingerbang for giver and receiver alike, Cosmopolitan.com asked five sex experts for their takes on the biggest fingering problems and how to address them. Read more

5 Tips for Better Fingeirng

The easiest way to bring a woman to orgasm is with your hands, but what’s the best way to do it?

Many, if not most women, have masturbated by fingering themselves. That’s probably why fingering another woman doesn’t seem as intimidating to first-time lesbian lovers as giving oral does. Been there, done that – sort of. Even so, fingering another woman is different than fingering yourself – thankfully – but it’s just as good a way to give your lover an orgasm as it is to give yourself one. These five easy fingering techniques will help you give your lover a hand when you are in bed together. Read more

How to Fist a Woman Like a Pro

Learn how to give a woman a hand. She will be glad you did.

I’m just gonna dive into the deep end right here and say I’m here to talk about fisting. *Blush*

First, here are the disclaimers.

1. No, I do not have a stretched out vagina.

I’m not a virgin and I don’t think my vagina feels like I am, but I am nice and snug. I’m grippy.

Vaginas are versatile. Vaginas are elastic. The vagina is fantastic. We can hold a tiny vibrating egg with ease and accommodate an intense fisting — all with the same lovely pussy.

Magic. I swear. Read more

How to Give Your Woman a Vaginal Massage

V-MassageA vaginal massage can be an extremely pleasurable experience. It releases emotional tensions and stress. While most couples fondle the vagina as a foreplay technique, few make it the main course. Paying special attention to her vagina is a way to spice up your sex life and strengthen your intimate relationship.

The Benefits of Vaginal Massage

So why is vaginal massage different from simply stimulating the clitoris with your hand? Tt actually has a lot more benefits for both of you because it: Continue reading

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