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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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6 Sex Moves that Will Ruin Your Chances for a Second Lay

Things that a long-term partner might allow you to do in bed because she wants to please you are not always a good idea to try with a new woman. These six sex moves could ruin your chances for a return engagement.

Gettin’ down with someone new for the first time is exciting and nervewracking. There are so many decisions to make! Lights on or lights off? Do you get on top, or do you just park yourself on the bottom and hope for the best? Will it be evident that it’s been a minute? The thing about it, is that t once you do it, it really is like riding a bike. You never really forget, you just have to get back on the horse. Hooking up with a new person for the first time can be totally awesome. Sure, there are awkward moments as you figure out each other’s moves and tastes, but the sexual chemistry carries you through. But there are those other times when your new paramour’s behavior in the bedroom is inexcusable. We all have our limits. Dudes, take heed. Here are some sex dealbreakers that will definitely not get you another lay. Read more

10 Things No One Tells Men That Will Make Them Better Lovers

The desire for sex is instinctive, but how to do it is not.  Tiffanie Drayton reveals ten things that no one tell men  that will make them better lovers.

There are many reasons why men don’t necessarily know what women really like in bed. The most important: a lack of access to real information. Movies oversimplify sex by not really showing what happens in the sack, pornography is just, well, pornography, and “Talk Sex With Sue Johanson” is off the air. Aside from that, us ladies are pretty confused as well. Some of us are unaware of what our bodies really like and others don’t want to speak up out of fear that our partner’s feelings will get hurt. So where do men have to turn to get some real info? Well, not too many places. For that reason, The Frisky has compiled this list of essential tips for men to help them be better lovers. This is just a beginners’ guide, so stay tuned for more! Read more

Funny Girl Sex Guide: 5 Reasons You Might Be Bad in Bed

The Funny Girl Sex Guide reveals five reasons men might be bad in bed.

10 Sex Deal-Breakers from Real Women

Commit these crimes, says Maggie Parker, and it’s official: You’re not getting laid tonight.

You may have just thrown down serious bills on dinner, complimented her all night, and used your best moves when kissing her, but you aren’t in the clear yet. Surprisingly, these are not the things that matter most to women when she’s deciding whether or not she wants to have sex with you tonight. Her decision comes down to the tiniest things you do and say, and she holds all the cards. If you commit any of these crimes, sex will be off the table in as little time it takes you to rip her clothes off. Read more

10 Things Men Forget to Do During Sex

Sometimes what you don’t do is as important as what you do. Jessica Wakeman lists ten things men forget to do during sex (not every man all the time, but some men sometimes).

No one on earth is quite as pleased as a man who has just pleased a woman between the sheets. We love the care and attention you’ve paid to us for our own benefit, but we also love watching you bask in self-satisfaction. But as satisfied as you might be with yourself, sometimes we’re not quite as satisfied as you’d hoped: something relatively minor, but highly distracting, was a bit “off.”

Don’t be offended, darlings, but a few nips and tucks in your bedroom style might speed things along (in a good way)—leaving us more time for another go at it! Read more

5 Unrealistic Sex Moves Men Learn from Watching Porn

Lori Lothian believes porn has the potential to mislead men about the best bedroom moves to use with real-life women.

I had a discussion the other day with a female sex educator about porn. The gist of our talk was about how porn has the potential to badly mislead men about the best bedroom moves, the ones real women appreciate, versus the stereotypes porn directors and actors have woven into the collective sexual imagination.

Of course, in an ideal intimate union, you men are simply asking your partner what she likes (because each woman is as unique as her pussy). But because transparency and candor is often as scary in new relationships as farting during sex, let’s just take a stab at some general “women don’t really like this” pointers.

Here are five techniques porn teaches men that are not necessarily what many women will rave to their girlfriends about after he tries them on her: Read more

5 Things Men Do to Ruin Their Own Sex Lives

If you’re a man who isn’t getting enough sex, or the sex you’re getting isn’t good enough, you may be at least partly at fault. John Cheese reveals five things that men do to ruin their own sex lives.

Sex is weird for guys. We have simple tastes and simple needs that seem to require minimal upkeep. Hell, for that matter, we barely require attention or even presence. Most men could have sex inside our local zoo’s poisonous snake exhibit and not give it a second thought until after the orgasm, when we’re prying puff adders off of our balls and screaming for antivenom. From this perspective, it’s almost impossible for us to understand it when a woman loses the mood. How? What’s wrong with her? Is she a prude?

Before we go jumping to that conclusion, it’s probably best to first turn those accusations inward. Because until you learn these basics, there’s a good chance she’s going to run out of excuses and just fake her own death to avoid your dong. Read more

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