About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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5 Porn Tricks to Leave to the Pros

More likely than not, re-enacting the moves you see in porn won’t make you a sex god. They’ll just make you another man who’s clueless in bed.

Want to screw yourself over in the sack? Keep watching other people screw each other on the Internet.

Porn, as titillating as it may be, can really give you an unrealistic impression of what women want in bed. Thing is, a lot of dudes watch it—which means a lot of dudes end up trying to pull off some PornHub Hall-of-Fame position that ultimately ends up being a real buzzkill. Read more

5 (Totally Fixable) Mistakes Men Should STOP Making in Bed

If you’re unsatisfied with your sex life, see if you might be making these mistakes.

By now you may have perfected the missionary position and learned how to unhook a bra with one hand. But there’s still plenty you could be doing to get women more interested in having sex with you.

“If you’re being offered a template on how to titillate and stimulate your woman, take it!” says sex educator Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright. “She’s not suggesting that you’re bad in bed; she’s just letting you know what her preferences are.”

Women like having sex. A lot of them love it, and a few even think about it all the time. But their shortcoming is that they often want men to be mind readers. Many women aren’t confident enough to ask for what they want in bed, so instead, they accept a so-so sex life. Read more

5 Things Men Think Women Like in Bed – But Don’t

Men often believe women like these five things, but they don’t, says Lindsay Tigar.

You all have certain go-to moves in the bedroom that one girlfriend acted like she loved, so you’ve tried it with every girlfriend since then. While it might seem like something that really gets women going, it’s important to actually pay attention if it’s doing the trick, or, well, boring her (or worse, freaking her out). Just like every new person you have sex with makes for a different experience, new bodies respond in varying ways to positions, techniques and moves, and as a great lover, it’s important to always shape your habits to fit your lover’s needs. (Just as they’ll do the same with you.) Read more

10 Sex Moves Women Hate

Being good in bad is at least partly about just not being bad as in avoiding these ten sex moves that women hate.

Not many of us escape the pressure of feeling anxious about our sexual performance, and many men feel insecure about their ability to last or the size of their penises. As in many other areas of life, though, there is a disconnect between what men think women want in the bedroom, and what women are actually in favor of. Plenty of women do feel dissatisfied in bed, but it’s not always the stereotypical things that are letting us down, such as the specter of small penises and one-minute men.

So what is it, instead? Read more

6 Ways to Make Your Man Better in Bed

Frank Kobola tells women how to make their partner better in bed without hurting his feelings.

It might seem like asking your boyfriend to do things differently in bed is a dig at his sexual prowess, but it isn’t. Any guy who is really good in bed will appreciate the input, and it’s way, way better than finding out you’ve been faking orgasms all this time. You shouldn’t be negative, but try outright telling him, “Next time, I’d really like it if you tried…” He should want to make sure you’re both getting off (and note to any guy reading this: If you think you’ve made every woman you’ve ever been with orgasm, I have some really sad news for you). Here are some sexy ways to help him improve. Read more

What NOT to Do During Foreplay

Definitely don’t skip foreplay entirely because you think it doesn’t matter.

1. Please do not act like you’re doing her a favor. Girls can tell when you’re just doing a lot of foreplay because you feel like you want a damn medal, and when you’re doing it because you genuinely enjoy it and you genuinely want her to enjoy it. Please do not wait for that medal, as it will never come Read more

11 Sex Things Women Don’t Care About

Men can relax a bit. Lane Moore reveals eleven sex things women don’t care about (too much).

1. If you have ripped abs. Let me tell you, some girls find that seriously overwhelming. Sometimes guys are so cut and toned it looks like they have some sort of disturbing growth coming from their lower body. And you know what I don’t want to see when I’m having sex with someone? Growths. Read more

Recent Comments

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