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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Better Orgasms for Men: Edging

The article I linked to in my post 7 Ways for Men to Have Better Orgasms mentions a technique called edging. Heaven explains more about the art of holding back from that final moment.

Are Facials Only Good for Porn Films?

Ejaculating all over a woman’s face, called the money shot in porn films, is considered demeaning by some. I don’t think it’s degrading or demeaning, particularly – just baffling. Why would a man want to finish off sex by masturbating? Isn’t that what he’s trying to avoid having to do by having sex with a woman?

It’s called the money shot. In straight porn it involves the male giving the female what is euphemistically called “a facial.” (Not the kind from Bliss Spa.) In some porn films, the facial is played up to emphasize his humiliation of and domination of her, but in other porn flicks, the money shot is just something the actors do. In real life, I suspect facials happen more for pleasure than for humiliation, seeing as women have a little thing called self-respect. But when I recently mentioned facials in my 10 Things Women Forget To Do During Sex piece, a hootenanny of condemnation—and defense—broke out in the comments section of that post. Read more

Frequent Masturbation Linked to Early Prostate Cancer

A new study links frequent masturbation by men when in their 20s and 30s to development of prostate cancer before the age of 60. However, for men over 50, masturbation seems to protect against prostate cancer.

A new study finds men who are sexually active in their 20s and 30s are more likely to develop prostate cancer — especially if they masturbate frequently.

The message, perhaps: Hold off until middle age.

The study also found that frequent sexual activity in a man’s 40s appears to have little effect and even small levels of sexual activity in a man’s 50s could offer protection from the disease. Most of the differences were attributed to masturbation rather than sexual intercourse. Read more

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