About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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losing virginity

First-Time Sex: How I Lost My Virginity

I have already written about two of my personal sex experiences on this blog, My First Anal Sex Experience and My First (Surprise) MFM Threesome, but not about a major milestone in every girl’s life, losing my virginity. It seems a long time ago now, but it’s not something you ever forget.

After Christmas break of my freshman year of high school, a senior boy asked me out. I’ll call him “Jason.” Jason was good-looking and popular, and being asked out by him was a major boost to my self-esteem. I was embarrassed by my Russian accent  and still felt socially awkward and out of place. I even went by Lana back then, to seem more American.

Being asked out by a popular senior boy was also a boost in my status among my friends. They tried to get even by warning me that older boys expected sex from girls they dated.That did give me pause. I was no stranger to fooling around with boys, but my sexual boundaries didn’t extend that far. I had gone as far sexually as being felt up by a hand inside my panties, but up till then, only my bra had come off, never my panties. That would change soon. Continue reading

Sex Tips for Virgin Girls

The first time,  aka losing it, being deflowered, breaking the seal, losing your innocence, popping the cherry – there are lots of names for it – but when you’ve decided to have sex for the first time, the names don’t matter. What matters is being ready and having some idea of what it’s all about. Losing your virginity is a big decision. Allowing a man to possess your body is a big step at any time, but especially the first time. These five tips will prepare you for first-time sex. Continue reading

Sex Tips for Virgin Guys

So, you think you’ve finally found a girl willing to have sex with you. Good for you. These five sex tips for virgin guys tell you what you need to know, do, and say so that you don’t look like a complete idiot when having sex for the first time. I know you’ve watched a ton of porn, and you think you know what sex is going to be like, but porn is entertainment, not sex education. Real sex is nothing like porn.

Always have condoms with you.

You never know when you might get lucky. It’d be too bad  to have to postpone losing your virginity to a willing female because she won’t let you do it without a condom.

Condoms do three good things: Continue reading

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