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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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10 Best Sex Positions for Well-Endowed Men

If you’re bigger than average, these ten sex positions will work the best, according to Vanessa Marin. (Or if you’re not, maybe you should avoid these.)

Lucky you, you’re Googling sex positions for well-endowed men! But as you probably know by now, a big penis isn’t always a blessing. At times, it can feel like you have to choose between that deep penetration you crave and not causing her pain. Plus, there are some positions that simply aren’t possible if you’re too well-endowed. But there are still plenty of ways to ensure that both of you have an amazing time. Here are 10 positions for big guys. Read more

Why Do Some Women Like a Big Penis?

Loving CoupleIf you ask most women whether penis size is important to them, they will probably say it doesn’t matter and mean it. Of course, a man’s looks, personality, intelligence, and character are more important than the size of his penis, and his sexual skills have more to do with bringing a woman to orgasm than his penis size. After all, it’s not the size of the boat, it’s the motion in the ocean, right?  However, what women say isn’t always how they instinctively feel. Why do some women like a big penis? Continue reading

Ask Ashley: What to Do If You’re “Too Well-Endowed”

Former New York governor Eliot Spitzer’s call girl Ashley Dupre now has a sex advice column in the New York Post. In her latest column, she gives advice to a man who claims that women don’t want to have sex with him because he’s “too well-endowed.”

Some of the girls I’ve been with lately complain that I’m too well-endowed and they don’t want to have sex with me anymore because it’s painful. I know a lot of guys might love to have this concern, but they don’t realize the problem it causes. Do you have any tips on how I can make sex less painful because of my size?— Anonymous

Lately? So what did all the other girls before them say? Being too big could definitely be a problem. Honestly, I dated this football player for a little bit. It never got to the point where we were having intercourse, but I did think, “How is that thing going to fit inside me and feel good?” I mean, I didn’t know they made them like that! It was like 12 inches long and the width of a 5-liter Poland Spring bottle. I didn’t want any part of it. Read more

Does Natural Penis Enlargement REALLY Work?

Confident ManMany men dream of getting a big penis, but is it worth it? If you’re talking about phalloplasty (penis enlargement surgery), I don’t think so for most men. This method has a high post-operative dissatisfaction rate and should only be considered if you are truly below average in penis size and are mentally suffering as a result. I once had a reader who deluged me with comments expressing his anger and bitterness about the size of his penis, blaming it completely for his failed relationships with women. A man like this might be a good candidate for phalloplasty because he is so depressed and frustrated that he needs instant results.

Is there an alternative to penis enlargement surgery?

What about the vast majority of men who fall within the average range (5 to 6.5 inches), but feel that a bigger penis would boost their self-confidence and aid them in satisfying their female sex partners? Is there an alternative to penis enlargement surgery? For these men, natural penis enlargement may be the answer. Continue reading

What Does a Big Penis Feel Like to a Woman?

My posts about penis size are always popular, but the responses I get from women are about their concerns with how big their partner is, not about how small. Some women find that a very long or thick penis can cause discomfort and even pain during sex. A long penis can hurt because it can hit the cervix during penetration, and a thick penis may feel like it’s stretching you too much. Since I’m among the one in three women who does enjoy sex with a big penis, I’ll explain why I do.

It’s been said that the brain is the body’s largest sex organ. A big penis can be both a visual and a sensational turn on. The sight of a big penis makes many women think about the potential pleasures of feeling “full, ” which can cause sexual excitement before foreplay even begins. The “vaginal ache,” a desire to be “filled up” that women get during sexual arousal, may be satisfied by having something large stretch and fill the vagina. Also the experience of accommodating a big penis can be a mentally stimulating, thus, making it easier to reach orgasm. Continue reading

How to Add an Inch to Your Penis Naturally

Even though only one out of three women prefer penises seven inches or longer, many men consider a big penis the key to happiness . In fact, one man with a small penis angrily claims that his shortcoming is the only reason he can’t find happiness with a woman since, otherwise, he’s a wonderful man and quite a catch (or so he says). One possible solution for men who want a bigger penis is penis enlargement exercises.

I know that penis enlargement exercises work for at least some men because a former lover – after I commented of the size of his penis  – confessed that he had used them to increase his penis size an inch and a half. I don’t know what he specifically did, but Roger Miller outlines a penis enlargement routine to add an inch to your penis naturally. The fact that he is providing a “free trial” speaks volumes about his confidence that many men could benefit from penis enlargement exercises. As he points out, what do you have to lose?

Let’s say the average penis size is 6 and a ½ inches. And that’s a generous average. How would a guy with that starting size feel if he were told that, with work, he could gain one inch in length?

Pretty happy. Very happy. In fact, most men would be completely pleased with a one inch gain in length. They wouldn’t much mind if that’s the most they could physically gain.


So…that first inch. Let’s make that your main goal. That is what you’re going to aim for. Now, how are you going to achieve it? Here is how. Read more

Sex Tips for Large Penises

My tutorial What to Do If Your Man’s Penis Is Too Big is an excellent guide to enjoying sex with a well-endowed man. Health 24 also gives sex tips for large penises.

Many women find very large penises intimidating and scary. Some may even avoid intercourse for fear of being hurt. What can you do?

Consider these tips: Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.