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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Kabbazah

Pompoir: The Art of Milking the Lingam

Pompoir is the art of “milking” a man’s lingam (Sanskrit for penis) with your vaginal muscles during sexual intercourse. Also known as the Singapore kiss, Shanghai kiss, Shanghai squeeze, or the Shanghai grip, the word pompoir originated in India. My post How to Milk Your Man’s Penis with the Vaginal Squeeze explains how to do the technique, and now Jennifer Lawless gives a Tantric version in her post Pompoir: The Art of Milking the Lingam.

Pompoir is the art of “milking” the lingam of your partner with your yoni. (Lingam and yoni are Sanskrit for penis and vagina.) While both partners are still, the woman grips and massages her man’s erection with rhythmic, rippling contractions of the pubococcygeus muscle (PC) and other pelvic floor muscles. (This rippling effect also happens during an intense orgasm in a woman.) The rippling causes a kind of milking action that can be felt by the lingam.

A woman trained in the art of pompoir is called a Kabbazah in the Middle East. The word Kabbazah translates to “one who holds.” Men say that pompoir feels like having a warm, soft, wet, velvet-gloved hand wrapped around their lingam, firmly gripping it and stroking them into the most delicious sexual nirvana they have ever experienced. Read more

How to Milk Your Man’s Penis with the Vaginal Squeeze

vaginal-squeezeWomen throughout history have been known for their sexual tricks and abilities. One of the most famous female “sex tricks” is the vaginal squeeze. It has different names in different cultures and countries. In India it is called the pompoir, the Arabic word for it is the Kabbazah (to clasp), and in the Far East it is known as the Singapore Kiss. They all refer to a woman developing strength and control of her vaginal muscles. Continue reading

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