About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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4 Steps to a Hotter Hook-Up

Pull off the perfect hook-up with these smart strategies from Debby Herbenick, Ph,D.

Casual sex may seem simple on the surface, but a truly great hookup requires some serious thought. Watch this video from Men’s Health Sex Professor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., and discover the strategies you need to pull off your hottest hookup ever.  Watch video

The Science of Hook-ups: 5 Shocking Facts About One-Night Stands

Discover the surprising ways your brain (and a woman’s hips) play a role in casual sex encounters.

It’s a familiar scene: a thriving nightlife, a club or maybe a wine bar where glasses are clinking and singles are mingling before drifting off into the shadows — two by two. It’s not the perfect picture of romance, but when you’re caught up in the moment, a warm body feels like a fair substitute for love, right?

Hooking up is just a reality of the dating scene. But since when did the hookup scene become the place to find love? While you may think you’re just living the carefree single life, your brain is influencing your decisions more than you might want to admit. Read more

Why You Forget Your Hook-up’s Name After Sex

If you forget your hook-up’s name after sex, you may be suffering from transient global amnesia – which means it’s not your fault!

So, you met a cute guy or girl at a bar and things went well enough that you woke up next to this stranger the following morning, only to realize you forgot their name. Besides drinking, is there a scientific explanation on why you don’t remember a hookup’s name? Are you just really insensitive and shallow because you were more focused on bringing this person back to your place instead getting to know them? Or, is your brain tricking you? The answer could be the latter. Read more

How to Have an Amazing Hook-Up

For men looking for an amazing hook-up, Dave Booda says asking a prospective sex partner one question could change your life.

First date, second date, kiss, have sex, meet the parents, move in, get engaged, get married, have kids.

This is the default for men and women living today in the United States (other countries may vary). Why is this our default?

Mostly because of Disney movies. That’s how we were programmed as a kid and that’s what we assume as adults. We unconsciously mold to this model, even when it’s not what we intended. Sometimes we meet girls and don’t want a relationship. What’s an honest man to do?

The secret is proactive communication. Read more

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