About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How to Have a Threesome: From Start to Finish

Whitney Cl Harris reveals how to have a threesome – from start to finish.

For many of us, threesomes are the kind of sexploits that only happen in the movies. But they don’t have to be permanently relegated to the realm of fantasy. With a little forethought and planning, you can make a three-way tryst a very sexy reality. Here’s how. Read more

Margaret Cho’s Guide for Having a Successful Threesome

Comedian Margaret Cho gives some serious advice to men for arranging a successful MFM thressome.

Margaret Cho wants you to have a great threesome.

But the comedian and host of TLC’s new show “All About Sex” cautioned viewers of HuffPost Live that while a three-way is often the first thing couples try when they want to open up their sex lives, it’s actually one of the more challenging types of intimate exploration. During a conversation with host Alyona Minkovski, Cho explained to an adventurous fan that threesomes offer the highest possibility for jealousy of any form of group sex, and it’s important to take careful steps to ensure a satisfactory experience. Read more

12 Realistic Threesome Sex Positions

Threesome sex positions are  never as hot as you think they’ll be. I, says Frank Kobola.

The Ignorance Is Bliss

Two people log on to a nearby computer and surf popular adult meet-up site Craigslist for a potential third person. Take dick picks. Slowly realize that the type of people that volunteer for anonymous sex on the Internet aren’t really the kind of people you want to let into your home.  Read more

Attending a Swinger Event

Have you ever wondered what a swinger gathering is like? KissinBlueKaren and her partner Miguel describe their visit to a swinger event

Last weekend Miguel and I went out to a swinger gathering. As usual, when we hit this type of venue, Miguel had several couples lined up that we were going to meet in person. Some of them for the first time after chatting online for months. The turn out at the venue wasn’t that impressive. We were one of the first couples to arrive and one of the last to leave. At the last moment a couple invited us back to their hotel for some after party fun. We were more than happy to oblige. Read more

Threesomes: 3 Rules for Success

You might think that, if you’re lucky enough to arrange a threesome, you’ve got it made. What could go wrong? Not so fast, says Sarah Gibson. She gives three rules to follow to make sure that you don’t just have a threesome, but that you have a successful threesome.

For the majority of us, sex is a double act. But for the adventurous some, inviting another into the bedroom is both intriguing and plausible.  If you’re considering adding a third party into the mix, it’s important to first remember that threesomes are not like regular sex – they require both resourcefulness and sensitivity. There are certain rules that need to be adhered to for a functional threesome, so read them below and ensure that you’re prepared to follow them first. Read more

6 Threesome Tips: How to Have the Perfect Ménage à Trois

Jincey Lumpkin has six threesome tips to help you avoid the potential problems that can arise out of a ménage à trois.

… I’ve had a lot of threesomes. I’ve had some foursomes, too. I’ve gained a lot of wisdom from my idiot mistakes. I’m going to share with you some tips to help you avoid the potential problems that can arise out of a ménage à trois, thereby maximizing enjoyment for all parties involved. This helpful advice is geared more toward lesbians who want to explore new territory. However, to be really honest, I had multi-partner sex with men, as well, and the same rules apply. This information can be useful for anyone, regardless of sexual orientation. Read more

FMF Threesome Planning

When Pamela Druckerman’s husband asked for a threesome for his 40th birthday, she reluctantly agreed, on one condition – that she pick the other woman.

The question on my husband’s birthday is always: What do you get for the man who has nothing? My husband isn’t a shopper; he buys food and, lately, diapers. He recently declared that he has enough pants to last the rest of his life. When I asked about his intentions regarding a drawer containing dozens of stray socks, he said his heirs would sort it out.

For his 40th birthday, I had my eye on a vintage watch. It would complement his tattered sweaters and declare to the world that he is, in fact, employed. But when I mention this to him, he balks. He says that what he really wants isn’t a good, but a service: a threesome with me and another woman.

This isn’t exactly surprising. He’d voiced the fantasy before. So had practically every guy I’d ever dated. But this time I say yes. Maybe it’s the moral weight of the big birthday and the fact that he never asks for anything. Maybe I’m daunted by the price tag on a stainless-steel Rolex. Maybe, as a journalist, I can’t resist a deadline, or I pity him heading into middle age consigned to sleeping with the same woman (me) for the rest of his life. And maybe, just maybe, it’s because I fancy the idea myself. Read more

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