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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Two Hot Foreplay Techniques to Turn On a Woman

These two hot foreplay techniques can help you smoothly transition to manual or oral sex.

One of the most fun aspects of sex is creating anticipation and building sexual tension. Spending plenty of time kissing, hugging, and caressing your lover helps do that, of course, but even when you are both ready to “head south,” it’s still a good idea to take your time getting there. The more turned on your lover is, the more responsive she will be to your desires. These two hot ways to warm up your lover will take the anticipation and sexual tension you’ve created to the next level. Read mo

The 9 Sexiest Foreplay Tips You Can Ever Use in Bed

If sex is becoming boring or predictable, try these nine sexy foreplay tips for men and women.

Sex is fun and exciting.

Well, it is, at least for the first few months.

And somewhere along the way, it starts to get just a little predictable and just a little boring.

And when you get there, and still don’t do anything to keep the sexual frenzy on a high, it’s only a matter of time before it starts to feel a chore! Read more

Prolong the Warm-Up: 5 New Foreplay Ideas

Have a great time in bed with these five new foreplay ideas from Elise Nersesian.

Imagine baking brownies without preheating the oven. Or running a marathon without training. Well, it’s important to apply that same logic to the bedroom: In order to have great sex, you need to get in a good warm-up first. But if you worry that your bedmate phones in foreplay just for your sake, you’ll be psyched to find out that scientists at the Kinsey Institute have discovered men need a little revving up too. “Guys often don’t get as much foreplay because women think an erection is proof a man is ready for sex,” says Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., author of Because It Feels Good. “But men crave the intimacy and emotional connection that foreplay provides.” Here are five moves to max out the buildup to sex. Read more

7 Foreplay Tips to Drive Your Man Wild

Do you want amazing sex? Get in the mood with these seven foreplay tips from Sean Jameson.

I often get questions about whether or not guys enjoy foreplay. The truth is: they love it! If you do foreplay right, your man is going to have incredibly powerful and enjoyable orgasms. These seven foreplay tips will show you exactly what to do to make foreplay enjoyable for both of you: Read more

How to Get More Foreplay

Most women will agree that good sexual encounters start with plenty of foreplay, but how do you get your man to give you the sensual attention you need to transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down? You have to ask for it. Read on for wince-free ways to bring out the shoulder-rubbing, neck-nuzzling, best-lover-ever side of your man.

It’s a simple and, yes, slightly sad truth: Although a new partner works long and hard to show you that he’s a caring, attentive, and affectionate sort who loves nothing more than to give luxurious foot massages and make out for hours on end, in long-term relationships, the action tends to speed up considerably. You absolutely want — and need — more kissing, caressing, and all that assorted good stuff, but the thought of actually coming out and asking him for those sensual moves makes you cringe. Fortunately, no matter how shy you might be when it comes to X-rated topics, we’ve got some very effective words that you can bring yourself to say. Here’s the plan:

STEP 1: Get your motor running.
Before you ask your guy to lavish attention on your various hot spots, you’ve gotta get your mood on. After all, while a single thought — it’s time for sex! — might be all he needs to get started, you (like many women) probably require some transition between washing the dishes/getting the kids to bed/straightening up and stripping down. Start with some small requests like these to turn up the emotional temperature and help you get psyched for making more sexy suggestions later. Read more

30 of the World's Best Foreplay Tips

Maya Silverman , author of The Erotic Massage Guide, has collected thirty of the world’s best foreplay tips. For example, here’s one from Greece that most men don’t seem to know: “The skin underneath a woman’s breast is very sensitive to a loving kiss and nibble.”

Hand’s up – those of you who thought foreplay was just that ‘Before Play’, i.e. not the real deal. Many of us rush through foreplay with a few kisses, gropes and fumbles – if you’re lucky! 15 minutes later it’s all over and it’s the rush to orgasm and roll over.

If you are one of  those people, then you could be missing a whole chuck of the seduction, arousal, and climax process. Getting foreplay right – makes the journey more fun, the pleasure more intense – and orgasm – well – just MIND BLOWING. If you want to be an expert, or atleast the desire to ‘fake’ expert lover status, now’s the time to get your notebook out.

Discover 30 of the word’s best tips.. Read more

Amp Up Your Foreplay! 6 Tips for Getting What You Really Want

Most woman need prolonged stimulation in order to reach a complete arousal.Foreplay can include undressing, kissing, petting, and oral sex, but it also can mean creating the right environment for lovemaking. Just remember that if she is satisfied with her sexual experience, she will usually make sure that you are satisfied as well. Here are six foreplay tips for getting what you really want.

There’s nothing worse than a lazy lover, one who’s perfectly willing to skip the main course to go directly to dessert! What your partner may not realize is that foreplay is an essential part of lovemaking. In fact, long and sensual foreplay is a prerequisite for steamy sexy sex. The more build up you create, the more pleasure both of you will feel come Oh-time. Here’s how to guide your lover to the ultimate roll in the hay. Read more

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