About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Mastering First-Time Sex with a Woman

When you go to bed with a woman for the first time, you can experience first-night nerves and make mistakes, says adult webmaster Sarah Gibson. She has six tips for men to master first-time sex and keep her coming back for more.

When you go to bed with a woman for the first time you can experience ‘first night nerves’; and do and say things that you’d have never imagined.  Even the most experienced men can make rookie mistakes.  So use the tips below to master first-time sex and keep her coming back time and time again

It takes time

Guys tend to be caught up on the three date rule – but forget about it; all girls are different. Some girls will go to bed with you on the first date if they feel the sexual chemistry is there; while many others will want to wait for eight or more dates. Just because you don’t get any on the third date, it doesn’t mean that she’s not into you. Be patient and read the signs, she will drop hints when she’s ready to sleep with you. Watch out for the first time that she creates total privacy for the pair of you –that’s a good indicator that she is ready to take the next step. Read more

First-Time Sex: How I Lost My Virginity

I have already written about two of my personal sex experiences on this blog, My First Anal Sex Experience and My First (Surprise) MFM Threesome, but not about a major milestone in every girl’s life, losing my virginity. It seems a long time ago now, but it’s not something you ever forget.

After Christmas break of my freshman year of high school, a senior boy asked me out. I’ll call him “Jason.” Jason was good-looking and popular, and being asked out by him was a major boost to my self-esteem. I was embarrassed by my Russian accent  and still felt socially awkward and out of place. I even went by Lana back then, to seem more American.

Being asked out by a popular senior boy was also a boost in my status among my friends. They tried to get even by warning me that older boys expected sex from girls they dated.That did give me pause. I was no stranger to fooling around with boys, but my sexual boundaries didn’t extend that far. I had gone as far sexually as being felt up by a hand inside my panties, but up till then, only my bra had come off, never my panties. That would change soon. Continue reading

Have Fantastic Sex Your First Time Together

Men’s Health gives some tips and tricks to make that first night together unforgettable.

Make her wait
Even if the chemistry is overpowering, it’s worth holding out a while before taking things to the bedroom. “As a rule of thumb, advertise the goods on a first date: be courteous, polite and don’t get drunk, and when you take her home, make that five-second kiss below her ear very interesting,” says Phillip Hodson, fellow of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy and author of How Perfect is Your Partner? 50 ways to get to know your lover. Delaying the first time you get down to it will make her realise you’re not just attracted to her looks. What’s more, the erotic tension built up by resisting ripping each others’ clothes off should lead to a mind-blowing first romp. Read more

Celebrities Reveal How They Lost Their Virginity

angelina-jolie-nudeSome first time sex stories have a happy ending, while others are full of regrets. How old were you when you lost your virginity? Was it good or bad? Paris Hilton, Angelina Jolie, Johnny Depp, and others celebrities reveal juicy details about the first time they had sex. As you might expect, Angelina Jolie’s first time was at a young age and sort of kinky.

From a beautiful moment to a complete fiasco, first sex can be many different things – and it’s no different for the stars!

And they don’t mind spilling the juicy details.

Paris Hilton lost her virginity to Tori Spelling’s brother Randy, Angelina Jolie didn’t experience any emotion her first time and Johnny Depp had sex at 13. Read more

The 8 Places You Probably Lost Your Virginity

Holy Taco describes the eight places you probably lost your virginity from both his and her perspective. I hate to admit to being so trite, but I lost mine in one of these eight.

You always remember where you were when you lost your virginity, and most of the time you wish you could forget it.


HOW IT WENT DOWN FROM HER PERSPECTIVE: You held back the urge to vomit due to his entire weight pushing against your stomach which was filled with 40 ounces of malt liquor and top sirloin, while you repeatedly told him “it’s cool” when he incessantly apologized for first dropping the condom rapper underneath his box of road flares and then for his inability to actually put his penis into your vagina on his own, which according to him was due to the logistics of the back seat, and not his unfamiliarity with vaginas. Read more

6 Steps That Lead to More Sex

Your first time in bed with a new woman can be tricky, and a lot of men don’t have a clue as to what a woman expects from them. Men’s Health gives men six steps to follow to make sure that the first time with her isn’t the last time.

Even experienced men make rookie mistakes when they go to bed with a new woman for the first time. And she’s taking mental notes. “First-time sex gives her a sense of your generosity and how much you care about her,” says the sex therapist Sandor Gardos, Ph.D. Nearly two-thirds of the 2,385 women we polled say they consider first-time sex an indicator of a relationship’s potential. Here’s how to best finesse your first. Read more

The 10 Commandments of First-Time Sex

Ian Kerner gives tips to women for first-time sexual encounters:

Here are my 10 commandments for first-time sex, whether it’s your first time ever or just with a new guy. While I can’t guarantee you a religious experience, if you follow my lead I can promise you a sexual experience that will be all the more satisfying.

The second commandment, especially, is one that many women need to keep in mind when they head for the bedroom:

Don’t have too-high expectations. Sex generally improves as you get to know someone and become more comfortable with each other’s bodies. So don’t feel pressured to make it the best night ever, because this is just the first of many. Read more

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