About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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6 Signs a Woman Is Good in Bed (Before You Take Her Home)

Curious about a woman’s sexual style? Want to avoid “buyer’s remorse?” Erin Stevens reveals six signs that a woman is good in bed – before you take her home.

Ever wonder what a girl will be like in bed before you’ve slept with her? Believe it or not, there are actually plenty of ways to tell — and no, we’re not talking about whether or not she deep throats her banana for breakfast. According to experts, you can get serious intel about what your girl will be like between the sheets by looking at everything from the way she kisses to her favorite ice cream flavor. Here are six key factors to consider. Read more

Study: Feelings of Disgust in Women Diminished by Sexual Arousal

It’s not news that women are more prone to sexual disgust than men, nor should it be news that women will do things when really turned on that they never thought they would ever do.  However, men who want to try new things with their female partners now have a scientifically confirmed approach laid out for them.

A recent study conducted at the University of Groningen has found that women experiencing sexual arousal are less likely to experience feelings of disgust. Read more

How to Walk Sexy: The Walk That Drives Men Wild

Scientists say that a certain walk can make a woman seem instantly sexier and more successful from twenty feet away.

Left, right, left, right…we all know how to walk, right? But taking a stroll isn’t just about getting from A to B. Researchers from Queen’s University in Canada recently had men rate different female gaits and discovered that there’s one saunter that captivates them. This wasn’t news to biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, author of Why Him? Why Her? “Women have developed ways to get and keep a man’s attention as we’ve evolved, and this walk is one of them,” she says. A man-melting stride doesn’t just turn heads — Fisher says women who do it are also instantly associated with a slew of positive traits. Um, how did we not know about this before?

Walk This Way
Odds are, you’ve seen The Walk or done it yourself without realizing its power: Read more

How a Woman Acts When You’re Amazing in Bed

How does a woman act when her man is satisfying her sexually? Completely different from when he is not, says Shawna Lenee. She lists the signs – both in and out of the bedroom – that show whether giving your woman the good sex she craves.

… There are a lot of signs – both in and out of the bedroom – that you are NOT satisfying your woman. Here’s just a few signs your girl is not satisfied.

Signs In The Bedroom

  • Your girl doesn’t always have an orgasm
  • You frequently have to initiate intimacy
  • She is reluctant to go down on you, to have to do it in certain positions, to try anything adventurous

Signs Outside The Bedroom

  • You feel like you have to “earn” it, by taking her out or buying her things, or by being on your “best” behavior.
  • You think your girl just doesn’t like it as much as you do. She has to be in the right mood and not tired or stressed from work.
  • She nags you about household responsibilities, how you dress, how you act.
  • You and your girl aren’t having sex as much as you used to, and not as much as you would like to

If these sound like you, you aren’t alone.

How Does Your Girl Act When You Are Giving Her Amazing Sex?

Make no mistake about it, once you start giving your girl amazing nookie, everything, and I do mean everything about the relationship changes. Read more

Why Are Cock Pics Such an Epic Fail?

Why are cock pics such an epic fail with women? Men seem to think that the sight of their penises will make us wild with desire. However, Blondie_McBaffled explains that while heterosexual women “want and need our man’s penis, we don’t fantasize about how it LOOKS, the curvature, the vein protruding from one side; we fantasize about how it FEELS.” A photo of a stranger’s penis just doesn’t get the juices flowing. In fact, it can have the opposite effect because, let’s face it, most penises are sort of ugly.

Yesterday, while watching one of Allstate’s amazing and super funny mayhem commercials, I had an epiphany: penises are ugly. I mean, really, when’s the last time you saw a bumper sticker or t-shirt that said “penises make me smile,” or saw a commercial with a woman looking at a man’s penis like just the very sight of it is making her wild with desire? You haven’t, because penises are ugly.

Put a good-looking, big-breasted girl in a low cut top jogging down the road, and watch the men drool all over themselves and almost get in accidents as they rubberneck to get a better view. Let a man wear something that shows half their penis or scrotum, and see what kind of response that gets. Let him wear a short pair of running shorts with no underwear, with the package playing peek-a-boo as he runs … the women may be looking, but not for the same reasons. Read more

The Sounds Women Make in Bed Have Little to Do with Her Orgasm

The sounds women make in bed have more to do with her partner than her orgasm, says a study..

When Meg Ryan demonstrated just how effortlessly a woman could fake an orgasm in When Harry Met Sally, co-star Billy Crystal was not only embarrassed, but stunned.

Now it appears there may be some truth to the idea, as a new study has shown that the noise a woman might make in bed does not often correspond with her orgasm.

According to research from the University of Central Lancashire, a woman’s ‘copulatory vocalisations’ are made most often before her climax or during her partner’s. Read more

What Do Women Consider Good Sex?

You know what you like, but how can you be sure she’s into your moves? Sex therapist Ian Kerner gives men ten tips.

As a sex therapist and founder of GoodinBed.com as well as the author of numerous books on the subject of pleasuring, such as She Comes First, I guess you could say I have one thing on my mind. Sex is pretty much all I think about and talk about all day (and if I’m lucky, I also get to do it with my wife). Over the years, I’ve learned a thing or two about how to pleasure a woman, so without further ado, here are my 10 “best practices” for being truly good in bed. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
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