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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How to Make Her Sexual Fantasies Come True

Want to make her sexual fantasies come true? Nicole Beland reveals how.

Most women aren’t very good at asking for what they want, especially in the beginning of a relationship. And by “beginning,” I mean anywhere from the first night to the first 2 years. For one thing, we’re hopelessly romantic. We imagine that the right guy will instinctively grant us every sexual favor we’ve ever fantasized about, without our having to say anything. Ridiculous, sure, but a girl can dream.

Also—trust me here—we dread being perceived as high maintenance. We see how put out you guys are by the idea of phoning us once a day or escorting us to a cousin’s wedding. So asking for 45 uninterrupted minutes of cunnilingus seems outrageous.

The good news is that we are fantasizing about sex. Read more

The Top 5 Female Sexual Fantasies

Sexpert Sarah Gibson gas posted a list of the top five female sexual fantasies.

Men are not the only ones that fantasise about sex. Women may look sweet and innocent, but you may be surprised what goes on inside our heads! It’s more than likely your wife or girlfriend will have had an explicit sexual fantasy that she may or may not have been too ashamed to share. Fancy an insight? Then read this top five list, it is sure to mention at least one of her forbidden fantasies. Read more

Her list is not too different from lists I’ve posted about previously here and here except that making a sex tape is on the list! Whom did she survey – porn stars? Women are probably just as narcissistic as men, but, as Gibson admits, many women lack the confidence their bodies to make a sex tape. That, plus the fear it might become public – especially after a break-up – makes even us exhibitionists hesitatant to document our sex lives on video. Having an ex crow about his sexploits online, using me as Exhibit A, is way down on my list of sexual fantasies.

Women will never be equal to men until they can walk down the street with a bald head and a beer gut and still think they’re sexy.

Shoudl You Help Her Act Out Her Rape Fantasy?

rape_fantasyOf course you’d never force yourself on a woman, but what if she asked you to? Should you help her act out her rape fantasy? Anna David takes you inside the most dangerous erotic game of all.

Jim was hiding between two bushes in the back yard, but lack of space was the least of his concerns. Standing next to a window so that he had a perfect view into a woman’s bedroom—where, dressed in a thigh-length pink negligee, she was masturbating to porn—Jim had one main worry: that the woman’s neighbors would see what he was doing, or worse, what he was about to do.

Jim (not his real name), a 40-year-old Bay Area aviation manager, wasn’t an ordinary Peeping Tom: The woman inside the house—let’s call her Tina—had given him her address and told him when to show up. She’d also left the back door unlocked so that he could easily get in. Her instructions, however, were more explicit than that: He was to slap her across the face, throw her against the wall, and tie her up with rope she’d left for that very purpose. Jim, you see, was there to fulfill her sexual fantasy—or to try to. Read more

Top 10 Female Sex Fantasies

Isabella Snow describes and ranks the top ten female sexual fantasies at AskMen.com. As I would have expected, men’s top fantasy, a threesome with another woman, ranks lower with women than a threesome with two men,  but I was a little surprised at which fantasy was ranked number one. I would have thought that the “rape” fantasy would be the number one sex fantasy rather than the one that was.

If you think women don’t sit around fantasizing about very naughty things, think again. Women are experts when it comes to dreaming up the sauciest of fantasies, and they don’t bother limiting themselves to the traditional. The top 10 female sex fantasies cover everything from fetish to threesomes, and you may be surprised to know that many women want to do more than just fantasize. Some women spend just as much time hoping their men will help put their female sex fantasies into practice. Sound interesting? Read on: we’ll give you the inside scoop on the top 10 female sex fantasies, and what she’s really daydreaming about when you least expect it. Read more

Acting Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies

Sexpert Tracey Cox describes the top three female sexual fantasies and gives complete instructions for acting them out.

Well, there’s one sexual organ most people neglect: the brain. And it’s your passport back to Sexual Nirvana. Literally millions of us secretly use fantasies during masturbation, and some of us use them to achieve orgasm during sex. So why not own up to your favorites and act them out with your partner for what could be the lustiest sex you’ve had in years? Just follow this step-by-step guide.

Fantasy #1: He’s a virgin ‑- and you’re Mrs. Robinson

Why it appeals to you: Read more

Top 10 Men Women Fantasize About

Savvy Miss lists the top ten men women fantasize about. I agree with all but one of them, though not necessarily in the same order.

Is it too much to ask that we end up with someone interesting? Not some average Joe accountant or lawyer, but someone exciting, sexy and fantasy-worthy? Of course not. That’s why we women shun the ordinary and wait for our dream man to come along. Here’s our list of the top 10 men women fantasize about. We only have ourselves to blame for ditching the average Joe when one of these men comes knocking.

No. 10: The pirate
Watching Orlando Bloom and Johnny Depp got you thinking, ooh la la? Well strap your peg leg on for some pirate loving. You should probably put aside concerns for things like hygiene, scurvy and seasickness, but if you like adventure there’s nothing like clinging to a hammock below deck with an all-male crew of murderers and thieves. Read more

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