About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The Magical Power of Semen and How It Can Hijack Your Brain

Adina Ribers says that semen may be able to hijack your brain if you’re a woman.

Menno Schilthuizen wrote an amazing book call In Nature’s Nether Regions where he explains how the chemical cocktail found in semen can hijack the female brain. The study has only been performed in insects so far, but who knows, maybe soon they will uncover the same magical effects of semen on the human brain? Read more

What Goes on in a Woman’s Brain When She Has an Orgasm?

What goes on in a woman’s brain when she has an orgasm? A lot, say scientists.

… Evidence suggests women experience longer orgasms than men, and can have several in quick succession.

The researchers asked eight women to stimulate themselves while lying under a blanket inside an Magnetic Resonance Imaging (MRI) scanner, a tunnel-like machine often used to detect brain tumours.

Most women took less than five minutes to reach an orgasm although some took as long as 20.

During that time, the MRI scanner took images of their brain every two seconds to show which parts became active during the orgasm.

The scientists found that two minutes before the orgasm, the brain’s reward centres become active, the areas usually activated when eating food and drink. Read more

5 Reasons Women Are Dissatisfied with Their Sex Lives

When women claim they’d rather sleep than have sex it says more about how bad sex is for them than how good sleep is. La Tricia Smith discusses the five reasons women are dissatisfied with their sex lives. Understanding sexual dissatisfaction is the first step to overcoming it.

We have all read the headline “Women Would Rather Sleep than Have Sex.” For many women, this statement proves truer than they would like. It’s not that women do not enjoy having sex, or that they get more excitement from these other things. The problem is that there are distractions getting in the way of having a satisfying and fulfilling sex life. It’s true that the secret to sexual satisfaction lies in that region between the left ear and the right ear (the brain). When it comes to women and sex, there are a number of things that can run interference with sexual satisfaction.

Here are five blocks to sexual satisfaction and what can be done about them: Read more

Who Enjoys Sex More, Men or Women?

Do men or women enjoy sex more? Greek mythology had the answer.

Woman, in the picture language of mythology, represents the totality of what can be known… (She) is the guide to the sublime acme of sensuous adventure. By deficient eyes she is reduced to inferior states; by the evil eye of ignorance she is spellbound to banality and ugliness. But she is redeemed by the eyes of understanding.
Joseph Campbell, The Hero with a Thousand Faces

Some of our earlier posts have led readers to ask who enjoys sex more, men or women? As with so much else, Ancient Greek mythology might offer an answer. Read more

Top 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Man

Now that men know the Top 10 Things You Should Never Say to a Woman, it’s time for women to learn ten things we should never say to a man. This one’s my favorite because it so perfectly illustrates how a man can’t win no matter how he answers (and all  but the most slow-witted or naive men know it).

4) “Do You Think She’s Pretty?”

When you ask a question like this, your boyfriend knows he can’t win.

If he says “yes,” you’ll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with “Is she prettier than me?” Talk about a loaded question!

Of course, if he says “no” (and she clearly is pretty), you’ll accuse him of being a liar. You’ll wonder what else he’s lying about, even as you assure him you don’t mind if he says “yes.” Pfff…as if you’re that insecure!

Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn’t find her attractive at all? You’ll wonder what his bad taste says about you. Read more


30 Things Women Secretly Think About During Sex

Women just don’t have the single-minded devotion to sex that men have. Our bodies may be between the sheets, but our minds can wander off to other places. I have to admit that most of these thoughts have crossed my mind during sex. Do men ever suspect how little their efforts are appreciated sometimes?

1. I wonder who is on “The Daily Show” tonight?

2. I can’t do this with my dog watching.

3. Yes! Yes! Yes! Right there!

4. Ow! Slow the hell down! What the hell are you doing?

5. It’s cold in here.

6. What am I going to wear tomorrow?

7. I should not have had so much to drink.

8. Did he hear me just queef?

9. Ugh, I hate condoms.

10. Was I wearing lipstick? Is there red lipstick all over everything? F**k, there’s probably red lipstick all over everything. Read more

A Simple (But Powerful) Sex Trick Guaranteed to Make Her Crave Sex All Day Long

Men often complain that they don’t get enough sex. Lee Jenkins, author of The Female Orgasm Black Book, describes a simple (but powerful) sex trick guaranteed to make your wife or girlfriend crave sex all day long.

… What I’m about to teach you is a quick and easy way to plant of a seed of sexual desire in her mind. This pre-sex tip will get her hot and bothered, thinking of being with you throughout the day!

Before we jump into details, let me warn you: This tip works best if you’re already in an established relationship. If you’ve only started dating a girl, save this technique for later. Read more

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