About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Female Orgasm

5 Sex Positions for More Clitoral Stimulation

Not  fEnough clitoral stimulation is the most common reason for women not having orgasms from intercourse. These five sex positions help fix that problem.

Despite how every rom-com ever makes it look, no, just hopping on top during sex isn’t going to give you magical, spontaneous orgasms either.

So, if clitoral stimulation is your jam, there are some adjustments you can make to your go-to positions that will definitely increase your ~satisfaction factor~. An extra hand or a toy down there can do wonders… Read more

Here’s How Long Sex Should Last for Maximum Female Pleasure

Nothing should be written in stone when it comes to how long sex should last, but these are some guidelines.

Let’s talk about sex, baby! (Because, really, what else did you come to Cosmopolitan.com to talk about? Besides physics and the answer to world peace.)

Over at GQ, they’re trying to answer the question: How long should sex last? Especially for a woman’s enjoyment? (They’re doing the Lord’s work.) Read more

5 Tips for Better Fingeirng

The easiest way to bring a woman to orgasm is with your hands, but what’s the best way to do it?

Many, if not most women, have masturbated by fingering themselves. That’s probably why fingering another woman doesn’t seem as intimidating to first-time lesbian lovers as giving oral does. Been there, done that – sort of. Even so, fingering another woman is different than fingering yourself – thankfully – but it’s just as good a way to give your lover an orgasm as it is to give yourself one. These five easy fingering techniques will help you give your lover a hand when you are in bed together. Read more

Science FINALLY Solves the Mystery of the Female Orgasm

A team of researchers claims to have figured out why women have orgasms.

It’s a question which has intrigued scientists for centuries – why do women have orgasms?

But a team of Yale researchers claim to have finally discovered the answer and it’s all to do with ovulation. Read more

5 Sex Positions That Get You Off When He Has a BIG Penis

Rebecca Janes Stokes five of the bes t sex positions to use when the man has a big penis

I may be writing a list of the best sex positions for coping with a big penis, but let’s be clear: Every sex position is the best sex position for having sex with a big penis if you take the proper steps first.

Just because a guy has a big penis that doesn’t mean he has no ability to communicate with words (I mean, sometimes it does, but let’s be kind here). The sex position you pick doesn’t mean diddly if you can’t communicate with your partner.

His big penis will be a big let down if you can’t tell him what works, what doesn’t work, and what is not possible because of physics.  Read more

Why Some Women Cannot Climax from Intercourse

A large percentage of women cannot climax from sexual intercourse alone. Although penis size, performance, and level of attraction are known causes for inability to reach orgasm from intercourse, they are not the only factors. The shape of some women’s vaginas may also play a role, according to a new study.

We often hear how a man’s anatomy is to credit – or blame – for a partner’s level of sexual pleasure.

But new research suggests that a woman’s own genital configuration will ultimately determine her ability to orgasm during penetrative sex.

The study, conducted by Leslie Hoffman at Indiana University’s department of anatomy, says the clitoris’ close proximity to the urinary tract is essential for satisfaction.

And, interestingly, it’s something that’s determined while still in the womb. Read more

Women Most Likely to Reach Orgasm in This Position, Science Says

A woman’s ability to have an orgasm during intercourse is influenced by her individual anatomy. Scientists reviewed previous research and found that one sex position is the best way to hit all the right buttons.

Sure, sex is about getting close to your partner and sharing a special bond in a way only you two can. But, c’mon, we all know what we really want out of it: a nice, earth-shaking orgasm.

If you’ve been doing it on the regular and haven’t been able to O like you think you should, take heart: Scientists are on the case. In a new review of previous research published in the journal, Clinical Anatomy, researchers sought to learn why some people have more orgasms than others, and found that a lot of it has to do with your anatomy. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.