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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Why This Legendary Type of Orgasm Is Controversial

Female ejaculation is still controversial, but why?

Female ejaculation, aka squirting, has become a lot more mainstream in the past few decades, thanks in part to porn. Indeed, many a porn video has led us to believe that if you stimulate a vagina in just the right way, it’ll transform into a free-flowing, wellspring of ejaculate. Read more

Kunyaza: African Secret to Ultimate Female Orgasm

Kunyaza is a sex technique from Central Africa that uses tapping and rubbing the penis over the clitoris and vulva before penetration in order to increase female arousal and prepare her body for intercourse. Then, similar movements at the opening to the vagina are alternated with shallow and deep thrusts in order to stimulate the G-spot area and trigger female ejaculation. The basic idea behind Kunyaza is to  combine both external and internal stimulation using varied, rhythmic  movements that are adjusted according to the response of the woman. Continue reading

My Female Orgasm Ebook Has Been Published!

Female OrgasmLet’s face it; one of the worst things that can happen to any man is not being “sure” if he had given his woman a orgasm. You think you have it. You think you were stimulating the right spot. She seems to be enjoying herself. Yet somehow, you feel she’s secretly disappointed although she won’t anything because she doesn’t want you to hurt your feelings. Continue reading

Australia Banning Porn with Small-Breasted Women and Female Ejaculation

The Australian Classification Board (ACB) has banned mainstream pornography from showing women with A-cup breasts on the grounds that such images could be construed as child pornography. So, women with small breasts are undeveloped and look like children? Does it also imply that if a man likes small-breasted women, he’s by implication a pedophile? In addition, material with depictions of females ejaculating during orgasm are now Refused Classification and Australian Customs directed to confiscate it.

A reader writes, “Australian Classification Board (ACB) is now banning depictions of small-breasted women in adult publications and films. They banned mainstream pornography from showing women with A-cup breasts, apparently on the grounds that they encourage paedophilia, and in spite of the fact this is a normal breast size for many adult women. Presumably small breasted women taking photographs of themselves will now be guilty of creating simulated child pornography, to say nothing of the message this sends to women with modestly sized chests or those who favour them. Australia has also banned pornographic depictions of female ejaculation, a normal orgasmic sexual response in many women, with censors branding it as ‘abhorrent.'” Read more

What Does Singing Have to Do with Orgasm?

Suzie Heumann, founder of Tantra.com, says when women emit deep, low sounds from their abdomens and with their mouths wide open this can sometimes lead to longer lasting, powerful orgasms and even female ejaculation..

… When we open up to sing that fully, especially songs that have a deep, lower resonance to them, we are triggering and using our vagus nerve. The vagus nerve is a big one. It’s long and it branches a lot of times as it snakes throughout our body. It innervates the voicebox, the throat, the upper palate, the heart, the lungs and portions of the digestive system. You can look it up on any resource site to understand it better.

But what those research sites don’t often say is that not only does it innervate the throat and chest, it is directly connected to the cervix and uterus. What does this mean for women’s pleasure? Beverly Whipple and Barry Komisaruk have investigated the vagus nerve and deep vaginal orgasms in women who have spinal cord injuries. This spinal cord compromise causes them to lack feeling in their lower extremities, thus not allowing them the capacity to feel orgasms by other nerve structures (There are four major nerve pathways to orgasm for women and three for men). The vagus nerve doesn’t travel through the spinal cord, however. Deep, penetrative sexual activities that affect the cervix and stimulate the uterus trigger orgasm via this nerve. These women can have and feel the orgasms.

Here is what I am speculating: That opening up the mouth, chest cavity (through slow, deep breathing) and orgasmic capacities via the vagus nerve may lead to powerful orgasms and possibly multiples and female ejaculation. Read more

The Story of Ohhhhh!

Follow this Men’s Health pleasure map to find a woman’s five orgasmic hot spots.

Make her orgasm in 3 minutes
You may know where to find this sexual silver bullet, but it goes much deeper than you realised. “The clitoris is like the tip of an iceberg,” says Dr Hilda Hutcherson, professor of Obstetrics and Gynaecology at Columbia University and author of What Your Mother Never Told You about Sex (Penguin). “Like the penis it has a glans and shaft as well as ‘legs’ – erectile tissue that runs down either side of the vagina and towards the back of her thighs in a wishbone shape.” If you are just rubbing her on top you are missing out on stimulating these sensitive areas around and underneath.

How: “The Kivin method of oral sex gives 60% of women a faster and more intense orgasm because it stimulates more of the clitoris,” says registered sex therapist Dr Patti Britton, (www.askthesexcoach.com). “Most women climax after three minutes and all in under 12.” Ask her to lie on her back while you position yourself side-on between her legs. Put two fingers either side of her clitoris to raise and steady it and slowly sweep your tongue back and forth feeling for two tiny bumps on each side of the hood. Slowly increase your speed then using a finger from your free hand press into her perineum. As you feel her nearing orgasm, transfer your tongue from the side to the head of her clitoris. Read more

The Secret to Female Ejaculation

Female ejaculation used to be dismissed as a myth, but the scientific community was proven wrong in 1980 when John D. Perry and Beverly Whipple showed a film of a female ejaculating to the Society for the Scientific Study of Sex. Female ejaculate is a fluid released from the G-spot area. It is usually clear, or milky and as thin as water. The secret to female ejaculation is G-spot stimulation to orgasm. Continue reading

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