About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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10 Foods for Harder Erections

Diet can play a role in sexual health. These ten foods can help men have harder erections.

How to Strengthen Your Penis for Better Sex

Relationship coach Jordan Gray reveals how to strength your penis for better sex.

Have you ever suffered from bouts of erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation (especially when it mattered the most to you to perform well)?

It’s completely normal. It’s also completely avoidable. And it can be so much better.

Want to turn your sex life from something that gives you anxiety into something that you confidently crave? Want to know that you can be up for the challenge whenever it presents itself? Want to know that you will forever be able to sexually provide for your partner?

No more having to rely on excuses like “Sorry, I guess I had too much to drink”, “I’m just not in the mood tonight”, or “I came that quickly because you just looked so damn sexy”.

It’s time to strengthen your penis for better sex, firmer erections, and legendary lasting power between the sheets. Read more

What to Do When Your Man Is Having Issues in the Bedroom

Is there anything a woman can do if her man is having issues in the bedroom?

You know, I think us ladies have it pretty easy when it comes to being good at sex. I feel like the baseline is just to not lay there like a corpse and to express enthusiasm. Our bodies don’t usually mechanically betray us in this particular arena – most of the time, mechanical problems with our lady parts can be fixed with lube. Guys, on the other hand, have to depend on their penises, which apparently have a mind on their own. Luckily, I’ve never been with a dude whose penis wasn’t functioning, but it is a thing that happens to men, regardless of age, fitness level, arousal level, etc. I know that if I were confronted with a penis that didn’t appear happy to see me, I would be a little bit bummed out. However, don’t let it ruin the moment. There are ways for both parties to leave the bed somewhat satisfied. Read more

9 Natural Herbal Remedies for Erectile Dysfunction

From watching TV, you would think we were in the middle of an erectile dysfunction epidemic.  I doubt that’s true, but it certainly is an uncommon problem. It’s not a new one either, and long before modern pharmaceuticals, men used herbal remedies to treat the condition.

Erectile dysfunction, also known as impotence, is considered to be the inability to get an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual activity. Almost all men face this problem at some point in their lives. Nearly 5% men over the age of 40 and 15% to 25% over the age of 60 encounter this problem, so there is nothing abnormal about it.

Although there are several medical options available to treat this condition, medical treatment for impotence may be a costly decision. Besides cost, drugs may cause serious side effects, so many men suffering from erectile dysfunction prefer to try natural remedies for erectile dysfunction first. Natural remediees for erectile dysfunction include the following herbs: Read more

Erectile Dysfunction and Porn

Can’t perform in bed? A new study says porn may be to blame.

Porn is so readily available now that it’s hard to say no. According to Psychology Today, though, there’s a very good reason to pull out: erectile dysfunction. Research shows that being exposed to porn desensitizes men to the point where getting turned on by regular sex simply isn’t exciting enough. Read more

This makes sense.  If the woman in a man’s life isn’t as hot as the women he sees in porn videos – who have the benefit of professional make-up, fake breasts, and flattering camera work – he may eventually not get turned on by her anymore. Plus, if she doesn’t want to do some of the things he’s seen women do (or thinks he has, such as ass-to-mouth), he may feel rejected.

I’ve always thought that the main problem with porn is that unsophisticated men took it seriously and thought of it as sex education instead of  just erection-producing entertainment. However, if the reports of increasing numbers of young men having erectile dysfunction are true, it may have even more serious and far-reaching consequences. A man who can only be turned on by fantasy sex is likely to have serious relationship problems with real women, and if he doesn’t understand the cause of the problem, he’s not likely to be able to solve it.

Can Cannabis Use Cause Erectile Dysfunction?

Many people believe that marijuana enhances sexual experience, but new research suggests that cannabis use may make it more difficult for a man to achieve and maintain an erection.

Cannabis and its effects on the brain are relatively well understood, but new research suggests that cannabis receptors also exist in the penis. The antagonizing effect of the drug on these receptors may make it more difficult for a man to achieve and maintain an erection, suggests the study. The research is set to appear in the Journal of Sexual MedicineRead more

Too Much Internet Porn Can Lead to Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder

Sex therapist Ian Kerner says too much internet porn can lead to a syndrome he calls Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder (SADD). He’s encountering more and more men who can’t maintain an erection during intercourse and who can’t climax except by manual or oral stimulation.

As a sex therapist and founder of Good in Bed, I’ve seen a sharp increase in men who suffer from a new syndrome I’ve dubbed “Sexual Attention Deficit Disorder,” or SADD. And the source of this problem is just a click away — too much internet porn.

Just as people with ADD are easily distracted, guys with SADD have become so accustomed to the high levels of visual novelty and stimulation that comes from internet porn that they’re unable to focus on real sex with a real woman. As a result, guys with SADD often find it difficult to maintain an erection during intercourse, or they experience delayed ejaculation and can only climax with manual or oral stimulation. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.