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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How to Give Your Woman an Orgasm During Intercourse

cowgirlIf your woman isn’t as eager for sex as you’d like her to be (or not interested at all), it’s probably because she isn’t getting much enjoyment from it. It’s human nature to want more of what we like and less of what we don’t. If your partner isn’t sick, injured, or cheating on you, the reason she doesn’t want to have sex more often is because she doesn’t enjoy it. Period.

Surveys reveal that only about 30 percent of women have orgasms with intercourse. Female sexual pleasure mostly associates with her clitoris and G spot. Women often don’t have orgasm with intercourse because some sex positions don’t provide enough stimulation of these pleasure spots. Here are some positions and techniques that do provide the stimulation your woman needs to have an orgasm with intercourse. Continue reading

Sex Tips for Clitoral Stimulation

Rebecca Chalker, author of The Clitoral Truth.  reveals how to treat a woman right by slowly stimulating her clitoris.

The clitoris is not a bull’s-eye, power switch, or launch button. “You can’t just go for the gold,” says Rebecca Chalker, author of The Clitoral Truth. “You might short-circuit her body’s elaborate arousal process.” Your step-by-step guide to treating her right by taking it slow:


The nerve-packed tip of the clitoris is sensitive at first, says Chalker. But just above the clitoral tip lies a short shaft — a genetic cousin to your penis — that can help her warm up. Try this: After some foreplay, stimulate this inner shaft. Push down on her lower abdomen with your outstretched fingers, massaging the skin on either side of her vagina in a scissors motion, causing the skin of her inner labia to caress the shaft. Read more

The Clitoris Is Your Friend!

Sexpert Sarah Gibson explains the basics about the clitoris and clitoral stimulation.

These days thanks to the internet, sex education and… erm… movies, most guys know the whereabouts of the clitoris. But you just have to listen to Lily Allen’s latest track to realise that not everyone knows what to do with it! Below are some things that every man should know along with some tips for giving her the big O.

The Basics

Most of you will already be familiar with this but just in case… the clitoris is the female equivalent to the male penis. It has an abundance of nerve endings that make it the most erotically sensitive part of a woman’s body. For most women direct clitoral stimulation is the only way they will achieve orgasm. The clitoris increases in size and becomes ‘erect’ during sexual excitement – remind you of anything? But unlike the penis, after orgasm if stimulation is resumed multiple orgasms are possible.

Show and Tell

To make life more difficult for you, women differ in the way they like their clitoris to be stimulated! Read more

Try the Pelvic Slide Position for Maximum Clitoral Stimulation

Couple in BedMany women have a difficult time reaching orgasm during intercourse (if they are able to orgasm at all) because they don’t get sufficient clitoral stimulation. One thing that has helped a lot of women learn to be orgasmic during intercourse is experimenting with sex positions. Many women agree there’s no better sexual position for reaching climax than woman-on-top. The Pelvic Slide is a variation of the woman-on-top position that adds a sexual movement technique that facilitates clitoral orgasm. Continue reading

How to Stimulate the Most Sensitive Part of the Clitoris

Your Friday Pleasure Post at Exploring Intimacy tells where the most sensitive part of the clitoris is and how to stimulate it.

… There are tons of different techniques for stimulating a clitoris, far too many for me to put into one post. But what I will tell you now is that for most women the most sensitive part is the underside of her clit! Read more

Clitoral Stimulation Techniques

The clitoris really isn’t the mystery many claim it to be. Any man can make a woman orgasm with the right clitoral stimulation techniques. Isabella Snow at AskMen.com describes some tried and true clitoral stimulation techniques that will have your woman begging for mercy and so much more.

Stimulating the clitoris is a bit like giving someone a massage; it may feel fantastic at first, but if you don’t vary your technique the result can lead to numbness or pain, neither of which are conducive to driving your woman wild with ecstasy. When it comes to oral sex, many men believe a simple flick of the tongue will suffice — and it might, in the teasing phase. But, if you really want to rock her world, you should go above and beyond the standard clitoral stimulation techniques. The following clitoral stimulation techniques are tried and true; they’ll have your woman begging for mercy and so much more. Read more

Key to Your Clitoris' Pleasure

Suzie Heumann, founder of Tantra.com, says that 80 percent of women have the most sensitivity at one specific spot of the clitoris, and she goes on to explain how to use that knowledge.

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
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  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.