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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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8 Times Friends with Benefits Actually Works

Stefanie Faviochio says that friends with benefits relationshipd can work great if you follow eight rules.

“Friends with benefits” might be one of the most complicated relationships you could possibly get yourself into. This kind of relationship typically starts off really fun and convenient (a best friend who you can make out with? SCORE!) but almost always, someone ends up getting feelings which results in ruining the friendship all together. Buzz kill.

But FWB doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. In fact, it could actually work if you follow these 8 rules: Read more

The Science of Hook-ups: 5 Shocking Facts About One-Night Stands

Discover the surprising ways your brain (and a woman’s hips) play a role in casual sex encounters.

It’s a familiar scene: a thriving nightlife, a club or maybe a wine bar where glasses are clinking and singles are mingling before drifting off into the shadows — two by two. It’s not the perfect picture of romance, but when you’re caught up in the moment, a warm body feels like a fair substitute for love, right?

Hooking up is just a reality of the dating scene. But since when did the hookup scene become the place to find love? While you may think you’re just living the carefree single life, your brain is influencing your decisions more than you might want to admit. Read more

6 Sex Moves that Will Ruin Your Chances for a Second Lay

Things that a long-term partner might allow you to do in bed because she wants to please you are not always a good idea to try with a new woman. These six sex moves could ruin your chances for a return engagement.

Gettin’ down with someone new for the first time is exciting and nervewracking. There are so many decisions to make! Lights on or lights off? Do you get on top, or do you just park yourself on the bottom and hope for the best? Will it be evident that it’s been a minute? The thing about it, is that t once you do it, it really is like riding a bike. You never really forget, you just have to get back on the horse. Hooking up with a new person for the first time can be totally awesome. Sure, there are awkward moments as you figure out each other’s moves and tastes, but the sexual chemistry carries you through. But there are those other times when your new paramour’s behavior in the bedroom is inexcusable. We all have our limits. Dudes, take heed. Here are some sex dealbreakers that will definitely not get you another lay. Read more

Sex and One-Night Stands

Funny Girl Sex Guide dishes out about one-night stands.

The 5 Best Things About Having a Friend with Benefits

A friend-with-benefits relationship doesn’t have to be complicated and messy, says D.A. Wolf..

Do you believe that “friends with benefits” is purely no-strings sex? Do you consider it a phase that some women go through when they’re young, purposely avoiding a committed relationship?

Some of us believe that friends with benefits can be mutually enjoyable and perfectly suited to our needs – not just when we’re very young, and not as a matter of explicitly avoiding commitment. Read more

Why You Forget Your Hook-up’s Name After Sex

If you forget your hook-up’s name after sex, you may be suffering from transient global amnesia – which means it’s not your fault!

So, you met a cute guy or girl at a bar and things went well enough that you woke up next to this stranger the following morning, only to realize you forgot their name. Besides drinking, is there a scientific explanation on why you don’t remember a hookup’s name? Are you just really insensitive and shallow because you were more focused on bringing this person back to your place instead getting to know them? Or, is your brain tricking you? The answer could be the latter. Read more

6 Rules for Friends with Benefits Relationships

Funny Girl Sex Guide discusses sir Rules for participating in a ‘rriends with benefits relationship.

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