About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How To Turn a One-Night Stand Into a Regular Booty Call

Danielle Page reveals how to turn a one-night stand into a regular booty call.

Booty calls are the lazy man’s one-night stand. And that goes doubly if you’re able to find a girl who’s willing to be your regular go-to. For starters, booty calls are more reliable — and definitely involve less work. They’re also easier on your wallet — assuming you’re being a gentleman and buying your target a drink. Not to mention how time efficient the whole booty call process can be, when done right. Instead of chatting up a girl for hours at the bar only to have her turn down your offer to come back to your place, your booty call is, ideally, ready and able. Read more

7 Sex Positions That Involve Minimal Eye Contact

Whether it’s a one-night stands or hooking up with an ex, here are seven sex positions that involved minimal eye contact.

There are about as many different sex positions as there are flavors of ice cream. Sometimes you’re all about the ones that make you feel closer together as a couple. Other times—like when you’ve brought home the bartender you keep flirting with, or you ran into your emotionally stunted ex who has a magical vagina—they feel too intimate. There’s nothing wrong with doing lovey-dovey sex positions, but depending on the situation, that might be the last thing you want. In those moments, try these. Read more

6 Tips for Having Casual Sex

Casual sex isn’t just for sluts anymore. Maura Kelly gives six tips for how to have casual sex.

Lovelies:

Over the weekend, I spent some time with my dear friend Jack, a frequent contributor to Nerve.com, where he writes the column “I Did It for Science.” Jack is absolutely frighteningly brilliant–or at least, I’m always half-terrified, when I’m with him, that I won’t be able to keep up: He has a B.A. from Brown and a Ph.D. in Medieval Literature from Duke. And yet, he’s no geek: When he talks, you’re mesmerized by the stories he tells, amazed by the books he waxes so eloquent about it, and laughing at the jokes he’s always making. Plus, he’s so rakishly handsome–with a thick swirl of ginger hair, a toothy smile, and high cheekbones–that I always have a moment of elevated heart-beating when I first see him again. As if all that weren’t fantastic enough, he is a huge sweetheart: in addition to being attentive and sweet when we’re hanging out, he also goes out of his way to help me in any way he can. Read more

How to Have a Nooner

If you want to get lucky on your lunch break, Danielle Page gives six tips to make it happen.

You could use your lunch hour to grab some food, take a stroll and run a few errands. Or, you could utilize those sixty minutes to their full potential and plan a steamy shag session instead.

You’re probably thinking: Won’t my boss know? What if I don’t make it back on time? Do I have to go all the way home to make this happen? Where can I get away with doing it in public? Read more

Casual Sex: 10 Steps to Getting It Right

Casual sex can range from great to disappointing to awful (just like sex in a relationship), but you have a better chance of getting it right if you follow these ten steps suggested by Em & Lo.

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!)

In fact, this is one of the reasons why the two of us often refer to casual sex as recreational sex instead — or rec sex for short. It’s a kinder, gentler term, making us think of sex on a picnic blanket — as opposed to the term casual, which makes us think of people being sloppy-drunk and mean.

Here are ten steps to getting recreational sex right: Read more

10 Tips for the Best Casual Sex Ever

Em & Lo offer ten tips for the best casual sex ever.

At least half of all problems associated with casual sex can be traced back to its name: People think that “casual” means the sex takes no thought and fits as comfortably as sweatpants. But the truth is, you have to date for years before sex gets like that. (Monogamy does have a few benefits, after all!)

In fact, this is one of the reasons why the two of us often refer to casual sex as recreational sex instead — or rec sex for short. It’s a kinder, gentler term, making us think of sex on a picnic blanket — as opposed to the term casual, which makes us think of people being sloppy-drunk and mean.

Here are ten steps to getting recreational sex right: Read more

4 Steps to a Hotter Hook-Up

Pull off the perfect hook-up with these smart strategies from Debby Herbenick, Ph,D.

Casual sex may seem simple on the surface, but a truly great hookup requires some serious thought. Watch this video from Men’s Health Sex Professor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., and discover the strategies you need to pull off your hottest hookup ever.  Watch video

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