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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How To Turn a One-Night Stand Into a Regular Booty Call

Danielle Page reveals how to turn a one-night stand into a regular booty call.

Booty calls are the lazy man’s one-night stand. And that goes doubly if you’re able to find a girl who’s willing to be your regular go-to. For starters, booty calls are more reliable — and definitely involve less work. They’re also easier on your wallet — assuming you’re being a gentleman and buying your target a drink. Not to mention how time efficient the whole booty call process can be, when done right. Instead of chatting up a girl for hours at the bar only to have her turn down your offer to come back to your place, your booty call is, ideally, ready and able. Read more

8 Ways to Avoid Waking Your Roommate during a Midnight Booty Call

Assuming that you don’t want him or her to join you, Jessica Wakeman reveals eight ways to avoid waking your roommate during a middle-of-the-night booty call.

We’ve all been guilty of it: the middle-of-the-night hookup that was so loud our roommates heard every bit of it. And possibly the neighbors, too. It’s not that we mean to interrupt anyone else’s beauty sleep, of course. It just happened. Er, loudly. But when you reach a certain age — like, say, when you’re old enough to be putting money into a 401K — you really have to cut that out. Your relationship with the person who has the ability who “accidentally” delete your entire TiVo queue depends upon it!

After the jump, eight ways to still have your middle-of-the-night booty call, but do it quietly. Read more

Booty Call or One Night Stand? Casual Sex Has Rules

When was the term casual sex ever used by the people having it? That quibble aside, I agree with Jocelyn Wentland that the different terms used to describe it have different meanings.

Casual sex isn’t just called casual sex any more.

A University of Ottawa researcher says young people have their own codes to describe sexual encounters outside of committed relationships.

Jocelyn Wentland, a doctoral student in experimental psychology, looked at the various types of casual-sex relationships among people aged 18 to 27 and how they are termed.

“We now have names to describe these things in ways that wasn’t the case say 20, 30 years ago,” Wentland said Thursday.

The four most popular terms used by those in the focus groups included “booty call,” “friends with benefits” and “one-night stand.” The remaining term has a profanity in it, but can be politely translated as “sex” buddy.

All the terms used to describe the encounters have subtle nuances of meaning, said Wentland. Read more

Does Getting More Than Sex from an FWB Relationship Make You a Prostitute?

Is getting more than sex from a “friends with benefits” sexual relationship a form of prostitution? I’m firmly on the “No” side of this debate!

The benefit of a FWB relationship is the sex. But for some the benefits include gifts, cash, and access to the friend’s credit cards and vehicles.

Does getting more from a no strings attached sexual relationship make you a prostitute? Some say no, while others say yes.

The no votes believe that accepting material benefits from their friend is simply that—accepting a gift. Just because you have sex with this person doesn’t mean you should feel like a hooker if they compensate you further. Read more

Science Reveals Secrets of the Booty Call

According to science, a booty-call is a compromise between a one-night stand and committed pairing.

Unbuttoning the science of casual sex, a new study investigates the emotional and physical nature of “booty-calls” to determine their rightful place in the carnal canon.

Through a battery of highly personal questions with some 200 people, 123 of whom had firsthand knowledge of booty-call arrangements (defined as non-long-term, non-romantic couplings for the purpose of sex), researchers established that these relationships fall somewhere between one-night stands and committed pairings, in both emotional engagement and diversity of behaviour between the sheets.

A coupling of convenience, the booty-call is ultimately summed up by researchers — no doubt controversially — as a compromise between women’s evolutionary desire for a steady partner and men’s evolutionary desire for steady sex. Read more

5 Rules of F-Friend Etiquette

As men and women become increasingly free to indulge in sexual relationships with fewer negative consequences, sex is now more casual than ever. However, if you want to preserve your casual relationship, don’t treat her like a slut. Sarah Stefanson at AskMen.com lays down five rules of f-friend etiquette.

Maintaining a successful f*ck-friend arrangement can be tricky, but the benefits are worth the effort. Being able to call on a girl you trust for some hot, noncommittal sex is a great thing indeed. However, once you’ve found the right girl, someone who is sexually adventurous and interested in unconventional relationships, how do you maintain the passion without making her feel used or slutty? What exactly is f-friend etiquette? Read on and we’ll inform you about this sometimes-slippery slope.

Give her advance notice on booty calls

You shouldn’t assume she’s available 24 hours a day whenever you want to get laid. Calling her at 2 a.m. as you stumble out of the bar is not the best idea. Read more

The 25 Rules of the Modern Booty Caller

Casual sex. Friends with benefits. Booty calls. Whatever the term, sex outside of a serious relationship is as popular as ever. That doesn’t mean that someone can’t get his or her feelings hurt, though, and, when that happens, it usually spells the end of the sexual relationship. Daily Bedpost lists “The 25 Rules of the Modern Booty Caller” to provide some guidelines for keeping both casual sex partners happy and satisfied.

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the exact same set of personal guidelines…  So let’s once and for all manage those expectations with The 25 Rules of the Modern Booty Caller: Read more

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