About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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The Two Moves That Make Fellatio Most Enjoyable

Performing fellatio on a maan is sometimes called “sucking him off.” Sucking is a major reason that blow jobs so enjoyable for men. Our mouths have the unique ability to create suction, or a vacuum effect. This is a sensation that will drive your partner wil, and bring him to orgasm again and again. Suction may be also the reason why many men prefer fellatio to sexual intercourse: A vagina can’t suck! You can only give a man the kind of pleasure that sucking provides with your mouth. You have two options for sucking: Continue reading

How to Give a Mind-Blowing Blow Job

Tara Babcock reveals how to give and receive a mind-blowing blow job.

Why Do Men Want Women to Swallow?

Sexpert Ducky Doolittle explains to a female reader why men want women to swallow.

Q: My partner wants me to swallow when I give him oral sex. What’s the appeal?

A: Some guys are very adamant about wanting their partners to swallow their ejaculate. Other guys just want their partner to do exactly what makes them feel most comfortable, swallow or not. And then other guys aren’t into seeing their partners swallow at all. Read more

Are Regular Blow Jobs the Key to a Happy Marriage?

Samara Rose says the key to a happy marriage is weekly (if not daily) blow jobs.

My friend and her husband are ending their marriage over the most banal of issues: sex.

“But Samara, your marriage didn’t work out. Should you be passing judgment?”

Shut your pie hole! My marriage didn’t end because I wouldn’t blow my husband!

They’re ending their marriage because they are “sexually incompatible.” He wants her to do certain things that she hasn’t done since they were dating. He’s angry that she’s being “withholding.” She’s angry that he’s a “sex addict.”

Essentially, they are ending their marriage over blow jobs.

I do not profess to be a sexpert. However, If I were to write a manual on how to have a successful marriage, I would name it, “Put Your Mouth On His Penis.” After all, the way to a man’s heart is through oral sex. Read more

Better Fellatio: How to Give a Hum Job

HummerUsing the same blow job  moves every time will quickly get boring to your partner, so it’s important that you vary your techniques. A hum job or “hummer” is a fellatio technique where you literally hum or moan while going down on a guy. Many women do this spontaneously or because they know that guys like it. The next step is to understand why guys like it, and to use that knowledge to make your blow jobs more pleasurable for your partner. Continue reading

5 Rules for Better Fellatio

BJAlthough women know that most men enjoy fellatio, a lot of women don’t feel confident giving it. That’s somewhat understandable. Women don’t automatically know what feels good to a man’s penis.  It takes some tria and error to find out what oral sex moves turns men on. Also, every man is a little different in his oral sex preferences. However, there are certain things that nearly every man likes, and it really has very little to do with techniques and tricks. What makes  a blow job enjoyable is less about what you do than it is how you do it. If you follow these five rules when giving fellatio, you partner is almost certain to enjoy your blow job. Continue reading

The 9 Biggest Myths About Fellatio

Frank Kobola reveals the nine biggest misconceptions about blow jobs.

Everyone has questions about blow jobs, so I called up Dr. Benjamin Brucker, an assistant professor of urology at NYU Langone Medical Center in New York, to help me myth-bust the biggest misconceptions about blow jobs. Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.