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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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BDSM

Choking as a Sex Move: Is It for You?

As BDSM moves into the maainstream, more people are trying choking as a sex move. Is it for you?

If blindfolds and role play have veered into vanilla territory for you and your partner, there are still plenty of sex moves that are considered extra freaky. Like choking.

Sure, it sounds intense, but experimenting with breath control, or scarfing (using a scarf to constrict breathing), can be an exhilarating experience for some people. Here’s everything you need to know about it before getting started: Read more

How to Get a Man to Dominate You in Bed

A reader asks porn star James Deen for tips on getting her boyfriend to dominate her in bed.

Any tips on getting someone to unleash and act more dominate during sex? I want my boyfriend to fuck like you, but I don’t think showing him your work and saying “be more like him” is a good idea. Read more

A Little Rough Sex?

Sarah Rae Vargas gives tips on how to explore BDSM without doing anything too painful or scary.

4 BDSM Relationship Tips for Beginners

Elizabeth Mitchell gives four BDSM relationship tips for beginners.

So you devoured all three Fifty Shades of Grey books, and now you think you might be interested in a BDSM relationship yourself? Before you go out and find your very own Christian Grey, peep these tips to ensure your safety. Read more

Could Bondage Be Good for You?

Those who enjoy indulging in BDSM are psychologically healthier and happier than the general population, say Dutch researchers. Those who played the dominating role in sex games were deemed as the most mentally healthy and submissives the least, but none of the BDSM participants scored lower than the general population in psychological tests.

Some may think it is perverse, but enjoying the snap of the whip or the clink of chains on skin could make you more psychologically healthy than those who enjoy a more mundane sex life.

A study found that BDSM – bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism – enthusiasts scored better on a variety of personality and psychological tests compared to those who did not have sexual fetishes.

Experts say this is because those who enjoyed kinky sex were more extroverted, more open to new experiences and less neurotic. Read more

10 Ways to Have “Fifty Shades of Grey” Sex Tonight

Wishing your sex life was a little more exciting? Follow these moves inspired by Fifty Shades of Grey to add some oomph to your orgasm.

Fifty Shades of Grey has women talking—and thinking—a lot more about sex. But, it also has many of us feeling inferior. A recent Goodinbed.com poll found that 50 percent of people are bored in their relationships, and crave more sexual adventure. So how can you turn your love life into the stuff of fantasy literature, even if your idea of a “playroom” houses your kids’ toys? Read on for 10 moves you’ll want to try ASAP. Feel free to forward them to your guy to get his wheels spinning.. Read more

9 Naughty Sex Tips from “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Fifty Shades of Grey has been an introduction to BDSM for many readers and now a how-to manual based on the book has been published. Marisa Bennett excerpts some of its sex tips.

Fifty Shades of Grey, the erotica novel that just can’t seem to stay on a store shelf for long, has raised more than eyebrows this year. The books have been bought and devoured all over the country, leaving millions of readers hot, bothered, and… twiddling their thumbs? Fifty Shades has enlightened millions to the idea of BDSM, but lacks an instruction manual for those of us who want to do something about it. All the fun shouldn’t be left to characters in a book. Fifty Shades of Pleasure [Skyhorse Publishing, $12.95] is the new companion guide that lets readers experiment with their own spicy tricks.

This helpful how-to is a perfect beginner’s guide into the realm of kinky, naughty sex. Whether you want to get up close and personal with riding crops and studded spanking paddles, or just want some inspiration to keep your rendezvous from going stale, Fifty Shades of Pleasure is just the guide. Its witty, lighthearted tone makes it a great read, while simultaneously easing the bondage-curious into expanding his or her sexual repertoire.

Check out these nine hot tips taken from Fifty Shades of Pleasure, and make your own sex life a best-seller! Read more

Recent Comments

  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
  • Fox2: Not sure if commenting is working at the moment. Thanks but even though these positions will help maximise my...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: These positions help maximize what you have, whatever that is.
  • Fox: Would these positions help with a penis 4-4.5inches long and around 4inches around? Or do you need to be packing...
  • BOB: FUR
  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.