About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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My Lesbian Sex Ebook Has Been Published!

KissingDespite lesbians definitely being out of the closet, there are still not a lot of sex tip and sex advice for lesbians available. Apparently, women are supposed to automatically know how to make love to another woman, but that is just not the case. It’s true that a woman should be able to avoid some of the mistakes that men make. (You do know where the clitoris is and why it’s important.) You may have some tricks you’ve picked up from masturbation or previous lovers. That’s not enough, however, to satisfy your lover in bed night after night. Continue reading

Does Regular Anal Sex Stretch Out Your Sphincter?

Sex therapist Ian Kerner says not to worry, but to be on the safe side, do your Kegels

Whether you’ve tried it or are simply curious about it (or do it all the damn time), the mechanics of anal sex can be…mysterious. Perhaps the biggest question of all: Can backdoor sex do permanent damage to your butt?

That’s a legit concern (because, hello, a very important bodily function happens in that area), so we asked New York City sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First to weigh in. Read more

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9 Things You Need to Know About Anal Sex

If you are interested in trying anal sex, sex experts share nine things you need to know beforehand.

Anal sex may seem taboo, but behind closed doors, plenty of women have tried it: According to a survey published in a 2015 issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, more than 1 in 3 women ages 19 to 44 has tried it at least once. That said, it’s probably not a regular Saturday night thing. But one thing’s clear: Whether you’re curious or a connoisseur, anal sex has become mainstream enough that it’s worth taking time to discuss what to know, what to avoid, and the how-to’s needed to make the experience amazing. Here, sex experts share what you need to know if you’re interested in trying it out. Read more

5 Reasons Men Want to Try Anal Sex

If you’re a woman who doesn’t understand why your boyfriend or husband wants to put his penis into your butt instead of your vagina,  Frank Kobola reveals five reasons that men want to try anal sex.

If I had a nickel for the number of times someone has approached me on the street, grabbed me by the shoulders, and shouted, “FRANK! WHY ARE STRAIGHT MEN SO FIXATED ON ANAL SEX!?!” I wouldn’t have any nickels. Primarily because people don’t ever recognize me on the street, and also because that’s a strange question to lead with. But the point still stands that there’s a male obsession with the butt hole that women, especially women who aren’t into anal stimulation, don’t understand. Here’s why guys are so into it. Read more

 

15 Thoughts Men Have During Anal Sex

So, is this really what men think about anal sex?

Ever wonder what goes through his head (no, not that one) when he’s reaching for the backdoor?  Well, we talked to some guys and found out their thought processes!  Let’s take a look below. Read more

Which Women Are Most Likely to Have Anal Sex?

Finding a woman willing to try anal sex is not totally a roll of the dice, according to a study. There are indicators.

There are plenty of misconceptions out there about anal sex, but the biggest one might be that nobody’s having it: According to the results of a new study, at least one in three straight women in the U.S. has tried anal at some point in her life. Read more

Women Who Have Anal Sex More Likely to Orgasm

Women who have anal sex are more likely to orgasm, according to data from the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior.

Why Is This Important?

Because this may be a data-driven excuse to play the back nine.

Long Story Short

In describing the “gender orgasm gap,” which analyzes the percentage of men and women who orgasm during various sex acts, FiveThirtyEight found a curious outlier: Women were far and away more likely to achieve orgasm during anal sex than any other sex act. Read more

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