About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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7 Anal Sex Beginner Tips

If you’re thinking of trying anal sex for the first time (or tried it and didn’t like it), here are seven tips for beginners.

Let’s just get this out of the way: anal sex is a major league sex move. It is not for rookies. Despite what you might have heard from friends, your partner, or seen on the internet, anal penetration is not something all people enjoy (which, as it turns out, is true of all sex acts ever). But if you’re thinking about taking the plunge, there are a few anal sex tips for beginners that should, quite frankly, be plastered on looseleaf paper all around town so everyone can get on the same page before they start. Read more

6 Easy Steps to Maximize Your Backdoor Pleasure

Emily Morse used to keep her backdoor closed, but she has since found that anal sex can be enjoyable if you follow six easy steps.

I used to be one of those “backdoor closed” ladies, shooting suspicious eyes at any friend who claimed to like anal sex. Who was she trying to fool? I had my own fears and worries that prevented me from trying it. It took several years, plus a couple positive backdoor experiences, to show me that anal sex really can be enjoyable.

There is a key to maximizing the pleasure, though. Here are six things to do that will help up the feel-good factor for you: Read more

How to Enjoy Anal Sex

AnalIf you’re feeling like one day you woke up and suddenly it was all about anal, you’re not alone. The question is, can women enjoy anal sex? Thankfully, the answer is yes! Many women love it and even prefer it to vaginal sex, experiencing more intense, full body orgasms with anal. Anal sex is not for everyone but if you have tried it once, maybe twice before, with painful results, you may not have taken the full necessary measures to prepare the body. So how do you learn how to have anal sex properly and get some of that pleasure for yourself?

When beginning anal sex, your body cannot be at its most relaxed when your mind is not at ease. Enjoy an erotic shower with your partner beforehand and get squeaky clean everywhere. It also should go without saying that a pre-sex bowel movement is essential. When it’s not possible to go on command, over-the-counter enemas are a popular and effective way to ensure your peace of mind. Continue reading

My Anal Sex Ebook Has Been Published!

Anal SexI have been writing about sex and relationships at Sex Secrets since 2007, and from the beginning, anal sex has been the most popular topic. One of my anal sex posts has over one million page views! That may be why Cosmopolitan magazine asked me to write an article about anal sex.

I have been having anal sex since I was seventeen years old. I am now twenty-nine, so I do have many years experience behind me (so to speak).. Unlike many so-called experts, I have had actual first-hand experience of what I am writing about..I have finally decided to put that knowledge into an ebook. Anal Sex Secrets: A Guide to Great Anal Sex is the result.

This book is both for anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try.

Here are just a FEW of the things you’ll learn: Continue reading

5 Ways to Make Anal Sex Better for HIM

Belly DownAnal sex is enjoyable for men because the tight anal sphincter rings provide strong sensations to a thrusting penis, but that doesn’t mean that women can’t do things to make it more enjoyable. Although the man does all the ‘bumping and the grinding,” it’s the woman who makes the experience fun. Many women have anal sex primarily to reward their men or make them happy, so here are five ways for women to make anal sex better for their partners. Continue reading

5 Ways to Make Anal Sex Better for Her

Satisfied CoupleAnal sex is enjoyable for men because the tight anal sphincter rings provide strong sensations to a thrusting penis. However, there is more to anal sex than just “in and out.”  If anal sex is not enjoyable to your partner, she is not going to want to do it in the future. There are several things you can do to make anal sex better for her so that she can enjoy it too. Continue reading

3 MORE Advanced Anal Sex Techniques

Anal sex is not everyone’s favorite sex act, but it is certainly high on the list for many couples and can be a fun change of pace for almost anyone who isn’t bothered too much by the taboos against it. Just the idea of anal sex can be exciting to beginners. However, after awhile, even anal sex can become routine. That’s why I wrote 5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques – to give couples some ideas they could try once they were no longer anal sex beginners. Since then, I’ve discovered three more techniques that you might find fun and exciting, too. Continue reading

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