About Me

I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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How to Enjoy Anal Sex

AnalIf you’re feeling like one day you woke up and suddenly it was all about anal, you’re not alone. The question is, can women enjoy anal sex? Thankfully, the answer is yes! Many women love it and even prefer it to vaginal sex, experiencing more intense, full body orgasms with anal. Anal sex is not for everyone but if you have tried it once, maybe twice before, with painful results, you may not have taken the full necessary measures to prepare the body. So how do you learn how to have anal sex properly and get some of that pleasure for yourself?

When beginning anal sex, your body cannot be at its most relaxed when your mind is not at ease. Enjoy an erotic shower with your partner beforehand and get squeaky clean everywhere. It also should go without saying that a pre-sex bowel movement is essential. When it’s not possible to go on command, over-the-counter enemas are a popular and effective way to ensure your peace of mind. Continue reading

My Anal Sex Ebook Has Been Published!

Anal SexI have been writing about sex and relationships at Sex Secrets since 2007, and from the beginning, anal sex has been the most popular topic. One of my anal sex posts has over one million page views! That may be why Cosmopolitan magazine asked me to write an article about anal sex.

I have been having anal sex since I was seventeen years old. I am now twenty-nine, so I do have many years experience behind me (so to speak).. Unlike many so-called experts, I have had actual first-hand experience of what I am writing about..I have finally decided to put that knowledge into an ebook. Anal Sex Secrets: A Guide to Great Anal Sex is the result.

This book is both for anal sex beginners and for couples who are searching for new things to try.

Here are just a FEW of the things you’ll learn: Continue reading

3 MORE Advanced Anal Sex Techniques

Anal sex is not everyone’s favorite sex act, but it is certainly high on the list for many couples and can be a fun change of pace for almost anyone who isn’t bothered too much by the taboos against it. Just the idea of anal sex can be exciting to beginners. However, after awhile, even anal sex can become routine. That’s why I wrote 5 Advanced Anal Sex Techniques – to give couples some ideas they could try once they were no longer anal sex beginners. Since then, I’ve discovered three more techniques that you might find fun and exciting, too. Continue reading

Best Positions for Anal Sex

So, you’ve finally gotten your woman to let you try anal sex. Heaven gives you the inside tips on how to make this experience and every other experience after as enjoyable as you can imagine. (BTW, the first time doesn’t have to be terribly painful if you follow the 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex.)

5 Anal Sex Dos and Don’ts

Adult webmaster Sarah Gibson says,  “Done right, anal sex can feel amazing.” She gives five anal sex dos and don’ts to keep in mind so that both of you enjoy the experience  enough to want to do it again. For more about how to do it right, see my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex.

Anal sex; people are really doing it. Believe it or not, it is a regular feature in some kiwi bedrooms, and it’s certainly not the sexual taboo that it once was. If you’re curious about experimenting with ‘the backdoor’ then these dos and don’ts should help you and your partner on your way.


Don’t force it
Never hurry or force anal sex. Strictly speaking, the anus was not designed for penetration, so things may be a little uncomfortable for your partner at first. Let her call the shots on how hard, how deep and how fast your movements should be; and if she says stop, not matter how good it may feel, you need to stop immediately. If you want anal sex more than once then you are going to need to take it slowly at first.  Read more

6 Anal Sex Dos and Don’ts

Sarah Stefanson discusses six anal sex dos and don’ts to keep in mind so that both of you enjoy the experience (and want to do it again). For more about how to do it, see my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex.

While certainly not as taboo as it has been in the past, anal sex is still a little outside the norm in the average bedroom. Strictly speaking, the anus was not designed for penetration, but when done right, butt play can feel pretty amazing. If you’re planning on putting anal on the sexual menu with your girlfriend, there are a few dos and don’ts to keep in mind so that both of you enjoy it. Read more

Lubricants: The Most Essential Sexual Aid

Personal lubricants serve  to reduce friction with the penis, vagina, anus, or other body parts during sexual acts. Using a quality personal lubricant can also make your sexual experience much more enjoyable. Buzzle.com tells you everything you need to know about personal lubricants.

As more and more people are finding ways to make their sex lives better, the demand for lubricants is increasing. Lubricants have become more commonplace as the use of sex toys has become more popular. People now understand the value of lubricants and no longer consider lube as an add-on to sex, but as a sex essential.

What are lubricants?

Lubricants or lubes are available in a variety of materials and in a constituency of flavours. Some lubricants come with special ingredients that warm or cool on touch. The main purpose of these lubricants is to make sex more enjoyable and friction-free. Lubricants also help women suffering from painful conditions such as vaginal dryness.

Is lubricant a necessity or a novelty?

There is a consistent debate amongst people about lubricants. While the old school of thought is that lubricant is a novelty or a marketing gimmick, some people are more receptive about lubricants and consider them a necessity. Some people think that lubricants are only meant for people who are involved in rough sex or for women who have medical conditions such as vaginal dryness. You only have to use lubricants once to decide whether lubricant is a necessity or a novelty. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.