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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Analingus: Oral Anal Play

anal playAnalingus or rimming is the act of performing oral sex of the anal area. Analingus is not a common sexual practice even today, but times are changing. If you are curious and open to new adventures, analingus can bring you a multitude of wonderful sensations and is also an excellent warm-up for anal sex. The anus is lined with many sensitive nerve endings, so when these are stimulated by the touch of a warm, wet tongue, the result can be quite pleasurable. The key to enjoying these new sensations is to get over any inhibitions and embrace analingus as an incredibly sensual and intimate act between lovers.
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Anal Play for Beginners

Anal sexOnce considered taboo, attitudes towards anal play have relaxed in the last two or three decades. Research shows that more and more people are enjoying anal play. In the US, a 2002 survey showed that 40% of men and 35% of women had tried anal sex with an opposite sex partner. If you’re new to anal play, anal fingering is the best way to start experiencing anal pleasure. Follow these four steps to ensure a fun and pleasurable first-time experience.
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Anal Play for Women

Jaiya gives tips for how women can have great anal stimulation and pleasure.

Anal Play: Christians Can Like It, Too!

Anal play isn’t just for heathens; according to Christian Nymphos, Christians can like it, too!

When we got married, I told my husband that I loved attention at the back door during sex. I had never had sex with anyone else, but I knew that I was an anal type of girl. I knew from the time I was a teen, that I liked anal play. I noticed that my orgasms were stronger when I would caress that area or insert something just prior to climaxing. I would incorporate it into my masturbating. My husband has been very accommodating to me, and our sex life has been wonderful! I have decided to write a little about anal play, from my perspective.

Anal play includes a lot of things. One of the best things that I like to receive is my husband’s finger (I’ll talk about what I like to give in my article on rimming. Read more

Ten Rules of Anal Sex

Jack Morin, PhD, author of Anal Pleasure & Health: A Guide for Men and Women, lists ten rules of anal sex. Once you learned the rules, my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex will guide you to to a pleasurable anal sex experience.

Anal Eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women – straight, gay and bisexual – are experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. Thirty-five years ago, Kinsey stated that the anal region had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47 percent of the men and 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal intercourse.

Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex.

1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.

There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or stimulating a partner’s anus during intercourse or oral sex.

Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger – their own or a lover’s – insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including hetereosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.

Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. [See my post Analingus: The Dark Kiss.] The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way. Read more

How to Make Her Want Anal Sex

CoupleDo you want to have anal sex with your wife or girlfriend, but are uncertain about her reaction? Many women are curious about anal sex, but are scared about comfort and safety issues. Some women who are unwilling to try anal sex with their current partner may have had a bad experience with an impatient or ignorant lover in the past. That’s why I don’t recommend asking a woman for anal sex without some careful preparation. Instead of asking her to try anal sex, it’s better to make her want anal sex. Continue reading

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