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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Women Have More Sexual Partners than Men

More and more women seem to be enjoying one-night stands, vacation flings, and booty calls, and a new study confirms that women are now far more promiscuous than men.

… Young women are becoming more promiscuous, with more sexual partners than men, researchers have found.

By the age of 21 they have had sex with an average of nine lovers – two more than their male partner.

And a quarter have slept with more than ten partners in the five years since losing their virginity – compared with a fifth of young men. Read more

Ten Rules of Anal Sex

Jack Morin, PhD, author of Anal Pleasure & Health: A Guide for Men and Women, lists ten rules of anal sex. Once you learned the rules, my post 10 Steps to Great First-Time Anal Sex will guide you to to a pleasurable anal sex experience.

Anal Eroticism is surrounded by a powerful taboo. Yet millions of men and women – straight, gay and bisexual – are experimenting with anal sex. The anus, richly endowed with nerve endings and interconnected with the main pelvic muscles, is the closest erogenous neighbor of the genitals and contracts rhythmically during orgasm. Thirty-five years ago, Kinsey stated that the anal region had erotic significance for about half of the population. In a survey of 100,000 Playboy readers, 47 percent of the men and 61 percent of the women admitted to having tried anal intercourse.

Yet the anal taboo inhibits most people from thinking, talking and learning about the sexual use of the anus. Listed here are the ten things most men and women still do not know about anal sex.

1. Anal intercourse is the least practiced form of anal sex.

There are many ways to enjoy the anus erotically. The most common techniques include touching the anal opening while masturbating or stimulating a partner’s anus during intercourse or oral sex.

Some people enjoy the sensation of a finger – their own or a lover’s – insinuated into their anal opening and gently rotated. Others may prefer the insertion of a dildo or vibrator beyond the anal opening and short anal canal into the larger rectum. Many men, including hetereosexuals, prefer this form of penetration.

Oral-anal lovemaking is popularly known as rimming. [See my post Analingus: The Dark Kiss.] The very idea disgusts some people. Others enjoy performing it or allowing themselves to be probed in this special way. Read more

Sex Survey: Women Dislike One-Night Stands

A new study from Durham University suggests that women generally do not like one-night stands, and that quality is more important than quantity.

Women have not adapted to casual sex, according to a Durham University study.
More than half the women interviewed for the survey said they had negative feelings about one night stands.

Professor Anne Campbell from Durham University said the negative feelings reported by women after one-night stands suggest they are not well-adapted to fleeting sexual encounters. Read more

Cosmo Women No Longer Seek the Perfect Orgasm

Cosmopolitan editor editor Lorraine Candy says that readers are more interested in emotional stability. Apparently the latest readers have less partners than 30 years ago, and are less promiscuous.

… Buying and reading Cosmopolitan in 1972 was a big statement about the sort of woman you were. It was an accessory that confirmed that you were sassy and savvy. Subscribing to the magazine conferred a certain freedom, sexual liberation and disposition as a thoroughly modern woman on the reader.

The fact that up to half of the magazine contained advertisements for beauty products urging you to do everything the articles told you not to do didn’t seem to dampen its role as the bible for modern women which came in monthly instalments.

Now 30 years later the 463,000-circulation monthly is in line for a make-over according to editor Lorraine Candy who says that women today are looking for emotional stability rather than the perfect orgasm. Read more

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  • Svetlana Ivanova: Depends on the woman.
  • Fox2: Would that be most probably wouldn’t feel it? I have seen you say elsewhere that less than 5″ means...
  • Svetlana Ivanova: Some may, but most probably won’t. For some women in long-term relationships, penetration is...
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  • Svetlana Ivanova: If a woman doesn’t want to please the man she’s with, she’s with the wrong man.
  • Jane Doe: This article not only implies that all men want submissive partners, it tells women to take on a persona....
  • Svetlana Ivanova: It isn’t misogynistic at all. It’s realistic and sex-positive.