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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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4 Tips for Being on the Bottom

Missionary position is the most popular sex position, so Tara Block gives four tips for enjoying it even more.

So I’ve given you some tips for being on the top, but good old missionary position (guy on top) is also a fan favorite! The guy being on top can give a man a real sense of control and dominance, which can be very arousing to a woman, but since you’re not doing much of the moving around, here are some tips to make being on the bottom more exciting. Read more

10 Tips to Make Married Sex Feel Like a One-Night Stand

Has your sex life gone into hibernation after marriage? Use these ten easy tips on how to make married sex feel like a one-night stand.

A marriage is a happy beginning to many things.

But when it comes to sex, a marriage can do more damage than good.

Of course, the first few months of a marriage after dating each other for years can still be fun. Read more

Study: Multiple Orgasm the Norm Not the Exception

How many times can YOU orgasm? A study found that 7 in 10 women can climax more than once during sex (and some reach orgasm twenty times in a session).

Doctors used to think that multiple orgasms were rare.

But new research proves the opposite. Seven in 10 women are able to climax numerous times with their partner.

In fact, hitting the big ‘O’ more than once during a steamy session is common in most relationships, a study shows. Read more

This Is When Women Fake Orgasm Most

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Chances are you’ve heard some faux moans, but why?

Is her big O all for show? Research suggests that most women fake orgasms at least some of the time, as we’ve reported in the past. Now, we confirm your nagging suspicions once again: 68 percent of women admitted to faking an orgasm in a new (unscientific) survey of 2,000 men and women from DrEd.com. Read more

9 Ways for Men to Last Longer in Bed

Premature ejaculation no fun for women (and embarrassing for men), so top sexologists reveal nine ways for men to last longer in bed..

For most guys, the bedroom is probably the one place you don’t want to finish first. Sex experts (and, we assume, you) agree that nothing makes a guy feel more insecure than coming up short when it matters most. So if you’re plagued by this sexual shortcoming, relax—there are numerous ways to boost your sexual endurance and last longer in bed. Read more

7 Sex Positions That Involve Minimal Eye Contact

Whether it’s a one-night stands or hooking up with an ex, here are seven sex positions that involved minimal eye contact.

There are about as many different sex positions as there are flavors of ice cream. Sometimes you’re all about the ones that make you feel closer together as a couple. Other times—like when you’ve brought home the bartender you keep flirting with, or you ran into your emotionally stunted ex who has a magical vagina—they feel too intimate. There’s nothing wrong with doing lovey-dovey sex positions, but depending on the situation, that might be the last thing you want. In those moments, try these. Read more

Orgasm Tips to Add to Your Sex Life

Close the orgasm gap with these tips you can add to your sex life now.

Here at Refinery29, we don’t believe that any approach to sex is one-size-fits-all. Different techniques work for different people (with different partners, and at different times). That said, we have collected quite a few tried-and-tested tips that sex therapists, sex toy experts, and sex-having people swear can help you reach orgasm (and maybe even orgasms). No, orgasm isn’t the be-all-end-all of sex, but it’s part of the gamut of sexual experience, and a pretty great one at that.

Unfortunately, the orgasm gap is alive and well, and far fewer women than men are reaching climax on a regular basis. It’s true that there are many reasons behind this inequity, from inadequate sex ed to continued, society-wide disregard for women’s sexual satisfaction. To the extent that you can take action to experience the pleasure you’d like, though, you deserve to. That’s why we’re collecting some of our best tips for achieving orgasm here. Click through to review some you may know and discover others you may not have heard, and check back as we continue to add to the list. Read more

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