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I came to the U.S. at age of 12 with my mother. We settled in sunny Florida, which was quite a contrast to Minsk. I have always been fascinated by sex and relationships. Sex Secrets is where I share sex advice, experiences, news, and sometimes a little humor. If you have a question about sex that you prefer not to post in the comments, you can email me at svetlanaivano(at)yahoo.com.

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Chances are you’ve heard some faux moans, but why?

Is her big O all for show? Research suggests that most women fake orgasms at least some of the time, as we’ve reported in the past. Now, we confirm your nagging suspicions once again: 68 percent of women admitted to faking an orgasm in a new (unscientific) survey of 2,000 men and women from DrEd.com. Read more

9 Ways for Men to Last Longer in Bed

Premature ejaculation no fun for women (and embarrassing for men), so top sexologists reveal nine ways for men to last longer in bed..

For most guys, the bedroom is probably the one place you don’t want to finish first. Sex experts (and, we assume, you) agree that nothing makes a guy feel more insecure than coming up short when it matters most. So if you’re plagued by this sexual shortcoming, relax—there are numerous ways to boost your sexual endurance and last longer in bed. Read more

7 Sex Positions That Involve Minimal Eye Contact

Whether it’s a one-night stands or hooking up with an ex, here are seven sex positions that involved minimal eye contact.

There are about as many different sex positions as there are flavors of ice cream. Sometimes you’re all about the ones that make you feel closer together as a couple. Other times—like when you’ve brought home the bartender you keep flirting with, or you ran into your emotionally stunted ex who has a magical vagina—they feel too intimate. There’s nothing wrong with doing lovey-dovey sex positions, but depending on the situation, that might be the last thing you want. In those moments, try these. Read more

Orgasm Tips to Add to Your Sex Life

Close the orgasm gap with these tips you can add to your sex life now.

Here at Refinery29, we don’t believe that any approach to sex is one-size-fits-all. Different techniques work for different people (with different partners, and at different times). That said, we have collected quite a few tried-and-tested tips that sex therapists, sex toy experts, and sex-having people swear can help you reach orgasm (and maybe even orgasms). No, orgasm isn’t the be-all-end-all of sex, but it’s part of the gamut of sexual experience, and a pretty great one at that.

Unfortunately, the orgasm gap is alive and well, and far fewer women than men are reaching climax on a regular basis. It’s true that there are many reasons behind this inequity, from inadequate sex ed to continued, society-wide disregard for women’s sexual satisfaction. To the extent that you can take action to experience the pleasure you’d like, though, you deserve to. That’s why we’re collecting some of our best tips for achieving orgasm here. Click through to review some you may know and discover others you may not have heard, and check back as we continue to add to the list. Read more

5 Ways to Fix Bad Sex

Your relationship doesn’t have to suffer because of bad sex. Mikayla gives five ways to go from bad sex to better sex, and even great sex.

Ugh.  Nothing is quite as disappointing as bad sex!  You have all this anticipation looking forward to this romance-novel type experience where the orgasms flow like rivers and soft music plays in the background while you and your lover roll around pleasing each other only to have the reality fall very, very short!  This could be simply bad “first time sex” or it could be something more regular.  Whichever it is, bad sex sucks!  So, how do you go from BAD sex to better and even GREAT sex?  Here are 5 quick tips! Read more

How to Become a Male Porn Star

Porn star Ryan Driller reveals how men can break into the business..

Apart from being a way to relieve stress, build endurance and, you know, have a nice time, watching some pornography might be more than just an illicit, harmless way to explore your fantasies — it could actually inspire a career change.

That being said, believe it when we say that every guy — and yep, from your brother to your old high school coach — has thought to himself, “Hmm, I wonder what it’s like to be a male porn star? And do I have what it takes to make it big?” (Pun intended.) Read more

16 Exotic Sex Positions You Need to Try

Natasha Ivanovic describes sixteen hot sex positions you need to try out.

Sometimes you need that extra spice and pizzazz in the bedroom. Vanilla sex is fine and dandy; however, it’s time to try some exotic sex positions.

Missionary is great, I mean, you can’t go wrong with this oldie but goodie. But there are some days where you just want to switch it up and try something out of the ordinary. And a few good exotic sex positions can take your sex life to a whole new level. Read more

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