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Older Men Should Have More Sex

Men tend to lose sexual desire as they age, but it doesn’t have to be that way.

The sex lives of men can seem like an Aesop’s fable. As years go by and sexual desire fades, men may stop mating with an enthusiasm akin to rabbits and become more like red foxes, lonely animals who make do with one brief breeding season each year.

The moral: Even if you’re a happy rabbit now, don’t take your sex life for granted. You could still turn into a fox.

This tale is a warning, not a law of nature. Men can take steps to protect their sexual desires and abilities throughout their lives, says Jim Pfaus, a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Concordia University in Montreal who studies the biology of libido. With some regular sex drive maintenance, “Our generation might keep having intercourse until we drop,” he says. “I hope so.”

There’s no biological reason why a man can’t carry a strong libido to his retirement party or even to his nursing home, according to David Rowland, sex expert and professor of psychology at Valparaiso University. “It’s a myth that sex drive always diminishes as men get older,” he says. “A lot of men in their 60s and 70s line up at the pharmacist’s office for Viagra.” Read more

6 Responses to Older Men Should Have More Sex

  • Jim says:

    Well, so far it’s a myth. I think I want sex now more than I did as an 18 year old. Probably twice as much!

  • BobF says:

    Well, at 60 my sex drive is at an all time high. Only problem is that I have difficulty finding willing partners because it seems most women I meet have little interest in sex (at least with me, ha!). So I tend to be the fox with a few furtive “breeding” events a year (if I’m lucky).

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    I think you must not be looking hard enough or in the right places. Many women your age are single and are hoping to find a man to have sex with again. You might try the online dating sites if you have trouble meeting enough women. Just don’t mention sex until after you meet them, unless they bring it up.

  • BobF says:

    Been there, done that (for a long time and a long list of women). I realize now, after numerous relationships, that I am better at being a friend than being a lover…or so it seems anyway. Always has been like that too going back to my much younger years.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    It sounds like a “friends with benefits” relationship would suit you perfectly.

  • Svetlana Ivanova says:

    In an FWB relationship, if either one of the friends is not having sex with someone else, too, the relationship inevitably transforms into something more for that person. IMO, that’s more likely to happen for the man because his sexual opportunities tend to be more limited. A woman can usually find someone else to have sex with if she wants.

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