My First (Surprise) MFM Threesome

Group sex is one of the most popular topics at Sex Secrets. My post The 3 Best Positions for MFM Threesomes ranks seventh all-time with over 12,000 page views. My only personal experience of group sex is with MFM threesomes. (I love being the center of attention, and I love double penetration.) However, my first MFM threesome – and double penetration – was memorable, not because of how good the sex was, but because it happened by surprise.

I started having sex when I was 15, but it wasn’t until my senior year of high school that I really started experimenting. One weekend, my boyfriend, his best friend, his girlfriend, and I decided we were going to do a foursome – but just having sex with our partners and watching the other couple. None of us had done anything like it before, but we were all into the idea. After downing most of a bottle of rum, any lingering inhibitions any of us may have had were gone.

It still started a little slowly, but soon we were happily screwing away and getting a great show watching each other. This went on for about fifteen minutes until my boyfriend’s friend said he had a surprise for me. (My boyfriend was in on it, by the way, since he’d just rolled me on top so that I was riding him) Before I or the other girl knew what was going on, the friend had pulled out of his girlfriend, slid over, and was halfway into my butt. I screamed – half from surprise, half from the sudden intensity. (I’d done anal twice before, but obviously never a double penetration like this.)

The other girl started yelling at her boyfriend for being in me, and how we never agreed to swap, etc. I was too stunned to say much at all and just let them do it to me. A couple of minutes later, I finally said something like, “Oh, my God, this is amazing,” and surprised everyone by really getting into it then.

The other girl was still really pissed, but quieted down when she saw how into it I was and how wildly the three of us were going at it by then. The boys, of course, loved it. The whole double penetration only lasted about five minutes before the guys both came, but it seemed longer to me.

We lay around talking for a bit, and about 45 minutes later the guys were ready to go again and doubled the other girl. She never got as wildly into as I did that time, but she had a great time with it, too.

We never repeated the experience. Even though I had enjoyed the sex, after sobering up, I felt betrayed by my boyfriend for cooking up this scheme with his friend and “sharing” me with him. I also wasn’t too happy about his “doing” the other girl. We broke up not long after that. It would be a couple of years before I had my second MFM threesome.

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62 Responses to “My First (Surprise) MFM Threesome”

  1. David James Says:

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  2. probitionate Says:

    Not that it surprised me, but your last paragraph had me in stitches.

    Isn’t it amazing how inconsistent people are when it comes to reconciling sexual pleasure with emotional insecurities…and what amounts to protecting home-turf.

    Great story, though.

  3. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I don’t think that dumping a guy because he schemed behind my back to trick me into a sex act with his friend reflects emotional insecurity – almost the opposite, in fact. I stood up for myself and refused to cling to a relationship in which I was used without my consent.

    Looking back, I’m rather proud of my younger self though I can’t believe that I was so naive as to think that the original plan was going to be followed, especially after alcohol worked its magic.

  4. probitionate Says:

    Hang on…

    You arranged a sex party. You and your bf get together with another couple to watch each other have sex.

    In the middle of it all, a sudden DP takes place.

    It shocks you…but then you get into it. “A couple of minutes later, I finally said something like, “Oh, my God, this is amazing,” and surprised everyone by really getting into it then.”

    “I also wasn’t too happy about his “doing” the other girl.”
    LMAO
    Come on! You’d just had a DP, loved it, and then you watch as the same thing unfolds with your friend…and you’re pissed?!?

    And you look at it all as ‘scheming’ on your bf’s part…how he betrayed you…and now you look back in pride, having ‘stood up for yourself’…

    Come on! You were a teenager. You were experimenting with sex. (Not just with him, but IN FRONT OF FRIENDS) And in retrospect, you’re couching it all in some kind of umbrage, as if it was a calamitous experience you somehow ‘survived’?!?

    Men want sex.
    Men want sex that’s freaky.
    TEENAGERS want it all even more than grownups.
    Why should any of this have been a surprise…moreover, in retrospect?

    I don’t mean to give you such a hard time…but I’m having a hard time swallowing your ‘tude on this sexblog.

    Maybe I just need more Cheerios.

  5. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Where did I say it was a “calamitous experience” that I somehow survived? You’re reading into it something different from what I said.

    My first MFM threesome wasn’t planned, and I was surprised by how much I enjoyed double penetration. However, even though the experience was exciting and eye-opening, upon reflection it seemed that my boyfriend’s loyalty was more to his friend than to me.

    Since I didn’t feel that I could trust him any longer, I dumped him. I’m proud of myself for not clinging to a relationship I was uncomfortable with out of fear of not having a boyfriend as so many girls (and women) do. That’s the story.

    Believe it or not, even as a 17-year-old, I knew that men wanted sex. So did I. Sex can be fun, exciting, and physically satisfying, but, in the end, it’s the relationships that make it fulfilling.

  6. IFuckAmy Says:

    Svetlana:
    Men want sex.
    But not all men want only sex.
    The best sex come between a man and a woman that have between them
    . total commitment
    . total honesty
    . total openness
    . total trust
    I found Amy. I place Amy’s happiness before mine.
    I’m working on the rest. It might just be my fantasy, but one would never get it unless one tries.

  7. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    “Men want sex.
    But not all men want only sex.”

    True, though if a man does only want sex and is honest and pleasant about it, that’s all right, too.

  8. IFuckAmy Says:

    Svetlana:
    That’s exactly what I profess: being ‘honest and pleasant about it’.

  9. IFuckAmy Says:

    Svetlana: Two questions, if I may.
    1. What exactly went through your mind after your bf flipped you over allowing his friend to rear end you. What made you decide to allow him continue?
    2. Please compare front/rear/double penetrations, as far as YOU are concerned. I have never rear ended Amy other than french kissing her rear and fingering her rim. I did not think Amy would actually enjoy being penetrated. She might agree to it for my pleasure, but I wouldn’t want that.

    The last question is very important to me.

  10. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    “Svetlana: Two questions, if I may.”

    1) What went through my mind was shock. Between that, being a little drunk, and being sandwiched between two guys, I didn’t know what else to do but to just let them do it to me. It was sort of weird and little painful right at first, but pretty soon it started to feel good.

    2) My post Anal Sex from a Female Perspective.should answer your second question.

  11. Kevin Says:

    Hi Svetlana,

    This is a great article! I have a few questions, though.

    1) Could you elaborate on how double penetration feels different/better for a woman than standard man/woman sex?

    2) Is it easier, harder or about the same for a woman to climax with double penetration or any other MFM activity? Do you know of any women who say that the extra male attention helps them reach orgasm but that it’s significantly more difficult otherwise?

    3) Have you tried double vaginal penetration and if so, how is it better/worse/different than vaginal/anal double penetration? What does it feel like for the lady? What positions do you recommend for it?

    4) In your experience does it matter that much what the sizes of the guys are as to your degree of enjoyment? Is DP more pleasurable with average-sized men? If it is ever painful for you, is it because the guys are too big, or too rough?

    5) What’s the longest double penetration you’ve experienced? (An estimate is fine.) Is it too intense to do for long periods for the girl, even if the guys have a lot of stamina?

    6) I get the sense that women don’t go around enthusiastically recommending to all their gal pals that they should definitely try MFM and DP (otherwise more of them would be doing it). How can we men help encourage the women in our lives to experiment with it without being pushy? How can we help them feel that it’s a fun, natural, classy, loving act rather than something only low-class perverts would try?

  12. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    “This is a great article! I have a few questions, though.”

    1) If you like to be filled up, and most women do, double penetration doubles the pleasure. Plus, having two male bodies pressing against you is exciting.

    2) About the same. The difference is in intensity – partly from being double penetrated and partly from the excitement of being with two men. Women who don’t have orgasms from intercourse tend not to be interested in DP.

    3) My rule is one per hole.

    4) Size matters in the same way that it does with single penetration. Pain is more likely to be caused by roughness and pounding than by size.

    5) My guess is about ten minutes. Long periods of thrusting in the same position would likely lead to soreness.

    6) The best way to encourage a woman to experiement with DP is the same strategy I recommend in How to Make Her Want Anal Sex. Let her experience the pleasure of DP with a finger or sex toy, and she may eventually want more. Many women have the fantasy of having sex with two men at once. You;re far more likely to have a problem with it than she.

  13. IFuckAmy Says:

    Dear Svetlana,

    Your reader Kevin asked very good questions. I wish I had done that.

    Can you elaborate on your answer 5) above – Is more than ten minutes OK if Amy’s anus is slow stroked and certainly no roughing?

    And, you are absolutely correct on 6) – I have a lot more problem sharing Amy with another man than Amy. My problem is not sharing Amy, but me having accidental contact with the other guy.

  14. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I don’t think ten minutes is necessarily a limit if well-lubricated, not being pounded, AND in a comfortable position.- just what I estimated my longest. DP has been.

  15. manly pointer Says:

    Re: Probitionate’s comment

    What your BF and his friend did was not cool… you (Svetlana) consented to a particular scenario. Without your consent, the other guy penetrated you. That’s basically rape. Even if you don’t feel that way (and it’s cool if you don’t, it’s your body) he and your BF were still total assholes for doing that. Glad you dumped them… and no, there is no reason why you should have expected it. If they wanted to change the situation that you had agreed to they should have asked your consent first. This was not a ‘sudden dp’ as Probitionate calls it. It was anal penetration without consent – aka Rape.

  16. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I didn’t think of it as rape because of who was involved, the situation, and the role of alcohol, but I was definitely disrespected.

  17. Paul Says:

    What has been your experience with DP since your DP cherry was popped? Do you have it often? Has the pleasure of it grown or diminished from the first time? What has been your most memorable DP other than your first one?

  18. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I’ll save my “most memorable DP” for a possible future blog post, Being double penetrated isn’t a regular activity, but I’ve done it often enough that I would have to stop and think to count the times. It never gets old, though.

  19. fozia butt Says:

    weldone baby . wish my boyfriend can do it with my husband

  20. IFuckAmy Says:

    Svetlana:
    I don’t mean to beat on a dead horse, but your comment “…my first MFM threesome – and double penetration – was memorable, not because of how good the sex was, but because it happened by surprise.” got me thinking about my ex gf Susie. Susie once confided to me that she wanted to “experience” a rape! I didn’t think it was a good idea and thought she probably meant MFM or something. Long story short, Susie and I broke up because Susie refused MFM I tried to arrange. What would happen if I were to force an MFM on Susie? Can you explain what’s really on Susie’s mind?

  21. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    No idea what was on Susie’s mind. She may not have known for sure herself. Sometimes fantasies are really just fantasies. We don’t always want to act them out for real.

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  23. Kevin Says:

    Hi Svetlana,

    In response to #6, this hasn’t been my experience at all. I would be more than eager to help a woman experiment with DP and MFM threesomes generally with another gentleman friend of her choosing. But when I have offered this to various ex-girlfriends, you’d be surprised at the negative responses, excuses and obstacles that get invented. Am I secretly gay/bi? Am I somehow unmasculine? Is this a way to barter for a FMF threesome (they don’t seem to believe it when I tell them it’s not)? Are the guys going to go postal and start fighting over her? Will I be angry with her afterward? Does it make her a slut if she beds two men? Will I still see her as a “good girl”? What happens on the remote chance she gets pregnant? Will it wreck our relationship like all the self-appointed relationship experts say? Et cetera. It’s just one scary hobgoblin after another.

    The problem in a nutshell is that most women seem to get more mileage out of controlling a relationship than they do out of enjoying it. They’re more than willing to forego upside if by doing so they can hedge away all possible downside. I have no idea what the fix to this is, or if one even exists.

    What you’re suggesting above is a way to make her curious about it via the enjoyable physical sensations of a finger or toy to get her thinking about what DP with two real men might be like. That’s a good start, but the real barrier in my experience is psychological more than it is physical. What would really help us guys is if you as a woman could give us insight into how to reassure the woman on an emotional level and get her to see it as a fun adventure rather than a scary, dangerous thing.

    I’ll add parenthetically that, while I understand your point of view about your ex-boyfriend basically tricking you into trying DP for the first time, the reason this happens is that we guys run into the problem I just described over and over and over with women, and have found through sad experience that if we stop to get verbal consent for everything, not much happens. It’s like asking a woman for permission to kiss her (bad, bad idea!). As a man, I often have to rely on my male intuition that the girl will very likely enjoy an experience if from her perspective it just happens somehow, but that if I ask first she’ll start playing the worrywart and will talk herself out of it, and miss out on some very pleasurable experiences. And so as guys we’re forced to just plunge ahead while trying to be a gentleman about it and stop if the woman objects too strenuously. It’s far from an ideal solution, but we don’t know what else to do. Either we’re a pushy jerk or else not a masculine, take-charge kind of guy — damned if we do, damned if we don’t. Believe me, we’d love it if women would help us find a better way. Any suggestions?

    Your ex-boyfriend probably didn’t handle the situation too well, but I think you should at least give him some credit for having an intuition that you’d enjoy DP if you tried it and contriving a way to make that happen. He already knew that you liked both vaginal and anal sex, and so he intuited that getting a buddy to help him combine the two would be twice the fun for you. He was right. Would it have happened if he’d asked first? Honestly? So far, my experience has been universally No, and I’ve run the experiment a number of times. Maybe you’re different than the average girl (and given that you’re hosting this site, I’d say that’s very likely), but it would help if you tried to understand what we guys are up against.

  24. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    It may seem that the choice is between being “a pushy jerk or else not a masculine, take-charge kind of guy,” but your approach of plunging “ahead while trying to be a gentleman about it” and stopping “if the woman objects too strenuously” sounds fine to me. Women want to be led – just not forced.

    Would I have consented to double penetration if I had been asked in advance? At that age, probably not. However, if I had been coaxed to do it after we had started drinking and having sex, I might have gone along even though the other girl probably would have objected.

    That’s where my boyfriend crossed the line:: he gave another boy permission to have me sexually. He didn’t have that right, nor did he consider the effect on his friend’s relationship. It was just basically selfish and inconsiderate.

  25. Dr. Pepper Says:

    Sounds like you’re one of the lucky women to experience a MFM but would agree the way it was introduced was wrong in your case.

    I myself am a confident straight male who’s had a half dozen MFM experiences over the years. I’ve introduced it to partners I was comfortable with and it’s been a hit each time around.

    Now married several years, my wife and I set aside a night now and then to include another friend into our kinky activities and have had a few great experiences. My advice to anyone trying to introduce an MFM experience is to approach it with confidence and style. Be sure to listen to her concerns, explain your confidence position, your trust, and set/protect expectations of both.

    If everyone is comfortable upon the situation developing, then have a few cocktails and let things happen. Tag teaming or sandwiching a woman is a very cool and giving experience.

  26. Stephan Says:

    I stumbled on your blog and am impressed by your openess and your unflinching attitude about sex. Your name looks to be Russian, my question is this, the few Russian women I have known and my friends have gotten to know have all seemed to be bisexual. Is this because the Russian male is such a brute that the females end up finding comfort in each other’s arms to cool off, or is it just that the Russian females are all basically nymphos and need a lot of sex? Sorry if this question seems a bit thick, but just wanted some perspective on this.

  27. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    I emigrated to the U.S. at age twelve, so I didn’t come of age in Belarus. My mother is neither bisexual nor a nymphomaniac, so she doesn’t fit into either of your profiles. By your own admission, your experience of Russian women is limited. The more Russian women you get to know, the greater range of sexual preferences you’ll encounter.

  28. untraceable Says:

    Swet Are u a prostitute and trying to sell yourself by saying amazing experiance or something ?

    How can you speak in the name of all women ? by saying all women dream …!?

    The point i have suprised that probably you dont have a BF if you would … if you have i suspect his chararectis as PIMP !

    When you have a child you can tell them how you have been fucked by two , your dream , imagination be sure they will proud of you !

  29. untraceable Says:

    because of people like you , all people looking the russian girls like a sex object ! you fucking idiot !

  30. untraceable Says:

    yes sweet mention about your stupid open minded story , pitty girl ! dont forget your husband ( ofcourse if you have one day ) to tell the how you have been fucked all , but the person who wants to story will be totally pimp , and you can get more money for him ? all u want is that money and funny with sex :) if you tell me the price i can pay for you also , you will not be regret :))))

    characterless !!!!

  31. untraceable Says:

    you are a ass giver :)

  32. untraceable Says:

    dont you have faith ? religion ? is virgin mary remind you something ? you will have the same pleasure while in fire in hell swetlana ? Panimaes ? when the doomsday came , you and people like who hasnt obey to rule of God and Prophet will have the endless punished but that will not help the last regret ,

  33. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Why does this bother you so much that you post five comments? Is an MFM threesome a fantasy that you have trouble repressing? Remember, reading my blog is entirely voluntary on your part.

  34. untraceable Says:

    Thats why I tell first of all ! you are writing here to have a sex just on 15 like a behaviour that you are proud of it !

    And even its wrong yes wrong because age 15 is a child age !!!
    Even its wrong you are adding your MFM expreiance or what ever you call here like a so normal routine everyday things ….

    No one can show the acceptable logic about that behaviors … ! if you dont have a pimp friend , every people has a jealousy feeling , even animals doent share their partner with another animals.

    But there is a diffrence you know between animals and humans , if a man doesnt see his girlfriend as a prostittue or just a material for sex doesnt share , men are more dangerous than animals swetlana ….

    Jealosy is a human nature , but i see that people has lost it all , today who shares his girlfriend with anothers (people says openminded but even openminded has limits) tomorrow share his wife and after try to have sexual intercourse with his daughter , that all comes because of illness brain and thinks …

    By writing all these things here you are creating a question mark on all the men and women ,its like `i did its great you can also` and i believe a lot of relation can effected at the negative side because of that !

    And all the man an women who supports or thinking to try , Are you really men ? Are you really human ? I advice you to look at the mirror for a sec ! But of course if you lost the all values in that life i am sorry nothing to do for you , just take refuge to the God.

    I remind you it doent matter any religion no one religion also support this !

    I wonder really `Have you ever asked yourself am i sex material or what ?!` Where is my feelings ? What is the diffrence to be human than animal ?

    God knows you would support also swingers , its coming to normal right ?

    God Cares you swetlana I am reall sorry for you , at this age you have lost everything mentality,faith and logic …

    I wish you would stay in belarus instead of immigratimg America … You could have a values and rules in your life , even in communism even now …

  35. rochelle Says:

    I havent read all the comments, but a lot of the objections and fault finding about your testimony is really just immaturity. Limited life experience, not recognizing distinctions, contexts and arm chair philosophy. Don’t try to defend yourself against people who just don’t get it, and won’t; there is an expression for situations you’ve been in continually in this specific section–’wisdom is justified of her children’. Ignore or don’t post comments from people who just don’t, won’t or can’t get it. It’s self evident what you meant and why you, as they called it, ‘contradicted’ yourself, if they don’t understand it immediately, a whole well thought out, well reasoned doctoral dissertation won’t do it either. They’ll only piss you off more. Know when to fight, defend and let it alone. This is you’re blog, you’re in control, simply don’t let posted what isn’t edifying,relevent and inteligently warrantable. Save your ammo. great site, great testimony. I learned a lot. Thankyou.

  36. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    You’re right, Rochelle, but you haven’t read the comments that I don’t pos lolt. My general philosophy is to post criticism if it’s somewhat coherent and not just name-calling. I take it on a case-by-case basis.

  37. steve Says:

    Svetlana, I am a straight married 41 y male, and I was somewhat “phobic” about the subject from the beginning. But it seems an inevitable truth – I now believe that a woman’s body (esp. her vagina, vulva) becomes more perfect shaped and more erotic feeling the minute she shares herself with another man. This can be a seperate affair, or in a MFM situation. The very “Vase Like” satin tube vagina feel is so much better. It is as if a woman was magically made for a sex life with two partners if she wants it. Exploring the mfm act with my wife (with my friend) turned out to be a very fun extreme for she and I as a couple. I do not believe most women can handle anything like that (worse than ffm) she could – I believe because she was young the first time she ever made love and her first time was with two boys.

  38. Lee111111 Says:

    We are a well to do family with grown up children in a south Asian country. My wife is smallish and very attractive for her fifty years of age and has the look of a young lady of thirty five or less.

    Few years ago, a tall young man just over half my age (60) started visiting our farm for business but has gradually become a family friend. He started it all by being very helpful to us. And, we accepted him as a friend and even helped him financially when his business faced problems. We had even gone on trips and holidays together at times with his wife and children as well. Neither he nor my wife gave the slightest indication that they had an affair. They were so discreet, it took me several years to find out the young man had been the secret lover of my beloved wife.

    I learned about their affair through a unanimous phone call. When inquired, both had denied it and continued the friendship as usual. After a while, my wife tried to avoid sex with me on various pretexts and started to behave lasciviously whenever the young man is around. I felt she is in love him.

    I was so furious and jealous, many heated arguments followed. I gave her the choice to choose either him or me but not both. It appeared as if she had given him up and the young man stopped visiting us. But I suspected they talk to each other over the phone and meet somewhere.

    So, I just couldn’t stop thinking about the sexy ways young man must have screwed my bellowed wife during all those years. On and off, my mind continued to criss-cross the ways he must have thrust his big penis tightly and deeply into her vagina, how they sucked each other in 69 position, and how he must have done it in doggy fashion.

    Whenever my mind engulfed with those hallucinations, I realised my cock is erecting hard and staying. Whenever I thought of her moans and she reaching her orgasm, I realised my penis tip is getting fully wet compelling me to masturbate. I started to enjoy hallucinating their sex play so much, I had to visualize the manner in which my wife had sex with the young man and the joy and the bliss she enthralled to stimulate myself to have sex with her. Imagining the young man is penetrating her while we are in 69 position and vice versa gave me an immense pleasure.

    After few weeks of these episodes, I desperately wanted to witness her enjoying and experiencing multiple orgasms for real. And I told her about it and proposed we have a threesome and perform the way I hallucinated with her lover.

    I expected her to be enthralled and boast about her sexual gratification with the young man. I expected her to tell me the wonderful fullness feeling she had when he penetrated her and the blissful orgasms and ecstasy she reached. which. I expected her to tell me she never had such experience before and therefore would love to have the threesome soon. I expected her to tell me that her love for him had been a lust to reach that bliss and nothing more.

    To my surprise, she rejected my proposition and denied having any relationship with him. But I kept telling her how wonderful for me to have sex with her and her young lover and watch her reaching orgasm.

    May be she wasn’t sure she would reach the bliss she had with him in a threesome or if I am around. I am trying to convince her that my desire and satisfaction is to watch her reaching not single orgasm but multiple orgasms. Can any of you help me?

  39. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    From your account, I am not sure that your wife had an affair with the young man, which would explain why she rejected your proposition. An anonymous phone call is not much evidence. They may have been seen together, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they were sexually involved.

  40. Rod Says:

    Me and my wife had the sex talk about size and her experience with bigger before me. She admitted she really loved it actually thicker than longer. So we got dildos and vibes a few monthes later we talked about letting her do the real thing. She at first said no and after letting her know I was going to be comforable with it she agreed. I had a friend growing up I knew was well endowed and known for it. My wife also was attrcted to him. tWe set up a date night and all went for drinks. After we went back to the house and I watched them kiss he undressed her. I watched her eyes as he lowered his pants she looked over to me nervous I just smiled. She began sucking him and she layed on her back her eyes oened really wide as his much thicker cock entered her. They had sex for a good 30 minutes he roled her over so she was on top. I then got behind her and began entering her anally she let out a squeek and her ass was allot tighter than usuall lol. I fucked her for about 10 minutes and blew my load my friend kept fucking her. I took a shower and came back they was still going at it. I joined them and entered her puussy it was so loose I was barly a fuck for her and she was stairing at my friend. I said can you give me a cock her she needs a BIG ONE my wife smiled and thanked me we do this as often as possible.

  41. Beatrice Says:

    HI Svetlana, this is such an excellent blog! I truly am thrilled and really relieved to finally find some great information on 3somes! I have been looking for a couple of days as we’ve decided to add another male to our equation. I love how youa re open and honest! Any suggestions adn ideas are truly welcome :) You can email me anytime and i’d love to hear your thoughts on etiquette and how to keep it relaxed the night off :)
    Love,
    Bea

  42. Steve Says:

    Hi Beatrice, I’d love to tell you some of my ideas, on things~! Etiquite, and things that make it feel right, setting that mood. Email me if you like, it would be much sweeter if I write it personalized and private for you~!

  43. Mike Says:

    The thought of another man penetrating my wife and spilling his seed inside her womb make me positively sick. I’d rather put a bullet in my head than watch a man fuck her. The same goes with her with me having another woman. We have never had a problem making and enjoying sex. Because our love for each other is strong and bonding so why go out side? Besides I beleive in marriage/monogamy and her body is my paradise on Earth.

  44. steve Says:

    Married – Innocent sex is truly a garden of love for a couple – beyond any concept of “sex for fun”. NO normal marrieds, nor any “normal” couple should ever experiment with the weird ravages of a love triangle of any sort. Threesomes do (as much as it is unpopular to say here) comprimise friendships, and “love”. Friendship love and real-love pivot around the concept of “I will do absolutely anything to never-ever hurt you”. Therefore, swinging is completely absurd any real “love” situation. It does, however, work out as a hobby, for sex perverts who have already experienced such weirdness earlier in their lives. And have the obsession that this is an itch which must be scratched.

  45. rod Says:

    Steve, I understand your akward feeling or morals against a love triangle. I feel no bad feelings toward your oppionion but thats what it is. Me nor my wife are perverts or wierd in any sence of the work.Our threesome began with my curiosity if my wife would enjoy a bigger cock. My wife did enjoy it and I loved watching her as well as joining in. Our choice to continue this was based on her desire as well as my own. We both enjoy this and have a healthy relationship for over 12yrs now. I still have sex with my wife every night how many “normal” married couples can say that! Our choice or my choice to share my wifes body and let her enjoy a big cock is part of our freedom of choice.

  46. LargeTazoTea Says:

    it’s great to see there are other people out there with the same experiences. i have been with my husband since high school and we have always had this amazing sexual chemistry. we still have regular sex almost daily. but we both wanted to spice things up. so this year we took it further and had a MFM 3some. for a while my husband had expressed wanting to watch me with another man, and i had wanted to try DP. i had reservations at first for all the normal reasons, but finally got used to the idea and agreed to it. he loved watching me and then joining in, and i loved it too! just like you said it’s great being the center of attention and i felt so sexy. i know my husband loves me and he knows i don’t want anyone else but him, so it works perfect. it turns me on so much that he gets so turned on by it. the only thing that i hate is i can’t talk about it with anyone, being married and all. so i am so happy about finding this site. thanks Svetlana!

  47. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    You’re more than welcome. Feel free to share your experiences and insights. More people than you know will benefit.

  48. Tina USA Says:

    Well I haven’t been on in awhile, I finally had my first second and third 3some lol. My experience was amazing with two wonderful people a husband and wife couple. It was also my first experience with a very well endowed man. Who is an expert lover who brought me to many blissfull orgasms. I had a previous encounter my first girl on girl with the wife before hand. I don’t know if that made it more comfortable but it felt very natural.Having a threesome is much more intense than anything I have ever experienced. I can see how people can become addicted to threesomes or group sex. The feeling of a lover capable of hitting those special spots is earth shattering. We also added the extended pleasure toys can add to sexuall pleasure. The intensity of vibes on your clit while being filled with a good man UMMM. The pleasure of more than two hands and two people kissing your lips and body. After you think it’s over you realise it’s only the begining. What your use to sex being a 10-15 minute love making session. turns into a weekend of totall full body and mind satisfaction. I love kissing cuddeling and being filled well the being filled is a new desire to be served lol. My experienced there are people who can enjoy it many hours. I watch and enjoyed this with a very loving couple willing to share this with me and am forever greatfull. I took your advice of going deep I found myself to be more capable than I thought. I had my new friend help me use her very interesting toy. It was a double sided we used togeather it was very long. I told her my desire to find my maxxed out depth a very intense and rewarding. It has a physical satisfaction with a mental reward of feeling powerfull and womenly. It’s hard to explain but its like a triumpant type thing.

  49. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    That’s fantastic, Tina! I’m glad everything went so great. Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope it inspires other women to seek more sexual satisfaction than they’re currently receiving.

  50. ThorsHammer Says:

    Hi Svetlana. I discovered your blog by accident and am thoroughly enraptured by your sexuality and openness. I have tried to convince my wife that I would really like to see her with another man. We have joint fantasies whereby there are as many as 3-4 men in addition to myself – and all of them 20-30 years younger than I am (52). She loves for me to ejaculate in her face and mouth – and hints at a bukkake. But whenever I mention making plans for actually following up our fantasies physically, she backs out. Personally, I would love to kneel between four legs and lick her clitoris while she rides another man, or 69ing with her while another takes her vagina or anus doggy. And yes, I do have bisexual fantasies that she is aware of. Do you have a suggestion of how I can get her to ‘take the plunge’? Thanks!

  51. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    Some fantasies are just fantasies and are not really meant to be experienced in real life. However, if you think she really wants to do it, keep trying to make plans. Many women are afraid that the relationship will change if other people are brought into the bedroom, so she needs to know that it won’t. I also recommend that she pick or approve the man or men.

  52. steve Says:

    ~ ThorsHammer! I can relate to your desires to see a lady in ‘rapture’ like this, I also share some of the bicurious desire to see over to the other side. However, if your wife says no, listen to no. I would personally (if it were me!) explore it with another couple, unmarrieds are even better. I never need contact with another guy. But seeing a girl in front of you sucking dick while you have sex with her for me it does add arousal to say the least. The best eating position with a couple while they do it is for the woman to spoon with him, and lie back on him, spread wide so you go down on her (rather than doggie). It feels better for her because she can expose her clit area to your face more. You can eat her out (or, lap her) while he thrusts – in a better way. Dont expose any more of your bi fantasies to your wife. Why? because she isnt accepting in that realm. Save it for a couple who is wants that from you. With wife, it could all easily backfire on you. I love getting as close to his as I can, without ever touching it.

  53. steve Says:

    …. Oh, another thing, if the couple you chose to be with – if the guy has a big dick, especially if it is wide and fairly long – it is really erotic to kiss a woman and hold her head while she sucks on a bigger one than yours. It is cool the way their lips stretch around it, if it is thick. Same during sex, if his dick is big, it just makes more pink pussy meat for you to eat, without touching his dick. The sound is like some sweet kinky (crackling) seafoam, as her pleasure cells are being stuffed with too much meat. milks her cum glands more. (dont tell this to your wife though~! hahaha)

  54. Arisimi Says:

    I was with my husband for 22 years and we never discussed anything like this…mainly because I had cheated on him so there were too many hurt feelings. We divorced a few years ago & I reunited with someone very special. Because of his situation we are not together, but we play often; nothing is taboo & I feel safe. I had been in a 3some with my girlfriend & her husband and it was fun, but *I* wanted to be “the middle”. When the subject came up with my playmate, he went on the prowl, but kept finding women…who flaked on us. He recently found a wonderful man that I’m very attracted to (and so is he), who is clean, sane and up for anything playmate & I do!
    It was set up, and after many rounds of oral between everyone,I was riding our friend (who has a HUGE cock!), when my playmate slipped in behind me…I wanted both of them in my sex, but playmate entered my ass…which was GREAT! It was intense & I melted down for a moment, then succumbed to the moment. It was over too fast & I can’t wait for it to happen again!

  55. David Says:

    Like others I wanted to watch my wife enjoy a huge cock so
    I asked her about a threesome. My wife was more than willing to try a threesome and a huge cock. Lets just say she really got into it, I kinda freeked out inside I didn’t say anything I just wasn’t expecting her to so easily take his size because it was so much bigger than mine and my wife is a petite little lady. I got over my shock to her abilities and reactions of enjoying it
    So much. I think I was just expecting it to be more difficult. It was fun and in the end I did enjoy it and I know she did.

  56. Ashley Says:

    I’m very petite myself lol I’m 5’2″ 115 lbs we have been enjoying the threesome life style for 13 years in October. My husband like you wanted to watch me pleased by his friends bigger cock. My husband is average to small in size ( 5 1/2″ long 5 1/4″ around) Jerry his friend is (9 1/2″ long and 6 3/4″ around). The size is enormously different and visually and obviously physically. I had mixed feeling fear lol of the pain but I was also extreamly excited and we didn’t just jump into things. Like your wife it did slide in but I was really excited and I’m sure your wife was too. Even an average cock will hurt or struggle to fit if your not excited from my experience. It’s hard to explain how or why it works this way, I’ve Sid it before the girls height and weight doesn’t determine how much she’s going to handle. I thought because before Jerry I had only been with average to small guys it would be difficult. I think girls can handle allot more than people think I’m just talking from my own experience. But I think the main thing is you both enjoyed it!!!!! Good luck

  57. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    A lot of people, including women, think that body size determines how big a penis a woman can handle when it’s actually arousal and lubrication.

  58. Pamela Says:

    My brother was home after serving a years in Afghanistan and came with me and my husband to a bar for drink after his home coming party. My brother is three years younger than me so he was always littler than me but he grew into a man. Taller and very well built having joined the marines his body was cut I couldn’t help but rub his arms. While playing darts my brother went to the restroom my husband laugh saying remember he’s your brother. Me and my husband had started swing for about two years I laugh and said I know my husband laugh saying maybe he would be into that. I laugh saying how my brother would freek out if her knew about our
    Swinger life style. My brother came back with a picture of beer, I said are you trying to get me drunk. My husband quickly said are you going to take advantage of my wife laughing . My brothers face was priceless as he said no she’s my sister, I laugh saying you don’t find me cute lol. My brother had a doe look on his face like a dumb marine lol huh I reached down and grabbed his cock. He jumped and asked what the hell was I doing I laugh saying calm down. I stopped harassing him. He eventually calmed down and we went back to our house. I was sitting between my brother and my husband on the couch watching TV. My brother said when we where growing up his friends always told him how hot I was, I knew he was getting horny. I said what about you. I was rubbing his thigh didn’t you think I was hot he rubbed his hand on mine and said yes. I could see his bulge and started rubbing it my husband a little fast on the draw pulled his pants off. My brother I could tell got nervous I unzipped his jeans telling him to relax. He said I’m not a fucking queer. My husband quickly said he wasn’t one either, I could tell my husband was nervous he didn’t want my little brother to beat the shit out of him lol. I pulled out my brothers cock and began sucking, it was much thicker than my husbands I quickly blurted out. Then realized it was a couple inches longer as well this did it for me as I began undressing. I dragged my brother to my bedroom and we got into the 69 position. At this point retreat was over. But to my surprise I felt my husbands cock entering me and my brothers tung was still licking my clit. It hit quick as I cam shaking like a leaf my brother was moving between my legs I could see my husband getting up off the floor. He sat next to us quietly on the bed my brother took no time he rammed his thick long cock into me. My husband later told me my brother pushed him across the room to get between my legs and fuck me. That full stretched feeling a girl loves OMG my brother was filling my needs. Luckily I
    Was on birth control as he cam inside of me several times that night. The morning he didn’t have any regrets as I awoke to him sliding into me. He was on leave for almost a month and never stopped wanting to fuck the sex addict thing runs in the family obviously. When he left he kept calling me and telling me he couldn’t wait to fuck again. My own brother was a stalker my husband was nervous he didn’t say it but my husband isn’t a fighter. My brother came home about 2 months later and well we fucked I didn’t want to say no honestly I enjoyed it.
    But I had to get him to realize this was just sex I’m not his girlfriend or lover. He gave me a funny look that made me nervous, then he said OMG I think my mind got carried away. He apologized I told him he should apologize to my husband for throwing him across the room. Everything was better after that but I don’t regret having sex with my brother I know its considered weird but to me it felt right.

  59. Svetlana Ivanova Says:

    A lot of people have surprising sex stories to tell.

  60. Ashley Says:

    Oh my that sounds very erotic lol, I have always had a crush on my dad. It’s funny how I hear about incest so often now. I use to think I was just crazy lol well I am a little crazy but its interesting to hear other who have acted out on their desires.

  61. Rod Says:

    I think communication is very important once you have decided to have a threesome. Making sure your open about what you expect during or even after a threesome. For me a very important part was being able to talk and ask questions. I had told my wife my friend cock was allot bigger than mine and wanted her to tell me in detail how it felt different than his. Before she said yes this part was something she struggled with and wasn’t comfortable with. She struggled with how it would effect me hearing if she enjoyed another man better. We talked allot about this it wasn’t something that happened over night lol. Also it wan’t something I just woke up one day and decided to try.
    It was something I had thought about for many years. I honestly wanted my friends cock to feel better I wanted my wife to enjoy him better.’I told my wife that I wanted her to completely let go and enjoy this not feeling uncomfortable. Like I said talking communication and mentally preparing before actually doing is vary important. Some may not want or care if there is a difference in size having a MFM. For me thats what it was about and my wife at the time didn’t care about that part being important. For her the wbiggest obstacle was how it was going to effect us and how I was going to react. Once my wife realized how much I wanted this and how I had thought this thru. She knew what I wanted out of it and that I wanted her to enjoy this and it was about her pleasure. She knew I was to the point of obsessed with this experience wanting it happen. But I didn’t pressure her I listen to her concerns and knew it would take time to gain her confidences and trust. My wife I knew liked the idea of doing this I think most women enjoy the idea of a MFM. But for the same reasons as I had to address with my wife they don’t have them. I still wonder why hearing my wife tell me how she enjoys my friends bigger cock better turns me on. I know it’s not normal most guys would DIE hearing that from a girlfriend and couldn’t famine it coming out of their wife’s mouth. I actually wanted my wife to be maxed out with pleasure even at the hands of another man. That’s me lol and I separate their pleasure and enjoy knowing my wife’s 100% satisfied.
    Before we had our threesome we had a few rules
    1. We are always together never alone other the other person.
    2. Wearing a condom
    3.no kissing
    When we had our threesome the first time we got caught up into the moment and forgot about the condom. After my wife had an orgasm from my friends huge cock. She began to French kiss him it was a very intimate and passionate kiss. So even thought seeing that and it may sound weird but it caused jealousy inside of me. I didn’t say anything and during that first weekend threesome they continued. After me and my wife talked about it. I was t mad and became comfortable with that aspect as this is a very passionate experience. So rule number4. For us and I feel should be everyone’s general rule.
    4. If any rule is broke NO ANGER OR HARD FEELS , well talk it thru and move on.

  62. Mike Says:

    So the guys were down for 45 minutes? That’s a long time for recharging

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