How to Turn Your Man into a Sex Genius
To some men, a woman’s body is a wonderland: they wonder where and how to touch you. Sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., explains how to teach your man how to turn you on without seeming to be critical of his lovemaking skills.
In my 10 years as a sex therapist and author, I’ve asked thousands of men where a woman’s clitoris is, and more than half of them believe (incorrectly!) that it’s located deep within the vagina.
That may not be a shock — chances are, you’ve been with a guy who couldn’t conceal his clitoral cluelessness. But you might wonder where the puzzlement stems from. Well, you can blame it on everything from tall tales told in locker rooms to ex-girlfriends who faked it to the boggling female body, with its small, sometimes hidden parts.
Even if a guy makes it into the vicinity of this important pleasure zone, he could still miss the mark because he is too nervous to really check you out down there or doesn’t get how to stroke you right. Or logistics, such as the room being too dark, prevent it. But if your man’s what I call ill-cliterate, don’t write him off as a lost cause — there are ways to school him gently on the techniques that cause your toes to curl. Read more